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I'm annoyed at my significant
other again. Is it my problem or are we a bad
match?
Well,
good question.
It really depends.
Depends on who you are and what your circumstances. There's a good chance
you're a bad match.
And the way that you're gonna figure out if you're a bad match is to get really
really clear about what your needs are in a relationship, and what your
wants are. If you have a list of all the things that you know that you
require
in order to feel connected and whole
in your relationship, and if those things are missing from your relationship, then
there's a good chance that it's a bad match.
But, if you have all those things
that you really require, that you know that you're with a wonderful person,
and that this is the person that you, you truly feel connected to in all the ways
that are most important to you,
than there's a good chance that you're just taking out your own stuff
on them. 'Cause we go through so many ups and downs and lefts and rights
in life
and it's really important to take responsibility for ourselves. If we're
feeling frustrated,
if we're feeling annoyed, it's very easy to point fingers
and place the blame on whoever it is
that triggered that emotional response in us. But,
But if we just focus on blaming and being annoyed at whoever it is
that triggered that emotional response in us, we're not taking responsibility for
our feelings. And, so, it is very important to recognize that if you are feeling annoyed,
that is your feeling and it is your responsibility to sooth, it is your
responsibility to figure out,
and placing blame on the other person is never going to help you
alleviate that, 'cause you never gonna change another person.
The only person you have any possibility of changing is yourself.