Should I Get a Divorce?

Should I get a divorce? What did your husband do? It’s not one specific thing. It is a collection of thoughts, feelings and experiences. You shouldn’t rush into a divorce. Of the people who tough out a rough patch, half of them are as happy or happier just three years later. When should I get a divorce? If he is addicted to drugs or alcohol and won’t get treatment, that is a valid reason to leave. If he is physically violent, you should leave, but women need to be careful about accusing someone of emotional abuse when they are as often emotionally abusive back. There’s no physical abuse. It is stress – like work, money fights, and so forth. If the financial stress is because he doesn’t have a job, get marital counseling and push him to take a job, any job. If the stress is bad now, imagine how much worse it would be with higher household expenses of two households instead of one – and legal bills. He’s overspending and won’t talk to me about money. He just spends as he pleases and assumes I’ll take care of it. That is a sign of immaturity or self-centeredness. Of course, immature people are self-centered. And he can be a big baby sometimes. Was he like this before you got married? He would spend money like it was nothing. I thought he was well-off, a good provider – A lot of divorces happen because people get married despite being incompatible. You have to agree on things like wanting a family, liking each other’s family, faith and finances. What can I do about all of this? Have you considered going to financial education classes together, like Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University or money management courses? Like I have time for that! Like you have time for divorce proceedings, shuttling kids between visits and doing more work all by yourself. What do I do if he won’t go to financial education courses or get a handle on his spending? Then you know he isn’t serious about fixing the problem. Then you can get a divorce.