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Hello welcome to my blog daily rantra my name is Shaun Fallows and i'm gonna talk a topic
tonight that i think is the holly grail for everyone i wanna talk about love and dating
i want to start by sharing an experience i had a few years ago when i went to manchester
i like to try new things so i went speed dating
It was interesting and fun but the thing that stays with me most from the night that it
took so long to get under the tables with my wheelchair by the time i'd got set the
bell rang and i had to move on to the next table so all i really got to say was hi my
name is shaun i'm from wigan then that was it. I think though on the topic of dating
and things i can't hide the fact my disability i never feel disabled but it's there its obvious
i mean i've got a bent back and always been small you know those kind of things i think
they stick out sometimes to people.
But in all honesty it doesn't matter if you're able bodied or disabled dating and love is
hard for anybody but i do think if you do have a physical disability you can up the frustration factor by 3 that
because the obstacles triple that as well as sometimes it feel you're getting nowhere
My view of love and dating has changed a bit as .i've got older i've never been good at
dating or relationships i've not had enough experience but when i first went to college
i' felt most confident i did every course going it seemed and at that time if someone
would have said there's a course going to be a professional ladies man i probably would
have applied but as time goes on at think naturally if you get some knocks to confidence
you start to wonder a bit and start to get a lot more self concious so if i can just
finished that little rant by reading a poem which i hope summarises how i feel about love
i owe this to soul guy bill withers cos i was listening to one of his songs called let
me in your life and before he starts the song he says A lot of cats get up around the age
of early 30's and they start to think of like lifetime companionship and when i heard him
say this it struck a chord because it made me think im getting up around 30 and so i
wrote this its just called love to have you in my life
When I say I never thought I'd write this that's not arrogance only what able young
person thinks they'll hit struggle? But I still want to love in all its many ways.
I want to love for we've been on the same train but stopped at different destinations.
I want to love but you pay for educations. Whether that's formal or from your parents.
Now that's not to say I haven't felt great things, I've had so many infatuations.
And to this day I remember every one. I want to love because of my insecurities
my body is just a shell I want to love to give more than my body could
ever tell. I want to love because we all reside somewhere
in between heaven and hell. I want to love because no one can live in
the past. I want to love because you only know me, as
of now. I want to love because by all reasonable accounts,
I still like some of what I see. I want to love because I hope you'll like
it too. I want to love because I won't be pigeon-
holed. I want to love because I want to treat you
well. I want to love because I want to take you
out for nice meals I want to love to stay in and eat junk on
the couch. Yeah, let's get junk together.
I want to love an awful lot, so lets take our time and get it right
So i suppose that the obvious side of love the one we all see the physical side but i
want to talk about another side of love too its about the kind of feeling i get when i
do the poetry and being free creative going out connecting its love as well but a different
kind so if i can finish the blog reading a poem on that and this ones called strange
army this is about why we write and create and it goes
We walk alone steps out of time but somehow unison
There's no uniform The grafters the romantics, jokers, realists
The forever unsure There's not even a medical
Just show me you've lived Open up a little, or bloom quickly it's up
to you There's no rush
You'll get there when you get there
The young ones in a hurry to prove The matured dry cured ones just happy to move
We are a strange army We have no leader as such but do idolise
collective creativity nomads No disciples there'd not be a table big enough
there's no pass or fail test The doctors, the teacher s rub shoulders with
the student what your doing now is all that counts
At least I think it does We are a strange army
We'd probably never brush shoulders if it wasn't for this
This escapism that reflects the glory shades of life completely
Only the curiosity sweeping with the velocity of a forest fire
Adaptable more than itinerary running with whatever the surroundings desire
See the inner mechanisms turning We are a strange army
Pouring syrup on the soul
Until next time keep loving, keep enjoying & keep living