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My pregnancy is ruining my marriage. What can I do?
Part of this depends on the stress it is causing.
It’s stressing me out, him out and our relationship.
Are you stressed out that you aren’t as attractive or feel bad? Is he afraid he can’t
support a baby in addition to the two of you?
He hasn’t said, exactly.
One thought is that you shouldn’t hold back on *** contact while pregnant, since men
associate that with love. Another thing you should do is a budget.
I’ve heard it costs a quarter million dollars to raise a kid. How will we afford that?
Those numbers are way overblown. A large chunk of that cost is the assumption you’ll get
a much larger place to live and increase your housing costs, while the other is that you’ll
have a bigger car or transportation costs.
No one ever mentioned that. What about the cost of college?
Worry about paying for the birth first.
And diapers and wipes.
That’s $40 a week. You can pay for that if you stop ordering out as much pizza and
have movie rentals at home instead of going out to the bar.
He likes to blow off steam.
Find ways to relax at home that are together and cheaper. You’ll improve the relationship
and your budget.
I worry about the baby driving him away.
I hope you didn’t have a baby in the hope it would make a rocky relationship stable
or make a nervous guy stay, because if he thinks you did it to trap him, you’ve ruined
two lives.
No, there were times he said he wanted a kid eventually.
Read parenting books aloud to him while he plays video games or go over a budget together
to afford the kid without making him work overtime.
You think that’s it?
If he’s stressed over money now, assuming the kid costs 20K a year is terrifying.
And all I worried about was if I’d be a good mother.
If you’re worried about how to take care of the kid, you are good parents.