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O.k. people do what they do to maintain relationships all the strange and different, and kooky things
they do for so many; such a variety of reasons, we couldn't even go into all of it at this
particular time but there are several theories that explain why the relationship maintains
and then why it finally doesn't and they are the attraction theory; the social exchange
theory and the equity theory. And the first one I want to talk about is the attraction
theory and the concept of this is that the entire relationship is based on attraction,
and it doesn't necessarily have to mean physical attraction; I'm attracted to your mind, I'm
attracted to your personality; I'm attracted to the way you look, I mean physicality can
definitely be a big part of it. As soon as that attraction is gone then the relationship
can no longer be maintained because the entire relationship was based on attraction and this
is what you see happening when people change. Unfortunately we see this a lot when couples
who are married get older and it's sometimes referred to as the midlife crisis in men;
all of a sudden she's had four children and doesn't look like she did when she was 20,
he loses all of his hair; he's changed; she's changed, whatever happens; whatever changes
occur if that attraction no longer exist, you're in; you got some trouble.