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Hi. Thanks for coming to the YouTube page of Wedding Night Bliss. I'm Driana, The Blissful
Wife. Today's video is gonna be about premarital counseling. If you're a Christian couple who
is planning to get married, you definitely need to be looking into getting premarital
counseling. But there's a couple of things that you can do at home and I'm gonna give
you a good tip that you can do for premarital counseling on your own, at home. And today's
premarital counseling tip is about the five love languages. Gary Chapman, I believe, came
up with this concept of five love languages that everybody has a specific way that they
feel love. Sometimes people will do something for you, and they mean it as a gesture of
love, and you just don't really feel it that way. A perfect example would be, like, a child.
You know, sometimes you're at the park and your kid will pick up a leaf, and they'll
give it to you, and they mean it like, you know, "This is a gift that I'm giving you."
And they mean it so sincere, but as an adult, I mean, leaves are just not that valuable
to us. The value of the leaf is not the same as how the child meant it. And sometimes that
happens with husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, relationships in general.
You need to learn your future spouse's love language. So for me, my love language is quality
time. And so if I have not been able to spend time with my husband I start freaking out.
Like, I really need that time with him. I need us to be together. If he gets really
busy, he has to carve out time for us to spend time together, because that's when I start
to feel like we're distant. For my husband, I would say that he's a mixture of acts of
service and physical touch. Of course I'm cuddly, I love to cuddle, but if I get busy
or something and I'm not focusing on that I need to make sure that I'm giving him lots
of kisses, lots of hugs. And when he comes and hugs me and likes to cuddle, I need to
make sure that I'm letting him, and not saying, like, "Oh well, I need to do my hair." Or,
you know, I need to give him those ten minutes to just lay in the bed together or just stop
for a couple seconds and just hug him and give him my full undivided attention. The
other way, acts of service is just doing things around the house. I'm not super into household
chores and that type of thing, but my husband's love language is acts of service, and so when
I put forth effort to make sure that I keep things nice. And if I just do something really
little, then he really appreciates it, And so a lot of times if I'm really exhausted,
I'll just try to do one little thing, like make sure that I make the be the way that
he likes it, so that he notices that I did that for him, and that completely makes his
day. And it doesn't have to be perfect. He knows, you know, what my strengths and what
my weaknesses are. And so he knows this house is not going to be like Martha Stuart. But
when he sees that I put extra effort into doing certain things with the household chores,
he really appreciates it. And so you have to go out of your way to do what the other
person likes. I can't, you know, spend a whole day with him, but not do anything with the
house, and expect him to feel extra loved, because that's just not the way that he receives
it. And so make sure you're not putting your own expectations on your spouse, or doing
what you think is great to feel loved, because they may not receive it the same way. So that's
it! That's this week's premarital counseling activity. Now, I talked about relationships
and premarital counseling today, but what I really like to do is talk to *** brides
and abstinent brides. I know you're a little bit nervous about your wedding night, I know
you have questions, and I know that you can't just talk to your mom about what type of lube
to buy for your honeymoon. So, I need you to contact me at Wedding Night Bliss at yahoo
dot com. I have some resources for you and I have a great class that you're gonna love.
And that you can just talk about sex, and learn about sex. So, email me at Wedding Night
Bliss at yahoo dot com. Like us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter, like this video, comment
down below if you tried this premarital counseling activity. And subscribe, ok? From my family
to yours, love to you.