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Frost: EVERY FAMILY HAS A FRAMED PORTRAIT,
BUT BEHIND THAT PHOTO LIES THE REAL TRUTH.
Tara: SHUT UP?
SHUT UP?
YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY [BLEEP]
YOU'LL NEVER LEARN TO COMMUNICATE.
YOUR DAD [BLEEP] SUCKS.
I CAN'T LIVE HERE LIKE THIS!
YOU NEED TO USE YOUR FRIGGIN' BRAIN
JUST FOR ONCE IN YOUR DAMN LIFE.
WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU BOTH THINKING?!
WHAT RESPECT DO YOU HAVE FOR ONE ANOTHER?!
STOP THINKING OF YOUR [BLEEP] SELF.
IS THAT WHAT YOU'RE GONNA DO, JUST WALK AWAY NOW?
YEP.
GET UP AND DO WHAT I TOLD YOU TO DO NOW!
GET UP.
YOU'RE TRYING TO BE A WISE GUY!
...EXPLAIN AND YOU'RE TALKING OVER ME.
LIKE, WHAT'S GOING ON?!
TALK TO ME, ASHLYNN.
[ Voice breaking ] I'M VERY FRUSTRATED.
I DON'T WANT TO BE HERE WITH HIM.
I WISH THEY COULD STOP YELLING AT EACH OTHER.
Dave: GO [BLEEP] OFF!
I THINK YOU'RE STUPID!
WHY ARE YOU CONTINUING TO DRAG THESE INNOCENT CHILDREN
THROUGH THIS SITUATION?!
[ CRYING ]
WELL, KIDS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY, NOT SAD.
Frost: BEHIND THE PORTRAIT IS THE TRUTH,
AND I'M HERE TO DEAL WITH THE TRUTH.
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I'M HERE TO VISIT THE MEAD FAMILY,
WHO LIVE IN WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CALIFORNIA.
AND THEY DO DESPERATELY NEED HELP
BECAUSE THEY'RE A FAMILY IN TURMOIL.
I'M TARA MEAD, AND I'M 47.
I'M DAVID MEAD, AND I'M 44 YEARS OLD.
Tara: WHEN DAVE AND I GOT MARRIED,
IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL CEREMONY -- SUNSET.
WE WERE VERY HAPPY.
IT WAS A WONDERFUL TIME.
WE HAVE FOUR WONDERFUL CHILDREN.
THEY ARE WHAT HOLD US TOGETHER.
I WISH WE WERE HERE FOR EACH OTHER,
BUT WE'RE HERE RIGHT NOW FOR OUR CHILDREN.
WELL, LET'S FACE IT -- THEIR MARRIAGE RIGHT NOW HAS EXPIRED.
THERE'S NO LOVE, THERE'S NO TRUST,
AND THEY DO NOTHING BUT ARGUE AND SHOUT
AND YELL AT ONE ANOTHER.
SHE'S OUR CHILD!
GET THE PHONE! BE A PARENT!
Tara: YOU ARE AN ANGRY BIRD.
[ GROWLS ]
WHY WOULD I WANT TO HANG OUT WITH SOMEBODY
THAT DOES THIS TO ME ALL THE TIME?!
I WANT TO HAVE A NICE TIME.
I WANT TO HAVE NICE CONVERSATIONS.
I'M TIRED OF THE STUPID STUFF TO ARGUE ABOUT.
Dave: BACK ME UP, JUST FOR ONCE, HUH?
[ SINGING ]
DAD'S RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS DAUGHTER IS ABSOLUTELY POOR.
THERE IS NO BOND.
THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP.
ASHLYNN WAS MY BABY BABY.
I MEAN, SHE WAS EVERYTHING.
I TOOK HER EVERYWHERE.
BUT THE TURNING POINT WAS WHEN I CAUGHT ASHLYNN
WITH HARD-ALCOHOL BOTTLES, CIGARETTES, CONDOMS.
AND JUST THE LAST THREE YEARS,
SHE HAS NO RESPECT FOR ME WHATSOEVER.
YOU LOOKED LIKE AN [BLEEP] WHEN YOU SAID THAT.
[BLEEP] YOU!
YOU LOST A DAUGHTER!
Dave: WHO CARES?!
SEE, THAT'S WHAT HURTS.
I HOPED MY PARENTS WOULD GET A DIVORCE.
THINGS NEED TO CHANGE.
AND THERE ARE THREE YOUNGER CHILDREN --
PEYTON, ROMAN, AND AUSTIN.
AND THEY REALLY ARE FEELING THE EFFECTS
OF SUCH ANGER AND ANIMOSITY IN THIS FAMILY,
WHERE THEIR NEEDS ARE NOT BEING MET, AS WELL.
[ CRYING ]
WHAT IS THIS FOR?
ONE MORE YEAR!
Tara: ONE MORE YEAR!
MOM, MY -- MY -- MY -- MY...
I HOPE YOU'RE NOT EXPECTING NOTHING FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY
'CAUSE YOU AIN'T GETTING NOTHING.
DON'T WORRY.
[ WHINES ]
Tara: THE KIDS ACT LIKE DAVE, ASHLYNN, AND MYSELF.
THEY SCREAM.
THEY YELL.
SOMETIMES THEY CALL PEOPLE NAMES
OR SAY THINGS THEY SHOULDN'T SAY.
GET OUT OF MY WAY, STUPID!
[ YELLING ]
Frost: THIS IS A FAMILY THAT NOT ONLY ARE IN DISARRAY EMOTIONALLY
BUT PHYSICALLY, AS WELL, AND IT REFLECTS
IN THE STATE AND THE ENVIRONMENT OF THE HOME, TOO.
Tara: I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF JO CAN'T HELP US.
WE MAY END UP SPLIT UP,
DIVORCED LIKE THE REST OF THE WORLD.
[ SIGHS ]
I WISH EVERYBODY COULD GET ALONG IN THIS FAMILY.
THE PROBLEM IS EVERYBODY'S TALKING, BUT NOBODY'S LISTENING.
SEE OUT THERE?
CAN YOU SAY, "HELLO, MISS JO"?
[ GRUNTS ]
LITTLE DUDE, BREAK THAT ATTITUDE.
[ GRUNTS ]
[ DOORBELL RINGS ]
HURRY UP!
HI!
HELLO!
LOVELY TO MEET YOU.
COME ON IN.
PLEASURE TO MEET YOU.
WHAT'S YOUR NAME, YOUNG SIR?
MY NAME IS AUSTIN.
AUSTIN, PLEASURE TO MEET YOU.
YEP.
THIS IS FOR YOU.
OH! THANK YOU. THANK YOU.
PEYTON.
PEYTON, PLEASURE TO MEET YOU.
HI, DAVE, PLEASURE.
I'M GLAD TO BE HERE.
LOVELY TO BE HERE.
SO, TO GET RIGHT DOWN TO IT,
I REALLY JUST WANT YOU GUYS TO JUST CARRY ON
WITH WHAT YOU WOULD NORMALLY BE DOING TODAY,
AND I'LL JUST MOSEY AROUND IF THAT'S ALL RIGHT.
SURE.
THANK YOU. APPRECIATE IT.
