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Failure to consummate is grounds for annulment. How do you end a loveless relationship? This
is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of
Ask Dr. Paul. This question came up recently in one of my radio talk shows, and I can tell
you that this is a very serious matter for the people involved. In the first place, if
you have a loveless relationship or even worse, a loveless marriage, let me give you some
definitions. By definition, frequently in law and oftentimes in what we call church
law, failure to consummate -- that is, failure to have intercourse -- in a marriage or a
relationship is grounds for annulment. It goes beyond that when it becomes a loveless
relationship or a loveless marriage. And the reason it goes beyond that is because failure
by the one person to make the other person feel loved is, in fact, cheating, okay? I
have said this a number of times on my show, and I've had people challenge this. I've had
counselors challenge this. "Well, just because they're not having sex or they're in a loveless
relationship, doesn't mean they're cheating. They should maintain this and go to a marriage
counselor, blah, blah, blah." Forget about it. It isn't going to work. Now, I know that
Dr. Paul can be somewhat outspoken, but I'll let you know what I have learned from people
who called me. Thousands and thousands of my listeners have called and said, "Hey, I
agree with that or disagree with that." Or they email -- whatever it may be. But the
bottom line is if you have a loveless relationship, it is your right as a human being, who has
the right to love and be loved, to terminate that loveless relationship, and the way to
do it is to do it quickly and painlessly. That's how to do it. Like that. This is Dr.
Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.