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My boyfriend just got out of jail. What should I do?
Please, oh, please do not rush over to give him a big welcome and get knocked up.
That’s straight out of a soap opera.
A lot of guys straight out of jail want beer, pizza and a girlfriend, roughly in that order.
The odds of making a bad but life changing decision go way up when he’s just gotten
out of jail from making a prior bad but life changing decision.
He should have learned from jail.
There are fair odds he learned more criminal behavior from other criminals instead of how
to live on the straight and narrow path.
Which is straight out of a horror novel.
You can date a guy who has been in jail and totally reformed his life. But a guy straight
out of prison is a prime suspect in anything and everything.
Even if he lives at home.
The re-offender rate for a lot of categories is over 50%. About two thirds end up back
in jail within three years.
That is horrible. That also doesn’t mean he will be one of them.
The best thing you can do is hook him up with support resources like a 12 step program to
stay off drugs and alcohol, job training and even a job.
I’m here to support him.
He went to jail for bad decisions. Unless it was a one-off mistake, he could do it again.
Some people are framed.
OK, the LA police are getting sued for that, and the Dallas, Texas cops had a whole slew
of cases where they arrested people for drugs that were just billiard chalk. But 95% of
the time, that is a load of crock.
If I abandon him, I’m afraid of what might happen.
If you are afraid of him, you must leave him.
And that’s a tragedy.
Better than you ending up like Romeo and Juliet.
That was a love story!
They both died at the end!