YOU KNOW, GENERALLY WHEN I GO IN AND I VISIT A FAMILY,
I LIKE TO SIT BACK A LITTLE BIT, OBSERVE ON THE OUTSIDE.
YOU KNOW, IT'S PART OF WHAT I DO
IS THE PROCESS AND BEING ABLE TO HELP A FAMILY.
HEY!
[ WHINES ]
OOH, YOU'RE ASKING FOR IT, LITTLE GUY.
MORE!
HE'S BEING AN ***.
WE'RE GONNA CORRECT THIS BEFORE YOU GROW ANY OLDER.
DON'T CALL ME A FATHEAD! COME HERE. YOU'RE DONE.
GET UP. I'M TAKING YOUR PUDDING.
Dave: WHY'D YOU CALL HER THAT?
I DON'T LIKE THAT.
'CAUSE IT COMES OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.
GO AHEAD.
"SHAVE SOME FAT."
WHY DON'T YOU TELL ME?
Dave: COME BACK HERE.
YOU LIED TO ME ABOUT ALL THIS [BLEEP]
WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
Ashlynn: PICKING IT UP.
REALLY? WHEN?
YESTERDAY.
YEAH?
JUST CLEAN UP THE DOG CRAP, ASH.
OH, MY GOD.
[ GROANS ]
CAN I ASK YOU IN MY ROOM?
YES.
I WOULD LIKE THAT. LET'S GO INTO YOUR ROOM.
YES. THAT'S A GOOD IDEA.
IT'S PRIVATE.
OKAY, LET'S COME IN THEN.
OKAY.
COME AND SIT DOWN. THEN I CAN HEAR YOU.
I DON'T LIKE THE YELLING IN THIS HOUSE.
I TRY TO MAKE THIS HOUSE HAPPY,
BUT I CAN'T BECAUSE I'M JUST A LITTLE GIRL
AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO IT.
THAT'S RIGHT.
AND IT'S NOT YOUR JOB, MY DARLING, OKAY?
I WANT YOU TO KNOW IT'S NOT YOUR JOB, OKAY?
WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE ME TO HELP YOUR FAMILY WITH?
CAN YOU, LIKE, GET THEM TO STOP YELLING AT EACH OTHER
FOR SEVERAL DAYS?
BECAUSE, WELL, KIDS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY,
NOT SAD... SO CAN YOU TELL THEM THAT?
I CERTAINLY CAN TELL THEM THAT.
THANK YOU... [ SMOOCHES ]
...FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS.
OKAY.
BYE, LOVE.
Frost: THESE KIDS, THEY NEED LOVE --
LOVE BACK IN THIS HOUSE,
CUDDLES AND KISSES AND AFFECTION AND TOGETHERNESS.
WHAT A MESS.
YOU'RE JUST DOING ALL YOUR TAX PAPERWORK
AND EVERYTHING NOW?
YES.
WELL, HE HANDS ME EVERYTHING JUST IN A PILE.
CAN I JUST BRING YOU TOGETHER FOR A MINUTE?
WHAT'S THE SITUATION HERE?
I'M AFRAID TO GIVE HER MY STUFF MOST OF THE TIME.
SHE DOESN'T FILE IT AND ORGANIZE IT RIGHT.
SO YOU DON'T TRUST?
YEAH, I DON'T TRUST HER WITH ALL MY PAPERWORK
THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE YEAR.
I'D RATHER HOLD ONTO IT.
YOU DON'T REALLY TRUST EACH OTHER TO DO ANYTHING?
IT IS DEFINITELY A PROBLEM BETWEEN US.
TAKE A LOOK IN HERE, JO.
I'LL SHOW YOU WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT.
Dave: THIS STUFF SHOULD BE FILED OR DONE SOMETHING WITH.
THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME I'VE SHOWED THIS.
LET ME SHOW YOU THIS.
THIS RIGHT HERE I'VE ASKED HER TO ORGANIZE
AND DO SOMETHING WITH.
YOU KNOW, YOU NEED TO STOP THAT.
JACKPOT! LOOK AT THIS.
THIS IS NOT STUFF THAT'S BEEN FILED.
A LOT OF THIS IS FROM [BLEEP] YOU MY PROOF OF [BLEEP]
HE MADE PHONE CALLS TO HIS FRIEND, A FEMALE FRIEND,
AND I HAD PROOF OF IT.
HOLD ON A MINUTE! HOLD ON A MINUTE!
SO, YOU NOW --
SO, NOW YOU'RE SAYING THAT HE'S HAVING AN AFFAIR?
MY DAD AND I HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH EACH OTHER ANYMORE.
AN IDEAL FAMILY FOR YOU WOULD BE WHAT?
I THINK IF MY DAD WAS REMOVED,
EVERYTHING WOULD BE PERFECTLY FINE.
DO YOU -- DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR HUSBAND'S HAD AN AFFAIR?
I DO BELIEVE HE HAD AN AFFAIR WITH HER FOR A SHORT TIME.
IS THIS TRUE?
IF YOU WANT TO THROW ME UNDER THE BUS LIKE THAT,
YOU SAY HOW SHE GOT INVOLVED.
WELL, HOW DID SHE GET INVOLVED?
SHE WAS YOUR FRIEND.
YOU WOULD KEEP BRINGING HER AROUND, AND SHE FELL FOR ME.
I DIDN'T FALL FOR HER.
AND YOU FELL BACK.
REALLY?
SHE BROUGHT HER IN 'CAUSE WE HAD A THREESOME WITH HER.
SO, HE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS WOMAN?
OKAY, AND YOU BELIEVE THAT HE CARRIED ON
THESE INNUENDOS AND THIS BEHAVIOR BEYOND THE THREE?
HE DID. YES, HE DID.
IT'S YOUR FRIEND! YOU BROUGHT HER IN!
YOU MADE IT HAPPEN!
I DIDN'T INSTIGATE ANYTHING!
WHAT HE GAVE TO HER EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY,
I DESERVE THAT.
NO, YOU DON'T!
I DESERVE THE HAPPINESS.
WHY?! YOU TREAT ME LIKE CRAP EVERY DAY!
YOU TELL ME YOU HATE MY GUTS EVERY DAY, TARA.
I THINK YOU'RE STUPID!
THAT'S WHAT I THINK -- YOU'RE A FRIGGIN' IDIOT!
I TOLD YOU NOT TO BRING THAT ONE THING UP!
YOU NEED TO USE YOUR FRIGGIN' BRAIN
JUST FOR ONCE IN YOUR DAMN LIFE, YOU KNOW THAT?
I'M SICK AND TIRED OF THE STUPID [BLEEP] YOU DO.
YOU PLAYED WITH FIRE AND YOU GOT BURNED.
YOU KNOW, YOU DON'T BRING THAT INTO MARRIAGE.
ARE YOU STRUGGLING RIGHT NOW
WITH LETTING GO OF WHAT WAS
AND WHAT HAPPENED AND MOVING FORWARD?
YES.
[ Voice breaking ] IT'S HARD TO LET GO.
VERY HARD.
[ SNIFFLES ]
AND I DO LOVE HIM,
BUT I ASK MYSELF, "WHY AM I HERE?"
I FEEL STUPID AND WEAK.
BUT I LOVE MY CHILDREN.
