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So as a parent, you can play such a big role
in your child learning how to deal with their emotions.
So, taking a gentle and supportive approach
can be really helpful and limiting your overreactions back.
Other things that could be helpful
could be getting down on your child's level
both in their perspective as well as physically as well
to truly understand what it is that's triggered them.
A skill that's been highlighted by John Gottman
is referred as emotion coaching
where we start to link situations to a feeling
to help them understand what's going on.
So for example, Jack I can see you're really upset right now
because you wanted a turn on the swing at the park
and there's someone on it right now.
You could also become an external problem solver
where you start to think of potential solutions
alongside your child.
For example, Jack I'm wondering if there's anything else
you'd like to do in the park
while we wait for that swing to be free.
Labelled price is also something else that's really helpful.
So you're highlighting what you'd love to see more
from your child as well.
So, good boy Jack for packing away your toys,
for example.
Of course, there's always gonna be those behaviours
in the no-go zone.
You see it all the time such as hitting, biting,
running off in dangerous places.
And certainly, these need to be immediate and brief
considering their age.
Nice and concise as well as perhaps giving them
some quiet time to regroup.
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