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What are you supposed to do with difficult emotions? So, difficult emotions
are not fun,
they're not an enjoyable experience, it's painful, it hurts,
it's uncomfortable. There's no reason we'd want
to deal with those parts of ourselves because there's nothing really
enjoyable about it. But it's part of the wholeness
that we are, it's part of the human experience, and then if we don't
actually take care of it properly,
then it comes out in other ways. You know, anger is actually a good
example of that. I really think of anger as being,
not a pure emotion. It's a response to being pained and hurt.
So, if you have pain and hurt that you're not dealing with, and you're holding it down,
and holding it down,
it's gonna come out as anger. And so, ultimately,
I don't, I haven't gone beyond this and I'm open to getting beyond this, but I don't think
that there's a necessity for the anger if we really are dealing with the true
vulnerability that comes with the pain.
Ultimately, our difficult emotions are really
kind of like a child. Like if you think of your little cousin, or your daughter,
or like a little baby who's crying and upset,
you know, like what do you wanna do with them? You don't wanna yell at them, "what's wrong with you,
and you shouldn't be upset,"
you're not gonna help anything if you treat the child or the baby that way.
You need to soothe them, and hug them, and caress them, and take care of them, and tell them "you're
okay, it's okay, this is part of it,
it's gonna pass." And so it's important to be able to handle
our darkness, our difficult emotions with that same love. Because, oftentimes,
we treat that inner child with such negativity,
and we're so mean to it, it just makes it so much worse. So you have a crying baby, and you start
messing with it, and hitting with it, and telling it it's awful,
what's it gonna do, it's gonna feel so much worse. You're never making matters better if you
don't take care
of the pain properly.