BUT YOU KNOW THE KIDS KNOW THE TRUTH, DON'T YOU?
THEY SENSE IT. THEY SEE IT.
I MEAN, YOU'RE NOT HIDING NOTHING FROM THEM.
I'VE ONLY BEEN IN THAT HOUSE 10 MINUTES,
AND I ASKED A FEW QUESTIONS AND IT ALL CAME OUT.
I'M GRATEFUL THAT THEY'VE BEEN HONEST ABOUT THIS
BECAUSE IT WILL ALLOW ME TO DO WHAT'S NECESSARY.
EVERYONE HAVING A MELTDOWN TODAY?
SOME ISSUES?
Austin: I SAID NO!
I SAID NO CARROTS!
BUT I'M THE BOSS.
YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!
KIDS ARE PLAYING UP.
THE KIDS ARE BEING MOODY.
AND MOM AND DAD ARE DOING WHAT?
Tara: WANT SOME MILK, PEYTON?
WOULD YOU LIKE THAT?
WOULD YOU LIKE SOME MILK?
IS THAT HOW AUSTIN WOULD NORMALLY SIT DOWN
AND HAVE DINNER OR LUNCH?
HE NEEDS THE TELEVISION TO KEEP HIM OCCUPIED?
Dave: OH, YEAH.
YEAH.
HE JUST FREAKS WITHOUT THE TELEVISION.
WITHOUT TELEVISION, IT JUST RUINS HIS WHOLE DAY.
Tara: YOU LIKE IT THAT MUCH?
THE TELEVISION RUINS HIS WHOLE DAY?
YEAH.
ALL RIGHT, ASHLYNN.
YOU AND I -- CONVERSATION.
COME ON. HEART TO HEART.
WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON?
HOW DO YOU SEE IT?
MY DAD AND I HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH EACH OTHER ANYMORE.
WE JUST YELL.
DO YOU MISS YOUR DAD?
NO.
HE CALLS ME SO MUCH, AND IT HURTS.
AND I'M HIS DAUGHTER,
SO IF I CALL HIM AN [BLEEP] IT HURTS HIM.
HE DOESN'T SEE THAT BEING CALLED A FAT [BLEEP] HURTS.
SO YOU'VE BEEN TALKING THE WAY BACK TO HIM
BECAUSE YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR HIM?
I DON'T.
I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF IT'S WORTH FIXING.
WHEN DID YOU LOSE RESPECT FOR YOUR DAD?
WHEN HE CHEATED ON MY MOM.
IT TORE THE FAMILY APART.
AN IDEAL FAMILY FOR YOU WOULD BE WHAT?
I THINK IF MY DAD WAS REMOVED,
EVERYTHING WOULD BE PERFECTLY FINE.
Tara: WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE US TO GO?
OKAY.
[ GROANS ]
LET'S JUST CUT STRAIGHT TO THE BOTTOM
OF REALLY WHAT'S GOING ON IN THIS HOME.
WE'VE GOT THREE YOUNG CHILDREN
WHO HAVE BEEN RAISED IN A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY.
AND YOU NOD YOUR HEADS LIKE, "YEAH, YEAH, YEAH."
IF YOU'RE UNHAPPY, IF YOU DON'T WANT THIS ANYMORE,
WHY ARE YOU CONTINUING TO BEAT EACH OTHER UP
AND TO DRAG THESE INNOCENT CHILDREN
THROUGH THIS SITUATION!?
HERE'S YOUR REALITY CHECK.
IF WHAT I'M SEEING IN THIS HOME IS A TRUE REPRESENTATION
OF WHO THE PAIR OF YOU ARE RIGHT NOW,
YOU'RE MESSED UP AND YOU MADE SOME SERIOUS MISTAKES
WITH RESPECT TO YOUR DECISIONS
IN HOW YOU WERE GONNA SPICE UP YOUR MARRIAGE.
YOU ARE BOTH TO BLAME FOR TAKING PART IN A *** ENDEAVOR
THAT HAS LED YOU TO THE DISASTROUS PLACE
THAT YOU'RE IN NOW.
WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU BOTH THINKING?!
WHAT RESPECT DO YOU HAVE FOR ONE ANOTHER?!
I WOULD JUST -- THAT'S WHAT SHE WANTED.
THAT'S WHAT SHE GOT.
OH, REALLY? THAT'S YOUR ATTITUDE, IS IT?
AND YOU BROUGHT THE WOMAN TO THE PARTY,
AND YOU WENT, "GREAT, LET'S GO FOR IT."
SHE WAS THERE.
AND NOW THE PAIR OF YOU ARE BEHAVING THIS WAY?!
I DIDN'T BRING HER IN.
WELL, DID SHE COME ON A STORK, TARA, DID SHE?!
DID SOMEBODY JUST DELIVER HER TO THE DOOR?!
DID THE TOOTH FAIRY REALIZE THAT THERE WAS NO SEX
GOING ON IN THE BEDROOM?!
[ Voice breaking ] IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME
AT THE BOTTOM OF THE WELL.
DO YOU BOTH WANT THIS?
ABSOLUTELY.
I DON'T KNOW.
I HAVE A HARD TIME FORGIVING ALL OF IT.
I CAN'T JUST DO THAT IMMEDIATELY.
I CAN'T.
I'M NOT GONNA LIE TO MYSELF.
I FEEL DEAD INSIDE, AND I SHOULDN'T.
I DON'T DESERVE IT.
YOU NEED TO THINK, TARA, WHETHER I'M COMING BACK TOMORROW
TO HELP THE PAIR OF YOU PUT THINGS ON TRACK,
LAYING THINGS TO REST,
MOVING FORWARD AS A COUPLE WHO ARE MARRIED
AND AS PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN
OR WHETHER I'M COMING BACK HERE TOMORROW
TO HELP TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE DECIDED
TO NO LONGER BE COMMITTED TO ONE ANOTHER
BUT COMMITTED TO THEIR CHILDREN.
YOU'VE BEEN SITTING IN THIS SPACE TOO LONG, OKAY?
TOMORROW I COME BACK,
AND I WILL NEED TO KNOW WHICH WAY I'M HELPING YOU ALL, OKAY?
MOM HAS GOT SOME SERIOUS THINKING TO DO.
THIS IS FAR FROM OVER.
THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING.
IF WHAT YOU SAW IN THERE TONIGHT YOU THOUGHT WAS IT,
TOMORROW'S A WHOLE DIFFERENT DAY.
[ SIGHS ]
OH, BOY.
DO NOT B.S. ME, DAVE!
DO NOT!
YOU MAY HAVE MANY PEOPLE FOOLED,
BUT IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE THE WOOL OVER MY EYES,
LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING -- YOU'RE GRAVELY MISTAKEN.
YOU SEE?!
YOU'RE A CHILD!
WELL, TODAY'S JUDGMENT DAY.
THERE'S ONE DECISION THAT NEEDED TO BE MADE,
AND I'M ABOUT TO FIND OUT PRETTY SOON
WHETHER MOM MAKES A DECISION TO PART WAYS WITH DAVE
OR WHETHER THEY STAY TOGETHER AND START MOVING FORWARD.
