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Today's topic: Come Up With A Better Story
Hi I'm Doug Holt with Author of Your Own Story and this is your daily growth hack
where each day we give you a tip trick or insight to help you up level what we
call the five to thrive that is your mind your body your soul your
relationships and of course your business now what I'm talking about
today come up with a better story I get is so excited and passionate about this
and we've talked about it before another daily growth hacks but I just had a
conversation this morning with a family member
now of course family people you know put members of ours they can really push our
buttons right they know exactly what to say to kind of drive our nerves or
trigger us from past experiences that we may have had with them now luckily in my
stage of development I can really let a lot of this just bounce off me it
doesn't take a pound take it personally but what does affect me is when a family
member isn't living up to their own potential that actually really hurts me
now from a judgmental standpoint but from a standpoint where I'm hearing them
complain all the time and I'm like ah I just want you to be happy just want you
to love between you to enjoy life and a lot of that is really just their story
they live in a story over and over and over again and I know you know people
just like this and maybe you're one of them maybe or not you know I know I
found myself being one of them many many times when you peel back that layer of
those onions but you know these people they're always complaining perhaps or or
maybe it's someone who's always sad or maybe someone who's always broke or
maybe someone is always the victim and somebody else's fault that things are
happening to them in their lives they're a victim of circumstance right we all
know people like this so what I'm gonna ask you to do is make sure you don't
become one of them and what I want you to do is write a better story I want you
to write a better story about yourself and when you write your life story make
sure you're the hero are you the hero in this journey I want you to write a story
about you that you can live in too and I want to be epic
I want it to be a best-seller a page-turner that you just don't want to
put down you're like wow you know this person which is you is just living an
epic life a life that I've only dreamed of that's what I did and that's where I
camp the author of your own story concept is when I realized at a young
age that I could write into my future and be whatever I wanted to be you know
I was a business owner at a very young age and people told me I
couldn't do it there I got don't do that go back to school
your MBA you know they gave me a lot of advice and it was great advice for them
but not for me and when I wrote out what I really wanted what would really make
my life amazing by the time I was thirty you know at the time I'm in my early 20s
and 30 was old right and so by that time what would it be
and one of them was owning my own business in the fitness industry I
really wanted to do I was passionate about helping people it's passionate
about health and wellness and fitness so I just wanted to do it and I loved
having my own business so I started several of them probably because I'm
just crazy but I did that and I wrote that into a story and when I first wrote
it I was kinda like oh yeah you know I can go work for somebody I can be
independent all these things that I knew I could do and do easily but it wasn't
an exciting it wasn't an exciting story I was like why would I really want to
read this and pick it off a bookshelf and and actually enjoy it and the answer
is no I just didn't turn me on so to speak I just wasn't excited I
wasn't the hero I was just into guy going through the motions and so along
this way of my journey you know now I'm 40 I have written rear it written and
rewritten my story many many times and I try to do it every year at least and at
least revisit that story and just make changes cuz I changed my you know as I
mature my wants my desires change and now I'm a family man I've got it you
know a beautiful boy and a lovely wife and so it's changed right so but I still
want the adventure and I still want to be the hero and I still want to be the
page-turner I want to be the guy that when I'm reading the book and frankly no
offense I don't care what you think about that story but it's for me that
when I'm reading a book I'm like man this guy's a hero this is the guy that I
want to be that's what I want to read so that's what I want to write down and I
want you to do the same I use the five to thrive to make sure I'm covering all
those five areas and that's where we came up to the five to thrive it's a
holistic representation of you and your life now does it cover everything maybe
not but we try to fit everything into those five categories and if you have
other ones let us know and maybe we'll see how we can meld them in we're always
adjusting as well but this is where I came up with the author of your own
story concept is I want other people to live into it I was tired of people
telling me how epic my life was and it was good for me and that yeah Doug I
wish I could do that but I can't do it cuz I have a job I can't do except kids
I do have a family I can't do it cuz I
don't have enough money I can't do it whatever I heard so many excuses and it
just drove me nuts and so I wanted to help people and that's where we came up
with author of your own story and that's why I do these daily growth hacks just
to hopefully give you something to think about a short little nugget in the
morning that can hopefully trigger something and it could be something like
Doug's crazy and that's fine too and maybe it just makes you feel better
about your life but hopefully you're doing the work and you're doing these
exercises and you're writing a story and I want that story to be amazing and
compelling to you and if you're listening to this right now you're kind
of going oh man my story's not that compelling this is your wake-up call
this is your chance to write that down I don't care for you're a millionaire I
have most in fact every one of my personal clients are millionaires so it
doesn't mean they're happy I know this I know it really really really well now I
don't care what it is what stage your life what your past is with the
victimhood just just write a new story what I want you to do is carve out a
couple hours and if you're like most people you're like I just don't have a
couple hours up I'm busy I'm just got all this things going and to that I say
bull crap you can develop a couple hours in your life I know it if you're
watching any TV at all if you're doing any reading you're doing any leisurely
activities you have time now this is your story this is your life and to me
this is one of the most important things to do this is an epic representation of
what you're gonna become and I had a conversation with somebody
just last night and I said oh yeah you're up you're busy doing your
day-to-day which you're too busy to play in your life and I said it very starkly
and very sarcastically and I I'm not really sure they picked up on it but
what I was really trying to tell them was like look I get it
you're busy with your day-to-day life running through but you're busy being
busy rather than being strategic planning the life that you want to live
you know you're not gonna end up having this epic life most likely unless you
plan it out and do some work and even subconsciously get pulled to those
desires and that's what I want for you I want you to write an epic bestseller
right now and it just has to be a paragraph right maybe a page or two if
you're inspired to do so but even just a paragraph on who is that person who is
the hero with inside of you and where do they do it to live an epic life that's
it for me today in our groups and our author of your University
we do a deep deep dive in s it's extremely extremely important that you
do as well but in these videos I try to keep them all under 10 minutes and as
close to 5 as I can and I can see they're already going up and if you
listen to this in the podcast you totally understand what I'm talking
about so what I want you to do is go over make sure your honor email list you
got to get on that newsletter because there's so many other bonuses that are
gonna help you out and things I just can't talk about in these daily growth
hacks and I want to make sure you also get inspired by the interviews we have
amazing people coming up that I get a chance to do a long-form interview over
two hours where I dive deep because I don't want to just ask them to sound by
questions that you hear everywhere I want to get to know woman really know
what happened for me and what moves them passionately to allow them to become the
authors of their own story so it can move you I'm just one man and my stories
is unique to me but there's so many people doing epic things and I want to
make sure you get a chance to hear from them too and then what I want you to do
of course and I asked this a lot because I was so bored is grow your tribe share
this with three people three people right now and if you're working out just
hit stop it hit the share button on your iPhone or Android and share with three
people if you're watching this on YouTube or Facebook or wherever you are
LinkedIn just share it with three people and that way you can have some
conversations and conversations that matter this is all important for you to
grow your tribe I want you to grow and I want you to have accountability partners
to allow you to go in there that's it for me today as always have a great day
and go out be the author of your own story