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Hi I'm Katie with Be Your Own Champion
and today I'm going to talk about being
your own the gatekeeper. So do you feel
like you're constantly being trampled on
or like people are crossing over what
you feel like is your boundary and
they're not respecting things about you
that maybe, you know, most of the
population would? So, I used to struggle
with this with a select a few people,
and I am here to tell you that you have
every right to draw your boundary,
whatever that is, you have the right to
draw that boundary. If somebody is making
you uncomfortable, it doesn't matter the
reason, but if someone is making you
uncomfortable and you are feeling a lot
of stress and anxiety associated with
this person because they're crossing
over into your personal space or, or
however you want to describe it, then you
have every right to draw that line where
you want it to be and not feel guilty
for it. I'm here to tell you that because
I feel like it's important to hear that
and to have somebody say that to you.
I am giving you permission to draw your
own boundaries or how you want them to
be and the reason why you have the right
to do that is because you are you! You
get to decide, you get to make the rules
about yourself and not feel guilty for
it because that is part of being a
person is you get to decide that and
only you can know where those boundaries
are and what is important to you to keep
sacred and what is important to you to
keep close to you. And let me tell you a
couple of stories with the names removed for
privacy purposes. So there have been a few
cases where somebody has crossed the
line that where they brought something
into my life that I was not okay with
being a part of my life.
Once I realized that line was being crossed and it went
into the realm of this is not okay for
me I'm not okay with this - all guilt
left me because I was very clear with
that individual that this is where my
boundary was, and if it wasn't going to
be respected then I didn't want that
person in my life. So, I know that can be
really difficult for some people to do,
and this has been difficult for me to do
in the past, especially if it's a
relationship where you feel obligated to
the person or if it's a family member or
if it's somebody that you have a history
with or you feel like they need you in
their life for some reason and you feel
like a sort of obligation even though
you don't really want to - I'm here to
tell you that your sanity is more
important. And maybe that sounds selfish
but in this case it's about
self-preservation and it's about being
mentally healthy and if the person that
you have let into your life is sucking
the life out of you and is taking more
than they're giving and is causing you
inordinate amounts of stress, then it's
your absolute right to remove that from
your life to keep your yourself in a
healthy place.
Be your own gatekeeper - you
get to decide who and what is allowed
into your life who and what is healthy
to be in your life and only you can
determine that. I just want to empower
you to draw that line and know that it's
okay and you don't need to feel guilty.
Tell me if you have an experience like
this that was difficult for you I would
love to hear your story! Looking forward
to talking to you thanks for watching!
Bye!