OKAY, SO, I LEFT YOU WITH A VERY SERIOUS DECISION,
AND I'VE BROUGHT YOU OUT HERE TODAY
TO BASICALLY ASK YOU WHAT THAT DECISION IS.
I THOUGHT ABOUT IT BUT NOT VERY LONG.
MY THOUGHTS VERY QUICKLY GO BACK
TO THE FACT I'D LIKE TO WORK ON MY FAMILY.
I LOVE HIM.
I WANT TO REKINDLE THINGS.
I BELIEVE HE FEELS THAT WAY.
WELL, I THINK THE FIRST STEP YOU CAN DO
IS TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR PART IN THIS.
JUST HAVE A QUICK CONVERSATION WITH ASHLYNN.
SAY TO HER, "I KNOW HOW YOU FELT ABOUT THE DISLOYALTY,
"BUT I NEED TO ALSO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
FOR ACTUALLY CREATING SOME OF THIS MESS, TOO."
YES.
ALL RIGHT? OKAY.
NEED A HUG? NEED A HUG?
STAND ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET.
YOU NEED TO BE STRONGER.
MOM HAS DECIDED TO STAY.
I'M HAPPY THAT SHE'S MADE THAT DECISION
BECAUSE THERE'S NOTHING BETTER
THAN PUTTING THE LOVE BACK IN THE HOME
AND ACTUALLY WORKING ON WHAT'S NECESSARY FOR ALL OF THE FAMILY,
ALL OF THEM.
AS MUCH AS YOUR DAD AND I
HAVE HATED EACH OTHER IN THE PAST,
BEEN PISSED OFF, AGGRAVATED,
I'VE DECIDED TO STAY WITH HIM.
I KNOW WHAT HAPPENED WAS [BLEEP]
YOUR DAD AND I -- IT WASN'T RIGHT,
AND I KNOW THAT AFFECTED YOU,
AND I KNOW IT MADE YOU HATE YOUR DAD.
I BELIEVE YOU INSTIGATED THAT, DIDN'T YOU, TO SOME DEGREE, TOO?
YOU KNOW, I DID CREATE A LOT OF IT.
I DID.
[ SNIFFLES ]
AND I'M SORRY.
SORRY YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH ALL THIS [BLEEP]
I AM.
I'M SORRY.
AND I TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR MYSELF
AND MY ACTIONS AND WHAT I'VE DONE.
HE HAS TO WORK ON A LOT.
I WANT YOU, ASHLYNN, TO WORK ON THINGS WITH YOUR DAD.
I DON'T WANT YOU TO HATE HIM.
WE'RE GONNA WORK IT OUT.
GOT TO TRY FOR ALL OF US.
IT WAS IMPORTANT FOR MOM TO JUST BE REAL WITH ASHLYNN.
I DO KNOW THAT MOM NEEDS TO TALK TO DAVE
AND TO BE ABLE TO START A FRESH SLATE
SO THAT WE CAN MOVE FORWARD.
I'M REALLY PLEASED TO HEAR THAT TARA TRULY DOES WANT TO,
YOU KNOW, MAKE THIS WORK BETWEEN THE PAIR OF YOU.
REALLY?
IN SAYING THAT, I'M GONNA LET YOU BEGIN.
I APOLOGIZE FOR MENTIONING HER NAME ALL THE TIME
BECAUSE I KNOW I PUT YOU THOUGH A LOT,
AND I DID IT ON PURPOSE, I ADMIT THAT.
SO, WE HAVE A LOT TO WORK ON.
AND I WANT TO DO THAT 'CAUSE I LOVE YOU.
[ Crying ] I'M GONNA TRY
TO PUT IT IN THE PAST SO WE CAN MOVE ON.
BUT I DO BELIEVE IT TAKES TWO TO WORK AT THIS MARRIAGE,
NOT JUST ME.
AND I NEED YOU HERE FOR ME, NOT JUST THE KIDS.
I'D LIKE YOU TO RESPOND.
YEAH, WELL, YOU KNOW, I FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T TRY
TO MAKE ME HAPPY, AT ALL, YOU KNOW?
AND THAT'S WHY I GET BITTER.
OKAY, CAN YOU EXCUSE ME FOR ONE MOMENT, PLEASE?
DAVE, I'D LIKE A WORD WITH YOU OUTSIDE, PLEASE.
REALLY?
FEEL GOOD, DID IT?
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY --
FEEL GOOD TO SIT AT A TABLE AND WATCH YOUR WIFE CRY
AND TELL YOU SHE WAS SORRY,
AND YET WHEN IT WAS YOUR TURN TO RESPOND TO HER,
YOU COULDN'T EVEN FIND A BONE IN YOUR BODY
TO TURN AROUND AND APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR PART IN THIS AS WELL,
AND TO EVEN REACH OUT AND TELL HER THAT YOU LOVE HER?
REALLY, DAVE?
OH, WELL, I MISUNDERSTOOD WHAT YOU WANTED.
NO, YOU NEVER -- NO.
DO NOT B.S. ME, DAVE!
DO NOT!
YOU MAY HAVE MANY PEOPLE FOOLED,
BUT IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE THE WOOL OVER MY EYES,
LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING -- YOU'RE GRAVELY MISTAKEN.
STOP THINKING OF YOUR [BLEEP] SELF.
LET ME TELL YOU WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN.
YOUR MISSUS WILL WALK,
AND SHE'LL TAKE HER KIDS WITH HER,
AND YOU'LL BE ON YOUR OWN LIKE AN OLD, LONELY MAN,
WONDERING WHY YOU DIDN'T LEAVE YOUR EGO
OUTSIDE THIS [BLEEP] HOUSE
AND TAKE CARE OF WHAT YOU NEEDED TO.
WOW.
RIGHT NOW, YOU'RE ACTING LIKE A COWARD.
RIGHT NOW.
AND IT DISGUSTS ME THAT YOU'RE DOING THAT.
DO YOU HEAR ME?!
YES, I'M ASKING YOU VERY NICELY NOT TO --
THEN IF YOU CARE, THEN GO IN AND SHOW ME.
YOU SEE?! YOU'RE A CHILD!
A CHILD!
WELL, I DON'T AGREE WITH YOU.
SO, WHAT?
YOU'RE GONNA WALK AWAY AND SLAM THE DOOR?
IS THAT HOW YOU WANT TO DEAL WITH A PROFESSIONAL, IS IT?
IS THAT WHAT YOU'RE GONNA DO, JUST WALK AWAY NOW?
YEP.
I WALK AWAY WHEN I HAVE A PROBLEM.
OH, GREAT. THAT'S GREAT.
THEN WHY DON'T YOU COME BACK AFTER YOU'VE HAD YOUR SULK?
THAT'S GREAT.
THEN WHY DON'T YOU COME BACK AFTER YOU'VE HAD YOUR SULK?
SO, AT THIS STAGE, I DON'T KNOW WHERE DAD IS.
HE'S OBVIOUSLY GONE FOR A WALK TO COOL OFF,
AND NOW HE'S NOT ONLY WORRIED THAT I KNOW THE TRUTH,
HE'S NOW WORRIED ABOUT THE WHOLE WORLD KNOWING THE TRUTH.
HE'S BEEN CALLED OUT.
