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Erik: Why is there such a need to rethink dating behavior among mid career professional
men and women?
Hattie: Number one I think that dating is, obviously, in our generation completely changed,
especially with the Internet. I actually have no problem against dating on the Internet
and I do know people who have met people. Personally for me because time is valuable
the back and forth, back and forth only makes someone know in 5 minutes whether its going
to work, itÕs a little too laborious. I like the idea of actually meeting someone in person
from the get go and immediately assessing that out. What I hear all the time, which
is really sad, is I meet the most incredible men and women and they are so driven and want
to build up their careers and they think that their personal life will just fall into place
but thereÕs no guarantee when it comes to love and family and personal life and I just
meet so many people who are so focused for so long on their careers, especially women,
and then they get to their mid to late thirties and suddenly its like running into a brick
wall and they suddenly realize that their biological clock ticking and they really would
like to meet someone to spend their life with and thereÕs almost a feeling of desperationÉ
and its harder. Not to say you canÕt meet someone when youÕre a woman and youÕre in
your late thirties but itÕs a little bit harder and thereÕs not the grace period in
terms of dating and starting a family that there is if you started that process when
youÕre a little bit younger. And with men I see that all the time too, it just comes
a few years later, where again they have this nice apartment and this nice car and a nice
chunk of change but what is any of that worth if you donÕt have anyone to share it with?
Going to eat a great restaurant and having a wonderful meal and sharing a bottle of wine,
if youÕre eating and drinking by yourself, its all about the experience you have of sharing
that with someone. So I think because weÕre so pre-distracted with our careers and the
monetary stuff we sometimes forget about the simple stuff and at the end of the day thatÕs
kind of what really matters.