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Heya playas, one of the ongoing dilemma's that men and women face is being able to effectively
communicate with one another. It seems like both want the other to see things from their
perspective and they're clueless as to how they can't. Well, that all changes now. Men
of the world, hear my tips on how to communicate with women. To know is to understand, and
what you have to understand here is that being a great listener is one of the most important
things that you can be. Have you ever been in a situation where the girl that you're
with erupts out of nowhere and begins to go off about all the things that you've done
wrong? And as a logical and understanding person your first assumption is damn, this
is one crazy ***. So you go about picking apart each word in her sentence to explain
your actions to her. If she's angry about a situation why wouldn't she want you to explain
how your actions are justified and how she's overreacting and just needs to calm down?
This is called not listening. The great majority of times the girl is expressing how she feels
and what she's looking for is comfort. Trying to always "solve" her problem makes her feel
like you don't think that she can't handle it on her own or that you're just trying to
say whatever you can just to end it. The next time you encounter a situation like this,
try to solve it this way. When you feel like she's spun out of control, stop what you're
doing, pull her aside, look her in the eyes and just listen. It is so important to let
her know that she is respected, validated and understood. Your job as her significant
other is to make her feel appreciated and I can guarantee that if you do that, her mood
will change. Because when it all comes down to it, it's not about changing her mind, it's
about changing her mood. It's our male ego and pride that always make us feel like we
need to control a situation and in controlling the situation we treat it as if it was a bomb
we're trying to diffuse. We go reaching over the wires trying to find the right one and
hoping for the best that we don't make a mistake. Well there's no magic wire or phrase that
you could say to make the girl stop feeling what she's feeling. What we end up doing is
saying that her behavior is immature or unnecessary. My dude, if you don't want to deal with it
and feel that it's too much, well the door is right there. But if the girl is someone
worth caring about, don't antagonize her by acting careless. When you come off like you
don't give two *** about how the girl is feeling, uh, that is the ultimate dagger in
the heart. If she wants you to put her coat on for her when she leaves and you don't,
she's gonna feel like you're not willing to provide her with what she needs. If she spends
hours getting ready just to go out with you and you don't appreciate that, she's gonna
feel unwanted. If you find yourself in a place where you're both angry, well, be a man, do
the right thing. Take charge and diffuse the situation properly. Stop overlooking the real
reason and know that that's what she needs to feel ok. Like this video if you agree that
men need to be better listeners. Leave a comment letting me know, what's the worst thing you've
said or have heard said to a girl when she was angry. And subscribe to the channel for
more tips on humans, such strange creatures. As always guys, love and peace. Be willing
to talk to, that's also important. Guys, you need to learn to structure the things you
say in a less aggressive tone and in a way that'll benefit the discussion. Stop trying
to always be right, it's just not cool.