I'M GLAD YOU CAME BACK.
THANK YOU FOR JOINING US.
SO, PLEASE, PLEASE.
TARA, I LOVE YOU, MAN. I WOULDN'T BE HERE IF I DIDN'T.
YOU KNOW, WE HAVE FOUR KIDS,
AND, YOU KNOW, WE NEED TO BE TOGETHER.
I CAN'T DO IT WITHOUT YOU.
I NEED YOU TO BE CLOSE TO ME
AND LISTEN TO ME AND COMMUNICATE AND LOVE AND LAUGH.
I WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE YOUR FRIEND AND YOUR HUSBAND,
SOMEONE THAT YOU WANT TO COME HOME
'CAUSE IT MAKES YOU HAPPY,
NOT BECAUSE YOU WANT TO TALK DOWN TO ME.
I'M GONNA ASK YOU TO DO SOMETHING MOVING FORWARD
THAT I THINK IS IMPERATIVE TO THIS MARRIAGE.
I BELIEVE THAT YOU BOTH NEED TO DO
SIX WEEKS ONCE A WEEK INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING.
I WANT YOU TO COMMIT TO DOING THAT.
YOU BOTH NEED BEYOND ME.
SO HERE IS WHAT I HAVE FOR YOU -- A MARRIAGE COMMITMENT.
OKAY, THE PAIR OF YOU?
SO, YOU HEREBY COMMIT TO SIX INDIVIDUAL
ONE-HOUR THERAPY SESSIONS WITH A COUNSELOR.
TRUST ME -- WHEN YOU'VE BEEN HERE,
YOU'RE GONNA WANT TO DO MORE.
SO, HERE IS OUR FIRST STEP.
I'M NOT PERFECT.
NOBODY IS.
NOBODY IS.
THANK YOU.
YOU'RE WELCOME.
I FEEL MENTALLY TIRED RIGHT NOW.
IT'S BEEN A VERY LONG DAY WORKING WITH THIS FAMILY.
BAD HABITS HAVE BEEN CREATED,
AND CERTAINLY BAD MEMORIES HAVE BEEN CREATED IN THIS HOME,
AND WHAT I WANT TO DO IS TO START PUTTING SOME HAPPY MOMENTS
IN THIS HOUSE -- SOME LOVE, SOME AFFECTION.
AND I CERTAINLY HAVE A GAME PLAN TO BE DOING THAT TOMORROW.
AFTER A REALLY HEAVY, EMOTIONAL DAY YESTERDAY,
TODAY, I'M COMING BACK TO SORT THIS HOUSE OUT.
HAVE YOU EVER SEEN SO MUCH MESS AND JUNK EVERYWHERE?
THIS FAMILY IS IN DISARRAY EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY.
AND WHEN YOU HAVE A FAMILY THAT JUST CAN'T SEE EYE TO EYE,
IT REFLECTS IN THE STATE AND THE ENVIRONMENT OF THE HOME, TOO.
I ALSO WANT TO WORK WITH DAVE AND ASHLYNN
BECAUSE I THINK IT'S SO IMPORTANT AT THIS STAGE NOW
THAT THEY COME TOGETHER
AND SPEND SOME GOOD, QUALITY TIME TOGETHER.
SO, I WANTED TO GIVE YOU THIS...
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT.
AND, AS YOU CAN SEE, THE FIRST ONE HERE --
"NO BRINGING UP THE PAST AS AMMUNITION."
I REALLY BELIEVE WE NEED TO START LOOKING FORWARD.
NO POINT BRINGING IT UP.
"NO INSULTS."
DOESN'T GET US ANYWHERE, OKAY? AND THEY'RE HURTFUL.
I THINK IT'S ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL
THAT THE THREE OF YOU
REALLY FOLLOW THESE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT.
ALL RIGHT, COME AND JOIN ME IN THE LIVING ROOM.
TARA, TV OFF.
IN THE LIVING ROOM.
WHAT I WANT TO DO IS CONCENTRATE ON YOUR LIVING QUARTERS, OKAY?
I DON'T SEE A FAMILY RIGHT NOW
WHO ARE PROUD OF WHERE THEY LIVE.
I MEAN, TO SEE BUNK BEDS TODAY
AND KNOW THAT THEY'VE NOT BEEN PUT UP
AND THE KIDS COULD BE OFF THE FLOOR?
YOU KNOW, IT'S CREATING NICE SLEEPING SPACE FOR THE CHILDREN.
THERE IS THIS FILING CABINET THAT WE HAVE HERE
FOR YOU TO BE ABLE TO PUT AND LABEL WHERE THINGS NEED TO GO.
SO I WANT US TO JUST SPEND THE NEXT COUPLE OF HOURS
WITH FULL-MAX ENERGY SO THAT WE CAN GET THIS DONE.
ALL RIGHT. LET'S GET GOING THEN.
HAIR'S GOING UP.
I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, BUT I GET NO WORK DONE...
GUESS WHAT WE'RE GONNA DO --
PUT UP THE BUNK BEDS AND GET YOU YOUR BED.
YAY!
OKAY, WE NEED BROOMS.
YOU STILL HAVE THE RECEIPTS IN YOUR ROOM?
EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING TAKEN AWAY AND FILED.
PULL THEIR SLEEVES UP.
LET'S GET IN THERE
AND MAKE THIS HOUSE MORE CONDUCIVE TO A LIVING,
LOVING, FAMILY ENVIRONMENT.
LET'S GET SOME ORGANIZATION.
ASHLYNN!
SO, YOU TAKE CARE
OF THE WHOLE KITCHEN AREA RIGHT NOW, RIGHT?
OKAY, ROMAN, AUSTIN, PEYTON, OUT OF THIS ROOM!
COME ON!
DAD'S TRYING TO GET THE BEDS TOGETHER!
BILLS, ARTWORK, HOMEWORK -- WE'RE GETTING THERE.
THANK YOU.
IF I CAN TAKE ONE OF THESE BOXES.
SO, YOU'VE LABELED STUFF SO THAT ACTUALLY YOU KNOW
WHAT'S IN EACH BOX, OKAY.
AND JUST THE CLEANLINESS OF THIS SPACE HERE.
I CAN BREATH. IT'S GREAT.
YEAH.
SO, THIS ROOM -- VERY HAPPY WITH.
LET'S MOVE INTO HERE.
CLEANED UP ALL THE GRATES HERE --
YOU'VE NOTICED. YES.
'CAUSE THE DIRT THAT WAS IN THE CRACKS HERE ALONE.
YES. IT WAS SO GROSS.
OKAY.
THIS IS THE ROOM I'M REALLY IMPRESSED WITH, AS WELL.
Dave: I MEAN, LOOK AT HOW MUCH ROOM IS ON EACH SIDE!
IT WAS, LIKE, MEANT FOR THIS ROOM.
Tara: OH, LOOK AT HOW WONDERFUL!
CAN WE SAY, "THANK YOU"?
All: THANK YOU!
WOW.
Frost: DAVE AND ASHLYNN.
WE'RE MOVING. WE'RE MAKING SPEED.
HOW ARE YOU FEELING?
ASHLYNN?
GOOD.
THE ONLY WAY YOU GET TO BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP
RIGHT.
