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Hey it's Stephan Erdman here, Today I want to answer a quick question from
one of my videos from my ongoing launch for the Approach At Will program.
What do you think of a man asking for help with something as an open up? A lot of people
would say you shouldn't ask for help because it's weak, or you shouldn't ask for help because
you should always be bossy, or you should be the alpha male, and you should never ask
for help. I don't think so actually it's all about how
you ask for help in my view. Now if you go and you say, "Hi could you help me with something
I need to find a way to this place, I am not quite sure what it is, do you know this area?
I'm sorry to interrupt you" If you ask like that yes this will be detrimental to your
chances of having some sort of impact on her. On the other hand if you ask and go up to
a girl or just say, "Hey could you help me with something please? I have this place that
I need to go and its here and here, do you know it?" And you say it with energy, you
say it with confidence, and you say it with a bit of a charm, you say it with a little
bit of smile, and while she is explaining to you what to do you kind of get a bit get
distracted by how cool she is or whatever if this is your way of starting a conversation.
It's actually really indirect and nice way of getting into deeper conversation with a
girl but you got to be real here. You start off with something that it's about getting
her to help you and so be cool. Don't just all of a sudden say, "Well I just said that
because I'm attracted to you" or something like, "You are so beautiful." No. if you are
going indirect like that then you have to stay cool then you need to be charming, and
you need to be light. So if you transitioned into saying like, "Wow you are so good in
explaining things. I mean it's incredible maybe you should do this professionally."
So you start flirting with her a little bit by teasing her, flirting with her, and if
she reacts positively then you can just say basically something like, "Christ all I wanted
was the way but now I really want to ask for your number and meet you again sometime cause
you are so much fun give it to me." This work extremely well and I really love
the indirectness and it's because it's very hard to make something uncomfortable in that
way because you will be flirtatious and you start off with something quite but you really
need to help and not just pretend you need the help and still don't to this all the time
when you don't actually need any help because it will probably come across because people
are not the best actors like this and you still need to go off to that direction where
you are going, That is how I think you can absolutely use
and ask for help and if you do it in a confident way, in a playful way, and friendly way with
a little bit of glint in your eye absolutely. People like helping people just don't pick
a girl who is rushing down the highway at 50 miles per hour.
Alright, I'll speak to you very soon. Take care and If you want your question answered
just post here under the video if you want or join the launch just sign up there if get
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