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There it is a kind of relationship in which the parent is in an attitude of omnipotence.
It’s legitimate that the parent is in a superior level, because he helps the child
to manage with his instincts, like the knight rides the horse, because it’s under his
responsibility. In the omnipotence’s relationship, the parent is like an owner. Like a parent-
owner. As an emperor, a dictator, he decides all about the life of the other one and he
doesn’t respect the child for what he is. The word omnipotence comes from the Latin
OMNIA POTENS that means “who is able of everything” The parent take the control
of the child and doesn’t appreciate his capacities, of his abilities. It is a kind
of upbringing that resemble at those of the past, in which the father dominated the son,
orders him, uses him, puts him to work, in his service, a support for the old age. At
that time the father did not respect the right of his son, the right to be different, to
have his own say. In the past the son couldn’t reply, even if he was right, he couldn’t
say a word, nor an opinion was asked, he couldn’t have his own say. A that time there was this
total supremacy of the father and the sons should be subordinate, that’s it. In this
relationship the father is like an owner, like God, that knows everything, decides everything,
understand everything, and everything cannot call into question. The person who doesn’t
want to reconsider his self has this kind of relationship that doesn’t work. You can
use all of the educational methods that you want but they don’t work because they are
in a wrong relation.. This relation typical of the method of the past, but the other is
very used nowadays. To avoid the figure of the father-owner, we risk the opposite, a
relationship in which the father becomes dependent from the child, his servant, in which the
owner, the absolute person, the emperor, the dictator, the leader of the situation, who
shouldn’t be contradicted, is the child. The child became God. It’s necessary to
do everything and always for him, it’s necessary to give him everything, and pay attention
to not make mistakes. So we are in a situation of dependence, of servants. This is very dangerous
because it gives an idea of omnipotence of the child. The mind of the child is formed
and arranged on the conviction that he is the owner, able of doing everything. The omnipotent,
like God, has not limits, he never get sick, nor die. This way of thinking is very dangerous
because if it is not resolved, can determine a series of personality’s disturb and therefore
also of the behavior. The child thinks: I want a life, I want to live without limits,
without any conditioning. As my mother give me the life, and let me to do everything I
wanted, the same should do the teachers, the police, the judges, the traffic policemen
and so on… Any person that want to rules me, should leave me alone, because I’ve
been at the head of my family and I always decided what they should do for me. So it’s
me that decide what you should do. If this relationship of dependence will exist, the
child will avoid all the educational methods. A way of thinking in some parents is: if the
child wants something, it’s necessary to give him, otherwise he could be traumatized.
If there’s some problem, is necessary to avoid all the obstacles, you should give him
everything and he hasn’t to do nothing. He is treated like a sultan so he become like
a sultan. What should you expect from him? When will arrive the time he became an adult
and he will still thinks he’s a sultan, will he adapt himself to a simple work? Will
he adapt himself to the rules? Will he adapt himself to what people say to him? A child
that becomes an adult will say: you get me used to do like this so what do you expect?
That I change myself? I’m 20 years old and I cannot change mind. So it’s very important
to repair this connection immediately. We will see after how and the reasons why.