JUST TO HANG OUT WITH EACH OTHER.
I WANT YOU TO SPEND SOME TIME TOGETHER.
BEING PUSHED TO BUILD UP MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAD.
IT MAY CHANGE, BUT IT'S NOT GONNA CHANGE RIGHT AWAY.
GO NOW. LIKE, YOU'RE OUT.
JUST GO NOW AND HANG OUT AND SPEND SOME TIME.
COOL DEAL.
Frost: AND KEEP UP WITH THIS.
I WANT SOME DATES, OKAY?
FATHER AND DAUGHTER DATES TO HANG OUT.
Ashlynn: JO SENT ME AND MY DAD OUT OF THE HOUSE.
I CAN'T REMEMBER WHEN THE LAST TIME
ME AND MY DAD HAS DONE ANYTHING TOGETHER.
SO, WHAT DO YOU THINK, MAN?
YOU THINK THAT ALL THIS IS GONNA HELP?
YOU GONNA FOLLOW THE RULES?
ARE YOU?
YEAH. I LIKE RULES.
WHAT ARE YOU LEARNING?
I'M JUST GONNA SLOW DOWN AND NOT GET SO UPSET.
I THINK MOM REALLY DOES WANT TO GIVE THIS A TRY.
SHE NEEDS THINGS TO WORK OUT.
I DO, TOO.
IT'S BEEN LIKE THREE YEARS SINCE WE'VE BEEN HANGING OUT
AND DOING THINGS TOGETHER, YOU KNOW?
YEAH.
YOU'RE VERY IMPORTANT TO ME.
I WANT TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOU.
DON'T YOU WANT TO, OR NO?
WHEN WE WERE SITTING DOWN, IT FELT REALLY AWKWARD FOR ME,
BUT I WANT TO SEE IF I CAN BUILD UP MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAD.
I DON'T KNOW FOR SURE IF IT WILL WORK,
BUT IT'S PROBABLY SLOWLY GONNA GET BETTER.
I LEAVE YOU ALL FOR A WHILE TO IMPLEMENT THE TECHNIQUES
AND THE RULES THAT HAVE BEEN PUT IN THIS HOUSE.
SO I'M LEAVING YOU WITH THE MEAD FAMILY HOMEWORK.
"KIDS: NO TELEVISION."
AW.
NO TELEVISION, BUT THIS IS WHAT WE ARE GONNA DO --
PUZZLES, READING, ARTS AND CRAFTS,
TICKLING DADDY UNTIL HE CAN'T LAUGH ANYMORE, OKAY?
TARA AND DAVE, I WANT YOU TO BEGIN THE COUNSELING.
ALL RIGHT? SHOW ME GOOD PROMISE.
SHOW YOUR FAMILY GOOD PROMISE.
AND THE FULL FAMILY --
YOU WILL GO AND ENJOY A DAY OUT AND ENJOY THAT, ALL RIGHT?
WONDERFUL! WONDERFUL.
SO, IT IS POSSIBLE.
GOODNIGHT!
BYE-BYE. GOODNIGHT. SLEEP WELL.
BYE. Y'ALL COME BACK AND SEE US SOME TIME, YA HEAR?
BYE-BYE. BYE, LOVE.
I'M FEELING REALLY GOOD RIGHT NOW LEAVING THIS FAMILY.
HOWEVER, MY CONCERNS ARE ASHLYNN
BECOMING VERY NEGATIVE TOWARDS HER PARENTS AND INSULTING,
SO I AM GONNA BE ROOTING FOR THIS FAMILY EVERY DAY
UNTIL I GET BACK,
JUST PRAYING AND HOPING THAT THEY'RE GONNA HOLD IT TOGETHER.
SAY GOODBYE TO THE TV.
NO!
YEAH, WE'RE GONNA MOVE IT OUT OF HERE, OKAY?
I DID WHAT JO ASKED ME TO DO --
REMOVED THE TVs AND THE VIDEO GAMES.
IT'S GOING OUTSIDE.
NO! GOTTA SAVE THE TVs!
LET GO. LET GO. SAY GOODBYE.
SAY, "BYE. SEE YOU SOON."
SAY, "SEE YOU SOON."
Austin: [ CRYING ]
LET'S PLAY. COME ON.
HEY. HEY, LET'S PLAY.
FORGET THAT. COME ON.
[ CRYING CONTINUES ]
COME ON. STAND UP.
IT'S NOT A BIG DEAL.
[ CRYING CONTINUES ]
LET'S TALK ABOUT SOME TOYS.
HEY, LOOK.
BEFORE JO WOULD HAVE CAME OVER, I PROBABLY WOULD HAVE GAVE IN
AND JUST GAVE HIM BACK THE TELEVISION FOR A LITTLE WHILE
AND JUST TOOK IT AWAY WHEN HE WASN'T WATCHING.
[ Crying ] TV! TV!
YEAH. NOT RIGHT NOW. MAYBE LATER.
I SURE HOPE JO WOULD BE PROUD OF HOW I'M HANDING IT.
I'M SURE TRYING REAL HARD.
IT'S OKAY. OKAY?
IT'S BABY STEPS, AND I'M READY TO GET THE PROCESS STARTED.
THEN I ALSO AM NERVOUS OF BRINGING UP CANS OF WORMS,
SO TO SPEAK -- NOT JUST ONE, BUT MANY.
YEAH, I BET.
I'M GLAD THERE'S THE FIRST STEP TAKEN.
I'M VERY THANKFUL, AND WE KNOW WHERE TO GO.
WE KNOW WHAT TO DO.
WE PUT THIS FOOT FORWARD, AND IT'S WORKING.
I FEEL BETTER TODAY.
WHAT PULLED YOU BACK INTO THE MARRIAGE?
'CAUSE I GET OVERLY FRUSTRATED.
I RAISE MY VOICE AND I YELL AT TIMES.
AND I'VE GOT TO STOP DOING THAT.
I WANT TO DO THIS 'CAUSE I WANT THINGS TO CHANGE, YOU KNOW?
I THINK THERE'S HOPE FOR US BECAUSE, YOU KNOW,
OBVIOUSLY WE NEED TO GET SOME STUFF OFF OUR CHEST
OR WHATEVER.
HOPEFULLY WE'LL CLEAR THE AIR AND WE CAN GO ON.
WE'RE GONNA SEE PIRATES!
WE'RE GONNA SEE PIRATES!
WHOO-HOO!
Tara: WE'RE AT OUR FAMILY OUTING,
WHICH IS THE PIRATE'S DINNER ADVENTURE.
HI, PIRATES.
AHOY!
I WANT TO HEAR YOU GUYS NICE AND LOUD, TOO, ALL RIGHT?
[ LAUGHING ]
Tara: I HEARD AUSTIN LAUGHING OVER HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE,
AND HE LOVES IT.
HE'S HAVING FUN. THEY'RE USING THEIR IMAGINATION.
[ LAUGHING ]
HE IS OUT THERE HAVING A GOOD TIME.
Ashlynn: I HAD A GREAT TIME AT THE PIRATE'S DINNER ADVENTURE
BECAUSE OUR WHOLE FAMILY GOT TOGETHER AT ONCE,
AND WE NORMALLY DON'T DO THAT.
