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Well I interviewed have a hundred and fifty people and probably about half of them were men
and half of them were women and I have never thought
about whether they
approached it differently
and
what i would say is that
essentially
it's the same.
And a lot of the tools and practices that I include
are
uh... not gender specific they don't relate too
either gender. But I did, I interviewed John Grey
who is of course the master in the area of gender
distinctions
and he in fact did say that men and women do get to that place differently that
women have more oxytocin and oxytocin is that feel good
hormone that stops the love hormone that women tend to feel when we feel bonded and
connected this the um...
that the phenomena called tending and befriending
and when women get stressed out
they will lean towards tending taking care of other people or taking care of
pets
or befriending connecting with friends because those two processes release more
oxytocin for women and it helps them
feel greater love
um... and and then have different things that they do to experience love for
example for a man it may be more dopamine or testosterone that comes from
adventure
and from
doing things that to create a sense of excitement.
So
I think that there certainly is a difference and that John was the only one
that spoke to that
uh...
but I didn't
I didn't notice much of a difference from my interviews with men and women.;.