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So have you ever given any thought to what you live for? What I live for?
Yeah that concept what do you live for? Well I have 45 grandchildren and I
really think I live for them. I spend every weekend with them and babysit them
and I love my 45 grandchildren. Wow. They bring me happiness I would live for them.
Well you've been holding out on me all this time says so that's amazing. That's
not an uncommon comment I have grandchildren and my children and yeah
but what do you live for? What do you live for? So what what do I what's
happening in my life that I enjoy? Yes what's important to you in terms of how
do you define what gives me happiness versus you're supposed to love your
grandkid -children when you get to be 85 or 90 like you are. You're supposed to do
this that and the other. I don't think I don't think people and me included very often even
consider that question. Yeah so one of the things that I'm watching is as these
times change there's gonna be a lot of very fundamental aspects of these times
in people's lives that are gonna change things that they do by habit or things
that they do by I'm supposed to or I should or this is how it is. Unexamined
is going to potentially create some challenges. I'll give you an example with
our friend Sally I talked to her the other day and she had just come back
from a trip and she said look at these really great things that I bought. Well
the thing about Sally is she buys something every time she goes away. Like
souvenirs. Like souvenirs like knickknacks like things and she puts
them in her house and she's 74 years old and her house is full of no that's not a
judgment on my part that's how she likes her life. But what is not examined is
this accumulation of stuff and then a lot of people at
our age are starting to start to have a consideration of what I do with all
this stuff. But in Sally's case what I watch is she just is in this habit -habit -and
there's no examination of the habit it has nothing to do with knickknacks or
what she does or what but it's not an examination of why do you do this? Well
I'm supposed to or it made somebody happy once upon a time. But what about
you what about the you the you in life do you ever really get to the point of
saying what am I all about. Well some supposed to's are not habits there have
to's. People have to work to pay the rent. Sure sure.
I have 45 children I have to feed them. Sure
so there are half to's and there are things that we assume are half to's also
and there are aspects though that the question is what are you all about.
Well I think it's I think with these with this shift with the transition it's
important for all of us to intentionally consciously identify those things in our
lives that we enjoy. Yeah. And do those things in a very intentional way. Yeah so if you
were alone let's approach the question from that stand point. If you
were alone you didn't have your 45 kids you didn't have me you didn't have and
yet you were okay you didn't have financial difficulties you weren't
physically in peril in any way. What would it take to to consider that
position? Everything's gone you're healthy you're financially okay and at
that point you would probably begin to make a decision or ask the question what
about me? What would I like do? Well isn't that what people do when the kids leave the home
and or they retire? I don't know I don't know I think so I I would think so but
in fact you know we know a lot of people that you know haven't haven't
prepared for their retirement. Haven't thought through their circumstance.
Haven't really planned for here I am what would I like to do? And so I'm just
asking the question. Because one everybody is getting older and two there
are changes that are in the mix that are going to interrupt people's realities.
And so but the really more fundamental question is in what do you who are who
am i how am i experiencing myself what gives me passion what do I enjoy? And
then do those things and then put your attention on them. Watch lots of people
they say oh I'd like to do this or I'd like to do that and yet they it's all
the reasons why they can't do it or they don't pay attention. Right it's an
important question and it's getting to be more and more important for us to look at
ourselves that way. Yeah and there and particularly as you start to step into
this 5th dimensional space so I'm going to talk more and more about this
on Facebook because I want to start to just pose some considerations. But there
are words for example like mastery or graciousness or ease. They are not in our
vocabulary. Oh I just spoke those words but they don't have any place -in 3d -in
3d. They're not 3d words so when you start to step into this 5th
dimensional space words like certainty and it's and seniority and this
is who I am the ability to begin to reframe yourself and still take care of
your 45 kids from a from a me enjoying space. And maybe many people enjoy their
grandkids I get that. Yeah. But the me space how do I begin to become masterful of my
life. Yeah. And that's the part where I'm really generating the question from. So
we'll talk about this more. Yeah let's do that.
So are you going to spend this weekend with your
45 kids? And their dogs and cats. Dog ok. There's 13 all together. Wow. Dogs and cats. Wow.
Okay. Would you like to join me? No thank you no thank you but enjoy yourself.
Thank you. We'll talk about this again maybe.