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Hey guys. It's Andrea Travillian with Take A Smart Step.com and today we are talking
about mistakes. We all make them. We all have to make them in order to grow.
However, mistakes can quickly become a problem. You know those mistakes I'm talking about,
the ones that you just can't get out of your mind. You think about it all the time and
it ends up -- see? Mistake. There we go.
It ends up impacting your future decisions. You become paralyzed by this mistake. Now,
we don't want that to become a permanent way of life, to live in this state of fear that
we might do the exact same mistake.
So I am going to give you a three-step process today in getting over those mistakes. Now
the first step is to acknowledge and accept your mistake.
Now I hear what you're saying. But I already acknowledged I've made the mistake. Well,
what I really want you to do is sit down, say out loud. In a mirror would even be better.
I made this mistake. I accept it was partially my fault, my fault, whatever you think it
is, and just embrace it.
The power of out loud or if you have to say it in your head, say it in your head to yourself
is invaluable, in being able to say OK, this is what happens. I'm going to move on now.
So once you've acknowledged and accepted your mistake, the next step is to analyze it. What
I want you to do is either talk to a therapist or write in a journal. Talk to your best friend.
Talk to yourself if you want. I don't care.
But just analyze what happened. How did it happen? Why did it happen? How could it have
been done differently? What could you do differently in the future? Really tear this part, this
mistake part, especially those ones that you cannot get out of your head.
What you're doing here is really understanding the situation and enabling yourself in the
future to take that knowledge from today, because the best part of our mistakes is that
we're actually learning from them and progressing with where we're going.
So really take the time to figure out the mistake that you've made and then finally,
once you've understood it, you've accepted it, it's time to release it and let it go.
Now this falls under that category of easier said than done. Now some mistakes will go
away fairly easy especially after the analyzing part because it's kind of like a mini therapy
session.
Others might take you a while to release them. So how can you release them? Well, there are
actually many different methods. You can just say, "I'm done with it." Go like that. You
can do some forgiveness techniques, do some meditation, do some meditating where you go
backwards and release yourself from all the mistakes. You can do EFT. There are many different
methods that you can go to release the mistake and forgive yourself.
Once you do that, it's amazing how many opportunities can open up and really let you thrive. So
I'm going to give you a really short example that doesn't have a ton of emotions attached
to it so you can see how this works.
So back in college, I bought a stock that did horribly, worst stock purchase I have
ever had. It did nothing but go down from the first day. I analyzed the situation, accepted
that I had bought a crappy stock which is going to happen once in a while, but really
narrowed in on the why. Why did this happen? Well, it was typical water cooler stock advice.
I was listening to somebody at work. They were talking about how awesome this stock
was and I ran out and bought it.
So where was the mistake? I didn't analyze on my own. You need to analyze on your own.
I thought that the person who was at the water cooler knew exactly what they're talking about.
Well, I really didn't have any idea what their investing background was. Yes, they work in
the finance department but that doesn't mean anything.
So once I kind of broke it down and I learned my lessons and I applied those, I said, "I'm
done with this." I forgive myself and I move on, end of story.
Now I'm not afraid to trade stocks. It's not holding me back and I've learned an incredibly
valuable lesson to move forward. So your action step for today, I want you to pick one item
and I want you to forgive yourself. Use this process on it.
If you don't have anything major, pick something small. Just give it a whirl. Then I want you
to share in the comments below what has been the most effective thing for you in releasing
that particular issue.
Share what you've experienced so that others can learn and process their issues, maybe
benefiting from what you've said.
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