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If anything helps me move on and come to terms with it, it has been the support of my family
and friends. And, the idea that, despite the fact that one person has left the family,
I think the thing that has helped me to move on from the anger I had towards my Dad is
mostly just accepting the way he is, and my Mum as well. Because, my Mum been through
as much sort of rubbish as I have with him, and she has made it through. I think that
I can as well. And, I am not going to let him drag me down and make me unhappy. I'm
going to be happy. What helped me come through it was telling
myself that 'it is not like it is going to get any worse, I have gone through the worst
part of it, it is only going to get better now. The agreements between them are going
to come through, everything is suddenly unfolding and fitting together. So, just by time and
speaking to them, I know that it's going fine and everything is going to be alright in the
end. It is just a waiting game really. The change from me being quite rebellious,
and feeling the need to do everything that they said not to, came with time and being
more mature. And, taking on some of the responsibilities on with my parents, made me realise if I am
going to make this work, I am going to have to up my game a bit, and not mess around.
I have to be mature, independent and help out and all that sort of stuff so, it just
came with everything else. You cannot waste energy on the past, and what
has happened, what people have done wrong and what you have done wrong in yourself,
and what you could have done differently. You can't change that. So, I think you have
got to focus on everything now, and what is going on presently.
Cos, After I got a lot happier, I realised; what is the point in not going any work because
you are so upset. Because, I don't want to be one of those people on the doll. So, you
might as well just get on with your work. And, try to be happy. And, then it should
light up. All my grades have come back up, and I'm getting
back on track. I'm doing extra revision lessons to make sure that I am back on track. And,
it is going well. I'm not behaving as badly. I will not walk out of my lessons, I'll stay
in. I'm definitely happier now. It is just those few months. But now, a year after it
is fine, it has picked back up again. And, it does make you stronger.
What has helped me move forward? I guess the support of my Mum, trying to keep a brave
face for my sister. I have just kind of forgotten about it. It has kind of been revealed to
me, what he did, what kind of person he was. That is not somebody you want to look up to
or anything. So, that has helped me to move on. School, my friends. I have a good set
of friends; they have helped me to move on, distract me from stuff like that.
Well, with my step-dad adopting me and my brother, it feels really great because it
is kind of a just definite of he is our Dad. He has been there for everything. He was there
when he teaching me how to ride my bike. He was there when I was choosing my Secondary
School, he was there when I was a bit grumpy during my GCSE's. And, it is nice to be able
to have it down in paper, and be able to say; 'that is my dad'. And, the idea of your dad
being your biological Dad, it is not true. And, it is not true. And, it is nice to be
able to have that example of the fact that your Dad is the person who raises you, and
he is the person who you feel is able to talk to. And, I just feel sorry for my actual biological
Dad for not being able to feel that relationship