THE ONLY THING THAT I DIDN'T LIKE
WAS THAT I SAT NEXT TO MY DAD.
EVERYTHING THAT HE'S TOLD ME BEFORE --
I CAN'T JUST FORGET ABOUT IT
'CAUSE THOSE THINGS DID HURT AND THEY SCARRED ME.
BUT, SINCE IT'S MY DAD, I THINK I'D LIKE TO SEE US GETTING ALONG
AND ME NOT FEELING FRUSTRATED AT HIM.
Man: ONE...TWO...THREE!
ARRRR!
[ CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS ]
Tara: ASHLYNN.
Ashlynn: WHAT?
COME GET YOUR MESS!
NO, I DON'T WANT TO TOUCH THAT.
IT SOUNDS DISGUSTING.
SINCE JO'S LEFT,
I FEEL THAT ASHLYNN JUST BECAME THE WAY SHE WAS BEFORE.
NO, NO, NO. THIS IS WRONG.
ASHLYNN, COME ON.
THERE'S A SERIOUS LACK OF -- "I DON'T CARE."
DON'T BE A FAT KID GROWING UP, PEYTON.
IT'S NOT FUN.
WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU NEED TO DO THAT?
IF SHE'S FAT WHEN SHE'S OLDER,
SHE'S GONNA UNDERSTAND WHY I'M TRYING TO HELP HER.
I'VE ASKED YOU TO PLEASE STOP.
SHE HAS NO FRIENDS DOWN THE STREET.
THEY IGNORE HER.
STOP! STOP IT!
Tara: IT'S NOT FUNNY.
YOU'RE NOT BEING FUNNY, YOU'RE NOT BEING CUTE.
I'M NOT TRYING TO BE CUTE. I'M NOT TRYING TO BE FUNNY.
YOU DON'T NEED TO DO THAT TO HER!
I'M NOT DOING IT TO HER!
STOP IT!
SHE TOLD PEYTON, YOU KNOW,
SHE HAD NO FRIENDS AND NO ONE LIKES HER.
I WASN'T EVEN MAD.
MY FEELINGS WERE HURT FOR PEYTON.
SHE'S RUNNING AROUND CRYING BECAUSE OF YOU!
YOU'RE NOT HER PARENT!
I AM DISGUSTED!
I'M NOT TALKING TO ANYBODY
BECAUSE I'M RIGHT AND YOU'RE WRONG.
THEN GO TO YOUR ROOM AND DON'T TALK TO ANYBODY!
I'LL GO TO MY ROOM! I'M NOT GONNA TALK TO ANYBODY!
FOR YOU TO DO THAT TO HER AT 6 YEARS OLD IS SO WRONG!
I'M TRYING TO HELP HER.
YOU'RE NOT HELPING HER!
YOU'RE TRYING TO BE A WISE GUY!
I'M TRYING TO EXPLAIN AND YOU'RE TALKING OVER ME.
THAT'S A LITTLE GIRL,
AND SHE DON'T NEED THAT FROM YOU!
...EXPLAIN WHY I'M DOING THIS.
PEYTON. COME HERE, HONEY.
I UNDERSTAND WHERE IT COMES FROM.
I REALLY, REALLY DO.
ASHLYNN -- SHE HANDLED IT
LIKE HER FATHER HANDLED THINGS WITH HER.
SHE WAS HURT FROM THE PAST,
SO THAT CAME OUT THAT WAY ON PEYTON.
THERE'S NO ANGER HERE.
RELAX.
IT'S JUST, MAYBE, SEE IT DIFFERENTLY.
I GREW UP A BIG KID.
PEOPLE CALLED ME NAMES.
PEOPLE NEVER HUNG OUT WITH ME.
I HAD LESS FRIENDS THAN EVERYBODY ELSE.
STOP! LISTEN.
LISTEN RIGHT NOW. YOU ARE YOUR FATHER.
HE IS YOU. YOU ARE THE SAME.
THE WORST PERSON ON EARTH YOU JUST CALLED ME.
I'M NOT GONNA PLAY YOUR GAMES.
I'M GONNA WALK AWAY.
YOU CAN SPEND THE WHOLE ENTIRE DAY IN HERE
TILL YOU COME OUT AND APOLOGIZE.
I'M FRUSTRATED. EVERYONE'S FRUSTRATING ME.
YOU NEED TO APOLOGIZE 'CAUSE YOU'RE REALLY RUDE.
I'M NOT APOLOGIZING.
NO.
YOUR PARENTS HAVE GOT EVERY RIGHT
TO BE ANNOYED WITH YOU.
IF YOU DON'T PULL YOUR SOCKS UP
AND DO WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO DO,
YOU ARE GONNA FORCE YOUR PARENTS TO DO THINGS
THAT YOU'RE NOT GONNA LIKE.
WHY WOULD YOU WANT THAT?
Frost: IT'S RETURN DAY WITH THE MEAD FAMILY.
WHAT HAVE THEY BEEN DOING WHILST I'VE NOT BEEN THERE?
I'M NOT EXPECTING EVERYTHING TO BE PERFECT FOR THIS FAMILY.
THEY HAD A LOT OF WORK TO DO.
HELLO.
HELLO.
HOW WAS YOUR DINNER OUT?
WASN'T IT COOL?
YEAH, IT WAS A BLAST.
INDIVIDUALLY IT WAS GREAT, BUT I REALLY ENJOYED
ALSO WATCHING THEM LAUGH AND GET INVOLVED.
I REALLY HAD A GREAT TIME.
IT'S A REAL FUN THING TO DO FOR THE FAMILY.
HOW ARE YOU DOING, LOVE?
[ SMOOCHES ] GOOD TO SEE YOU.
THE TVs WENT OUT THE HOUSE THE FIRST DAY?
THEY DID.
AND WHO TOOK THEM OUT?
YOU TOOK THEM OUT?
JUST EXPLAIN HOW THAT WENT DOWN.
OH, IT WAS HORRIBLE.
HE WAS -- HE WAS THROWING A TANTRUM ABOUT IT.
HE THREW HIMSELF ON THE GROUND.
YEAH, REMEMBER, THIS IS NOT JUST SOMETHING
HE ENJOYED AND PLAYED A LOT OF.
THIS ALSO WAS THE BABYSITTER FOR HIM, AS WELL,
WHILST EVERYTHING ELSE WAS GOING ON.
SO HE'S BECOME VERY ADDICTED TO THE TELEVISION,
AND IT'S ALSO HIS ESCAPISM, AS WELL.
IT'S WHERE HE ZONED OUT, YOU KNOW?
LET'S STEP BACK OVER HERE FOR A MOMENT
SO WE CAN TAKE A LOOK AT THIS.
AS WE ARE LOOKING AT THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT HERE,
WHO DO YOU FEEL WAS THE WORST?
PROBABLY ASHLYNN.
ARE YOU AWARE OF THAT?
ASH?
ASH AND I -- LET'S HAVE A CHAT.
WHAT ARE YOU SO ANGRY ABOUT RIGHT NOW?
BECAUSE YOU'RE SITTING THERE FUMING
AND YOU'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT IT.
WHAT'S HAPPENING RIGHT NOW?
