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Change Your Thoughts - Nothing Is Missing
Nothing is missing. This is one of my other favourites, which I say a lot. Nothing is
missing. As an awakened being you realise that even in this chaos life everything is
working in perfection, divine perfection, whether you know it or you don’t.
At that time I used to run depression clubs for women and I was doing- thanks! It takes
one to see one- and I was doing this whole thing around ‘nothing is missing, and everything’s
perfect’ and I had this woman stand up and in front of everybody she said, “Hang on
Sidra, how can you say everything’s perfect nothing is missing, I had four children die
just before they turn 18. So every time one of my child, just before, they turn 18, they
die, they die, they die.
How can you say that having four dead children is actually perfect and nothing is missing?”
I thought, “Oh, that’s a hard one”. So I said to her, “I appreciate”, because
of course the challenge, let alone losing one kid she lost four kids! Brought them up
all the way to eighteen, just before eighteen they passed away! I said, “I’m so sorry.
It is a very, very challenging situation. With your permission, can I ask you a question?”
and she goes, “Yes”. I said, “Tell me what have you done as a result of these incidents?
Tell me what you have done as a result of this, if these things hadn’t happened, you
wouldn’t do these?”
So she stood there and she thought and she said, “Actually, I run the largest bereavement
centre in my area. And if I hadn’t lost those children I wouldn’t run the largest
bereavement centre and provide healing to all those parents who lose a six-month-old
baby or have a miscarriage and lose.
So they come to me and think, “wow I’m grieving for one six-month-old, she’s lost
four teenage kids”, so it gives them peace. It gives them their sense of support that
if she can survive these four deaths, I can surely get over”. Time is a great healer.
All we need to do is give time some time.
And when you realise, the key is when you’re in the middle of the storm and nothing feels
perfect, that’s the time when this principle has to kick in and say, “Hang on, everything
is perfect, I just don’t know it yet”. And from my personal thing, I was delivering
a training in Morocco and I had a connecting flight in Vienna and the flight was delayed
and I was just about to miss my plane, I just ran through the security, went to the front
of the gate and the lady said, “The flight is delayed for half an hour, please take a
seat”.
Had my laptop, my camera, my everything in my wheeler; had I caught my flight I would
have missed it but I didn’t know it and I went back and collected my luggage and thought,
“Wow, everything’s truly perfect, I just didn’t know it”.
What if we say that point of view, we perceive that point of view- “at the moment I can’t
figure it out but I’m sure it will unfold”. And that’s just not me, I’m sure you’ve
experienced an event when you look back thinking, “Wow that was really perfect”. When actually
you get over it and you change your reality around the event, you realise it actually
works out quite perfectly, we just don’t know it because we’re in that situation
at that time. So when we start living it we realise no matter what happens it is working
in divine order, I just can’t see it yet. Yeah?
So, next one…
Is one of my favourite. Every decision is a right decision when we make it given the
time and situation, otherwise we wouldn’t have made that decision. Most of us to make
a decision go live it and say, “Shoot, that was a really rubbish decision I shouldn’t
have done that”. Anybody judge their decision?
Like when I was going through a rough patch in my marriage my husband and I said, “we
shouldn’t have married, we shouldn’t have married”, but actually at that time that
was the perfect decision, marriage was the right decision. It changed later, but that
doesn’t mean that wasn’t the right decision.
So when you’re looking back at your decision use kindsight instead of hindsight. Know how
some people say, “In hindsight I should have done this”? No, no, no. In kindsight,
that was brilliant. Otherwise we wouldn’t have the two beautiful kids we had, as a result
of it.
And just because you’ve made- this is one of my key things- just because you’ve made
a decision once doesn’t mean you have to live with it for the rest of your life. It
changes. And things change. And if you’re not growing, you’re dying and we would cover
that in ‘growth is inevitable’.
And if you think you haven’t changed, try talking to your friends ten years ago: you’d
be surprised. Or twenty years ago. Or go back where you lived at in your childhood: things
are completely different. Because we change, we evolve, we grow and the consciousness we
have, the decision we make.