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>>> I KNOW YOU NOTICED IT.
MORE AND MORE PEOPLE PUTTING OFF
MARRIAGE EVEN IF THEY'RE IN
LOVING RELATIONSHIPS.
IS BEING GUN SHH A GOOD THING.
WITH MORE ON THE USERS GUIDE TO
LOVE AND MONEY.
STACY FOUNDER OF THH DAILY
AFFAIR, YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO
BREAK UP.
WELCOME TO THE SHOW.
I SENSE, BECAUSE YOU SEE THE
NUMBERS LIKE HOW LONG PEOPLE
WAIT TO GET MARRIED CURRENTLY
PEOPLE THEY ARE WAITING UNTIL
THEY ARE 29 AND 27, MEN AND
WOMEN TO GET MARRIED.
REAL RELUCTANCE TO MAKE THE
COMMITMENT.
WHY IS IT HAPPENING?
>> WELL, PEOPLE TODAY ARE USING
--
ESPECIALLY YOUNG ADULTS ARE
HAVING MARRIAGE NOW AS THE
CAPSTONE RATHER THAN THE CORNER
STONE.
THAT IS THEY ARE WAITING TO PUT
--
GET ALL THEIR DUCKS IN A ROW.
THEY WANT TO HAVE THE CAREER AND
FINANCIALLY SOLVENT BEFORE THEY
TAKE THE NEXT STEP.
>> LET ME TELL YOU, I'M WAITING
FOR MY DUCKS TO BE IN A ROW
STILL.
CULTURALLY YOUNG ADULTS HAVE
INCREASINGLY BECOME TO SEE
MARRIAGE AS CAPSTONE RATHER THAN
CORNER STONE AFTER THEY HAVE THE
DUCKS IN THE ROW RATHER THAN A
FOUNDATION FOR LAUNCH ADULTHOOD
AND PARENTALLY HOOD.
IT'S THINKING DIFFERENTLY ABOUT
YOUR LIFE AT THE END OF THE DAY
--
HE WERE TALKING ABOUT SHOULD YOU
GET THE PRENUP.
I WAS THE ONLY ONE IN THE ROOM
VOTING NO.
I GUESS I'M OLD FASHIONED.
PEOPLE SEE THE INSTITUTION
DIFFERENTLY TODAY.
>> PEOPLE DEFINITELY DO.
I'M OLD FASHIONED LIKE YOU, I
THINK IT IS BECAUSE OF WE'RE OF
A CERTAIN AGE.
IT YOU'RE IN YOUR 20S AND 30S,
YOU KNOW, IF YOU'RE A FEMALE,
YOU WANT TO BE COMPETING JUST
LIKE THE GUYS.
YOU WANT TO HAVE YOUR CAREER.
YOU WANT TO PUT OFF HAVING
CHILDREN.
THEN YOU'RE GOING TO GET
MARRIED.
IF YOU HAVE DONE ALL THE WORK TO
GET A CAREER AND TAKE THE OFF TO
HAVE A CHILD.
WHAT IF YOOR HUSBAND IS NOT
WORKING.
GERRI: WHEN WE GET CRITICIZED
FOR HAVING IT ALL AND DON'T AND
GET CRITICIZED FOR THAT TOO.
I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE TOPIC
WE'RE TACKLING TODAY.
THE IDEA OF HITTING A FINANCIAL
PROBLEM.
HAVING A TRAGEDY THAT IS
FINANCIALLY EITHER AN ILLNESSES
OR, YOU KNOW, SOME KIND OF BIG
BILL THAT ARRIVES AT YOUR
DOORSTEP.
YOU SAY TOO OFTEN COUPLES WILL
USE IT AS AN EXCUSE TO GET A
DIVORCE.
>> I THINK THE FIRST THOUGHT IS,
GET ME OUT OF HERE!
YOU WANT TO ESCAPE WHETHER IT IS
LITERALLY GATE DIVORCE OR
SEPARATE OR IN YOUR HEAD.
YOU KNOW, ESCAPE FROM THE
SITUATION OR HAVE AN AFFAIR OR
TURN TO DRINKING OR DRUGS.
GERRI: THERE IS A --
>> MANY.
MANY.
>> YEAH.
GERRI: CAN YOU RECOMMIT?
>> ABSOLUTELY.
IN FACT, THAT SAME STUDY THAT
YOU TALKED ABOUT, THEY DID A
STUDY OF ALMOST 1200 PEOPLE, AND
--
WHO WERE MARRIED 18 TO 45.
29% FELT THE RECESSION MADE THEM
DEEPEN THEIR COMMITMENT TO THE
MARRIAGE.
AND ALMOST 40% HAD BEEN
CONSIDERING DIVORCING BEFORE THE
RECESSION WOUND UP THROWING THAT
IDEA AWAY AND STAYING TOGETHER.
SO IT IS IRONIC BECAUSE ACTUALLY
DIVORCE RATES AND INFIDELITY
DROP WHEN YOU HAVE HARD ECONOMIC
TIMES.
PEOPLE WANT TO STAY TOGETHER.
GERRI: THE EXPECTATIONS WE'LL
HAVE A HIGHER RATE OF DIVORCE
NOW THAT THE RECESSION HAS SORT
OF LIFTED EVEN THOUGH WE DON'T
HAVE GREAT GROWTH.
YOU WOULD THINK THAT, BUT THE
OPPOSITE IS ACTUALLY HAS BEEN
HAPPENING IN AND THE SAME
HAPPENED IN ENGLAND.
GERRI: I WANTED TO TALK ABOUT
THIS.
THE ECONOMY GOES SOUTH.
YOU GET TESTED.
MAYBE BECAUSE OF AN ILLNESSES
MAYBE BECAUSE YOU HAVE A PROBLEM
WITH THE FAMILY.
IT'S THOSE TESTS, THOUGH, THAT
GIVE YOU THE CONFIDENCE TO BE A
COUPLE IN THE FUTURE; RIGHT?
THAT WHAT TELLS YOU WE'RE MEANT
TO BE TOGETHER, LOOK WHAT WE
SURVIVED.
>> EXACTLY.
YOU LOOK AT SCOTT AND BETHENNY
WHO YOU JUST INTERVIEWED.
PEOPLE GET TOGETHER THROUGH
ADVERSE TIME.
IT'S PART OF THE MARRIAGE VOW IN
BAD TIMES AND GOOD TIMES, HEALTH
AND SICKNESS.
ALL OF THOSE.
THAT'S WHAT YOU REMEMBER.
THAT'S WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER.
WHEN YOU GET THROUGH THOSE TOUGH
TIMES TOGETHER.
>> STACY, THANK YOU FOR COMING
ON WITH YOUR GREAT TIPS.
GOOD STUFF.
THANK YOU.
>> MY PLEASURE.
>>> WE WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU
THINK.
HERE IS OUR QUESTION.
DO MARRIAGES FAIL BECAUSE OF