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Ohai!
First things first, I gotta pee.
So it's been a while since I was in the woods.
The last time, I remember screaming something about vaginas.
Having a lot of sex will not make your *** loose!
Sounds about right.
Today, I also kinda want to talk about vaginas
but let's not get too ahead of ourselves.
I have a question for you.
What is...
virginity?
This question actually got me really interested
in the study of human sexuality.
Because I thought it was so weird,
and I'm like "why the f*** does anyone care about this?"
And two, after I "lost my virginity",
I was like: "wait a second, nothing happened!"
So I think when people think of "losing their virginity",
most often, they're thinking of...
But then, it's like, OK, what if you both have these?
What if you both have these?
What if I've never had pen' in vagin' but in the next hour,
I give 500 ***.
Am I still a ***?
Laci Green asking the top questions, y'all!
There's no one around.
Asking the camera top questions!
So, there's a lot of weirdness around it
and whenever I hear people asking about losing their virginity and stuff,
I'm like "well..."
Can we get rid of the term virginity?
Because it's actually ***.
So you watched my *** video, right?
Of course you did.
If you didn't, what are you doing with your life?
Basically, that video talks about your ***,
it can't be popped, you don't tear it, you don't break it.
This is an absurd myth.
Yeah, otherwise, how else would you put a tamp on it?
How the f*** would you be able to have blood come out of your ***
when you start menstruating?
The *** is gonna fit into a bigger picture
that I'm gonna paint here in a second.
Let's back up like say, several thousands years.
The concept of virginity started in the neolithic era
with a biological problem
that our good friend Maury has built an empire around.
"Andrew, you are not the father!"
Now, thousands of years ago, they didn't have birth control
and also, men controlled... uhm...
everything.
Property, food, shelter, clothing...
And so virginity came about as a way to prove to a dude
that you are in fact responsible.
Historically, virginity also meant dollars for your daddy.
Having a virginal daughter attracted men of other households
who then wanted to marry her
and gave your dad a lot of money to do so.
We still see echoes of this historical things
not only in the whole "losing your virginity" thing,
but like when you walk down the aisle to get married
and your dad gives you away.
You're wearing a white dress because virginity is "pure".
If you think there's some racist *** going on there,
you would be right.
So historically, what happens to the "***" and "***"
who were "not virgins anymore",
they were seen as unmarriageable,
they couldn't be sold,
they were disowned by their families,
some were forced into prostitution.
In Ancient Rome, the father was permitted to kill his daughter.
And throughout the world, "honor crimes"
allow families to beat, mutilate and kill their daughters
because their family has been dishonored by her having sex.
So they beat the *** out of her, and the family's honor is restored.
See, that bird's hollering, she's like:
"*** those honor crimes!"
So, when I say that virginity is ***,
and that it's socially constructed,
do I mean that it's not really a real thing that affects people?
Of course not.
What I'm saying is that, to me, I don't think it should be.
When I think about the way that I was taught
to think about my virginity
and to think about other people's virginity
as a measure of their value,
to think of ***-in-*** sex as some special magical kind of sex
that has the power to change you
more than any other sort of *** act,
when I think about how young women today are still killed,
when I think about how there's no actual physical measure
or how the *** was just sort of something that someone made up
during the Scientific Enlightenment
because they had no other way to show physical proof,
when I think about how virginity has been intimately tied
to the commodification and ownership of women's bodies
and when I think about how this concept is still used
to shame people, to control people,
how much power it has,
it pisses me off,
I'm like : "F*** this myth,
I'm gonna go climb a tree."
I would argue that...
Oh my god...
I would argue that we shouldn't use virginity
as a status symbol
as as any sort of actual measure.
It's just, you know...
sexism and sex-negativity.
So instead of calling it "losing your virginity",
I like to call it your "*** debuts".
I like to think that, in that reframing
and in taking the power away from that concept,
that we actually give power back to people.
Ain't that right, tree?
The trees and the birds are my friends.
You'd never tell someone that their worth is tied
to whether or not a *** has been inside them, right?
Course you wouldn't.
I love you, tree.