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BETONY VERNON: I've worked with transforming people's sex lives simply by going them information.
Giving them permission to do things that they've always been told are naughty or wrong or dirty.
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The Boudoir Bible is a catalyst for *** well-being. It's a guide for inhibited lovers.
It's a guide for uninhibited lovers, for lovers today. There's a big section in the Boudoir
Bible about the genital anatomy—the *** anatomy. How are we built? We want to drive
to another state, we have a map. I see our physical anatomy kind of like a geography.
If we're not given a map, how can we possibly know where to go. The reason that this has
happened is because men were told that they were born as *** superiors and that's not
fair. I think that we need to give the men a break because they weren't born with the
*** information in their DNA any more than we were and the more we know, the better it's
going to get and y'know my aim in revealing the body—I think it was sort of an obligation
in the book. Y'know, let's talk about the body the genitals in themselves, the vital
source, the most obvious place that we go when we think of sex. In fact most people
describe sex as any act that leads to penetration and permits emission and *** ideally, no?
They happen to be two different phenomena—*** and emission—and they happen both in women
and in men so this is one of the great mysteries that I also speak about in the book, the idea
of female emission for example. And as I move through these chapters we come to the idea,
the *** ceremony, and then we end up in this area which is transcendental sex. The
transcendental tools and techniques which allow us to go beyond the genitals to play
at length, to get those endorphins pumping and to actually stimulate the entire body.
It not only explains how to do certain things, but why these things feel so good. One of
my favorite examples is blindfold because it's soft and the effects of it are actually
very, very, very immediate and it has become an object that you can buy online, you can
buy online in lingerie shops. What does a blindfold do? Why is it potentially an erotically
charging object, y'know? How can a blindfold charge my *** field? My partner's ***
fields? The blindfold makes you abandon yourself completely to your partner and so to actually
elaborate the *** ceremony together—to elaborate the *** ceremony together—you
have to trust each other. You wouldn't practice certain things with someone that you don't
know well. Really well. My work is really about intimacy. It is very much directed at
people who are established couples because ideally the *** ceremony involved without
barriers. I've worked with transforming people's sex lives simply by giving them information.
Giving them permission, actually, to do things that they've always been told are naughty
or wrong or dirty and so one of the things that I'd like to do is eliminate all of that
vocabulary. In fact the book doesn't deal with that sort of terminology—dirty, sinful,
guilty pleasure. There's no guilt. It's really luminous. So the idea that learning to stimulate
the entire body becomes a creative, fun and really pleasurable act.
Hi, my name is Betony Vernon and you're watching THNKR.