YOUR PARENTS HAVE GOT EVERY RIGHT
TO BE ANNOYED WITH YOU.
IF YOU DON'T REALLY PULL YOUR SOCKS UP
AND DO WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO DO,
YOU ARE GONNA FORCE YOUR PARENTS TO DO THINGS
THAT YOU'RE NOT GONNA LIKE.
WHY WOULD YOU WANT THAT?
LIKE, WHAT'S GOING ON?
TALK TO ME, ASHLYNN.
[ Voice breaking ] I'M VERY FRUSTRATED.
WHAT ARE YOU FRUSTRATED WITH?
HERE. LIVING HERE.
EXCUSE ME.
IT'S OKAY TO FEEL ANGRY.
IT'S OKAY TO FEEL HURT.
IT'S OKAY FOR YOU TO FEEL THAT.
BUT TO HOLD ON TO ALL THAT ANGER
AND ALL THAT HATRED IS WHAT WILL MAKE YOU ILL.
YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO OWN UP
TO THE THINGS THAT YOU'RE NOT DOING AND PUT IT RIGHT.
DAVE, COME HERE, PLEASE.
DAVE, JUST ALLOW US TO KNOW
THAT YOU KNOW HOW YOU'VE BEHAVED THAT HAS BEEN WRONG.
Dave: I GUESS I'VE BECOME ABUSIVE, MAN.
I DIDN'T REALIZE IT, YOU KNOW?
I'VE BEEN TRYING TO GET YOU TO COME AROUND
AND LISTEN TO ME AND STUFF,
AND I'VE BEEN GOING ABOUT IT THE WRONG WAY, I GUESS.
I LOVE YOU TO DEATH, ASHLYNN.
YOU KNOW I DO, RIGHT?
I KNOW THAT.
I'M SORRY.
Frost: DID YOU ACCEPT YOUR FATHER'S APOLOGY?
YEAH.
DO YOU ACTUALLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD?
I WANT IT IF HE CHANGES THE WAY HE TALKS.
BUT AT SOME STAGE, ASHLYNN,
YOU NEED TO LOOK AT HOW YOU'RE GONNA MOVE PAST THAT.
WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO WITH RESPECT
TO HOW YOU TALK TO YOUR FAMILY?
I'M GONNA TALK WITH RESPECT,
AND I'M GONNA DO WHAT I'M TOLD BEFORE THEY ASK.
IT'S A START, ALL RIGHT?
THIS IS ABOUT MAKING IT WORK,
AND YOU BOTH HAVE TO MAKE THE EFFORT.
YOU GUYS ARE LIKE TWO PEAS IN A POD, SERIOUSLY,
WHICH CAN HAVE YOU BANGING HEADS TOGETHER LIKE STAGS.
SO YOU NEED TO MOVE ON FROM THIS.
YOU NEED TO DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO.
Ashlynn: GETTING THINGS OFF MY CHEST TODAY
HAS BEEN A REALLY BIG RELEASE FOR ME ON MY BEHALF.
IT WAS HARD TO SAY THOSE THINGS THAT I SAID,
BUT AFTER I SAID IT, I FELT A LOT BETTER.
Frost: PEYTON, YOU CAN COME WITH ME, MY LOVE.
SO, DO YOU REMEMBER WHEN I FIRST CAME HERE?
YES.
AND DO YOU REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAID TO ME?
WHAT DID YOU SAY?
"CAN YOU HELP ME, MISS JO?"
BECAUSE MY MOM AND DAD WERE YELLING A LOT AT EACH OTHER,
AND THEN YOU FIXED THAT, RIGHT?
IT'S FIXED NOW? IS IT GETTING BETTER?
OKAY.
THAT'S A GOOD THING THEN, RIGHT?
SO WHAT HAVE YOU NOTICED, THEN?
I NOTICED THAT IF THEY DIDN'T YELL AT EACH OTHER,
THAT WOULD BE A BETTER THING, RIGHT?
YEAH. IT IS BETTER.
THIS IS A GOOD THING.
THIS MAKES ME VERY HAPPY.
Frost: SO, I JUST WANTED TO GATHER YOU ALL TOGETHER
BECAUSE IT'S TIME FOR ME TO LEAVE.
I FEEL THERE'S A LOT THAT'S BEEN LEARNED
AND A LOT THAT CONTINUES.
THANK YOU FOR BEING BRAVE ENOUGH TO LET ME INTO YOUR HOME.
DAVE, BOY, YOU'RE A TOUGH COOKIE BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE.
I HOPE YOU CAN APPRECIATE WHERE I HAD TO GO WITH YOU...
Dave: OH, YEAH.
...IN ORDER TO GET YOU WHERE YOU NEEDED TO AT LEAST BE.
ASHLYNN, YOU AND I HAVE HAD TO HAVE SERIOUS WORDS TODAY.
IN ORDER FOR YOU TO BE ABLE TO MOVE FORWARD,
YOU HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR.
THE SAME FOR YOURSELF, AS WELL, TARA, OKAY?
REMEMBER -- CONTINUE WITH COUNSELING
BECAUSE IT'S SO NEEDED.
Dave: FOR YOU.
OH, THIS IS FOR ME? THIS IS A GIFT FOR ME?
OH, WOW.
THIS IS BEAUTIFUL.
THERE WE GO.
HOW ABOUT THAT? HOW VERY GENEROUS.
THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
BEFORE I LEAVE, WHAT I'M GONNA ASK YOU ALL TO DO
IS TO TAKE A PHOTO RIGHT NOW AS A FAMILY.
SO GIVE ME SOME LOVE!
GIVE ME SOME KISSES 'CAUSE I'M GONNA GO NOW.
[ SMOOCHES ]
BYE-BYE, DARLING.
BYE-BYE. [ LAUGHS ]
Tara: PEYTON!
[ SMOOCHES ]
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, OKAY?
ASHLYNN, OKAY?
GET YOURSELF TOGETHER!
BIG MAN, GIVE ME A HUG.
THANKS SO MUCH.
OKAY, GUYS.
LISTEN, TAKE CARE.
TAKE CARE.
Dave: BE CAREFUL.
THANKS FOR DRIVING OUT.
BYE.
Dave: SAY, "BYE."
Austin: PEACE!
BYE-BYE. BYE-BYE.
PEACE.
I COULDN'T BE MORE THANKFUL, MORE HAPPY,
SETTLED WITHIN MY HEART
TO SEE NOT ONLY MY HUSBAND BUT MY CHILDREN HAPPY.
TO GIVE US THIS GIFT SAVED OUR FAMILY.
Dave: A LOT OF STUFF I DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE ABOUT.
I'M GONNA TRY ALL THE STUFF SHE RECOMMENDS,
YOU KNOW, 'CAUSE I REALLY WANT A GOOD RELATIONSHIP
WITH MY FAMILY, ESPECIALLY ASH.
THANK YOU, MISS JO FROST. THANK YOU.
IT'S NOT BEEN AN EASY JOURNEY FOR THIS FAMILY.
THEY'VE MADE BABY STEPS FORWARD,
AND THAT'S WHAT I WANT TO SEE THIS FAMILY CONTINUE TO DO
BECAUSE THIS FAMILY CAN DO IT IF THEY REALLY WANT TO.