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No, but it's really true, and I think you're making a really good point too. This idea
that, if you're not dealing with the feelings, it comes out in other ways. I mean, my way
was always eating, you know. And so, and then I would over-exercise. So, I would use food
as a means of, if I was uncomfortable on the inside or if there was anxiety, that was my
self-soothing mechanism, and I know lots of people who do. Or there's drinking, or there's sex,
whatever is, right, that makes us feel comfortable when we're uncomfortable. Rather
than learning how to actually sit with the discomfort, to feel it, to just cry on a Saturday night
if that's what we need to do, and learn how to honor those feelings and go through it.
I feel like, as a society, this is kind of my personal mission and I know yours is
hope, but mine is, like how do we, how can we learn how to deal with our pain, you know?
Because if we don't deal with it, we look at our obese society, and in debt, all these things,
and I personally feel like it comes from not being able to deal with our difficult
emotions, no one's teaching us. Absolutely, because you get told, or you feel that if
you aren't strong, or at least in my case, but if you aren't strong than there's something,
you know, weak or wrong with you. Or, you know, if you're unhappy like it is, like you
were saying, it is okay to feel that sadness, there are gonna be days like that and than
the worst is that when you do feel it, then you punish yourself over it. Like, I used
to do that, like "Why am I unhappy? I'm strong," or "Why did I get in this relationship? I
know better than that," you know, "I know better than these things." And so, then, going into
that cycle then it turns into a whole downward spiral. And so I'd be like, you know what,
I'm human, I'm human. You know what, I make mistakes, and it's okay to pick yourself back
up and try again, like none of us are perfect. And I think that if more people put themselves
out there like that, that we're all going through trials and we all need each other
and we can all be there to help one another, I think our lives would improve tenfold for
all of us.