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Greetings and welcome to Awakening With Brahma Kumaris. Sister Shivani is with us. Welcome, sister.
Om Shanti.
Om Shanti and welcome to Soul Reflections.
Thank you.
As usual.
No matter how emotionally one is entwined with one's loved ones.
The fact remains that each one has his or her individual journey.
And one's own destiny or road map
And nobody can alter either the road map or the journey.
Extremely powerful statement.
We are looking at this over the last few episodes.
This is for our children, spouse, parents, siblings, family and friends.
Whom we love a lot.
We care for them and we are very concerned about them.
We are willing to do anything for them.
We are willing to co-operate and make any effort for those people.
But the last line is very important - No one has the power
To alter another soul's destiny or road map.
No matter how much we love them.
We will remember this when we remember - This spouse or this child is a soul on a journey.
A soul on the journey, who has brought with him his sanskars and karmic accounts.
That Karmic account is the Destiny of that soul.
The line mentions as destiny and road map.
That soul's destiny is fixed.
At this moment how can we help that soul? By empowering him. This is in our control.
We give guidance, advise and opinions to our friends and family at every step.
But often the other soul will not go as per the guidance we give them.
They will not.
At that time what is our role, what can we give to them?
And even while giving them guidance what should we give along with it?
Blessings. What else can we give them?
Blessings are extremely powerful.
We generally wonder what our blessings can do and undermine its power. We feel it does not help much.
But even from a practical point of view, that is all we can give. Someone will take our advice and somebody will not take. The line also says we cannot alter anybody's road map.
We generally feel this is my family, these are my children and that we are a family.
We are a family but we have to look at each other as soul on a journey.
It means a soul is going to be with you from one particular period to another, or from one date to another.
They will live in your house and will be a part of your family.
But he is a soul on a journey.
Can we count of a staff also in this?
Definitely. Everyone who is in our Orbit.
Even they are souls on a journey.
And it says every soul's journey is individual.
Today if there are 6 souls living in your house, all of their past is different from each other's.
Future will also be different and suppose in the present we say we are a part of the same family,
But although we are a part of the same family, in the present suppose there is an issue with business, one is just not affected and other might have a heart attack.
That is because everybody is sanskars are different.
We live together in the same environment.
Part of the same family and live in the same environment.
But despite the similarities all our Journeys are completely different.
We are individuals but yet together.
So that line is very important. We may be living together but still on our journey we are alone.
Everybody's journey is different.
It said beautifully - no matter how much you love each other.
How much you care for one another
But on the journey, that's all has to walk alone with his own roadmap at his own destiny.
Then what is our role?
When we see our loved ones doing things which we believe is not right.
Or if they're doing something which is not right for themselves.
Sometimes we can see it clearly.
Many times we can see very clearly that the other person is not doing the right thing, it could be an unhealthy habit.
So in any perspective it cannot be right for him.
It could be an addiction or wrong habit like gambling or anything else.
Which will mean losses at a physical mental and financial aspects and loss in relationships.
The loss is visible.
Today parents say - I can see my child going wrong at every step. I can see it clearly.
It is not about perception.
So they say they cannot still do anything about it and they feel helpless.
The other day I met a couple who said - our son locks himself up in his bedroom throughout the day. We don't know what he's doing.
He doesn't go for a job. In the evenings he goes out to meet friends and parties with them.
He spends our money, comes back home in the mid night or early morning,
After coming back he again locks himself up in his room.
They say he is doing it every day.
It is very difficult for the parents to see it every moment.
This is constant pain. So they said they can see him hurting himself every moment.
So they asked what they can do to their child. They said they are sad, worried, upset and crying.
The fear about his future.
The stages of advising or arguing are all crossed by now.
I have seen people spoiling their career, their health and homes.
It can be somebody from our family.
When they are a part of our family we want that everything goes well with them.
And yet at the same time the line is teaching us - that soul is on an individual journey.
So what can we do now for our family?
Suppose this is the journey of the soul.
At this moment things are going wrong for him.
Either he is making mistakes or situations or not favourable. Let us call it a phase.
The phase is not going well for him.
Looking at his phase, what is happening to the state of mind of people around him? It is getting weaker.
Constant worry, constant anxiety, constant fear and constant pain.
When the phase is not going on well for him and the family is creating constant fear and worry.
Then what vibration will the soul on his journey keep getting?
Of worry and fear.
Let us take a simple example. We attend so many programs.
And there are thousands of people seated in the hall.
Everything is going on well and people are listening in silence.
Suddenly somebody's mobile phone starts ringing.
It is a Karma which has happened. But when this Karma disturbs other people in the hall.
Their state of mind gets disturbed.
The moment their state of mind is disturbed, irritation and anger get created.
When these vibrations reach the soul whose mobile phone rang.
The vibrations reach him and he is trying to silence the phone.
But he will not be able to do it immediately.
His hand starts shivering. But why does it happen?
Because he is nervous and feeling bad about it.
But why is his hand shivering? It could have been stable but why is it shivering?
Because mind is not stable.
Why is the mind not stable? After all only the phone rang.
Because everybody is thinking about what he did.
They didn't say anything to him.
But they created these thoughts about him.
Just take this simple scene.
Here I am and here is my journey. There is an unpleasant scene where my phone rang.
Now I need to correct the situation but 10 people around me created a negative thought.
Their vibration influenced my state of mind.
I got so disturbed that my hands started to tremble.
Now we see the power of the people around us?
Now, if the same scene repeats.
Program is going on, everyone is silent and the phone rings.
The phone ringing is not the right thing.
But if people around him create a right thought once the phone rings.
Then he will not be nervous and will be able to turn it off in a second.
So we know the power.
We know the power of the vibrations of the people around us.
One is we know the power of our vibrations.
And the second is that we know the power of the vibrations of people around us, when they create thoughts about us.
The simple scene proves that - buy a phone ringing for 30 seconds, the thoughts people create for 30 seconds
That will have an immediate effect on us.
This got proved.
Now if we look at people around us and small or big situations that have come into their life, at the moment.
When 30 seconds have such a Deep Impact
Then what about people we are living with, throughout the day?
I want to get clarity on one point here.
Suppose somebody says something which I do not like.
Why does it become a loop and keep repeating in the mind?
Why do we feel bad for it for half an hour, 1 hour, one day, one week, two weeks or for a month?
For that long?
A few things will stay in the mind for years. And the mind keeps saying - he said this that day
Is it because I did not reply to that person at that moment?
No.
It is because I did not give an answer here to my mind.
What should I have answered the mind?
Everyone has to create the answer for themselves.
As per their situation.
Last time you mentioned - their mood was like that, they are carrying a baggage of emotions.
So we shifted from anger to empathy.
So the moment they said something unpleasant, if we had given the reply here to the mind.
Generally we try to give a reply to that person.
But the mind will not keep quiet until we respond to that person.
Even in movies they show about revenge.
The mind will not keep quiet until we give an answer.
But when we give an answer of this quality through our words.
You said something to me and I immediately answered back.
Then my mind will start getting more disturb and even your mind will get more disturbed.
You will create thoughts for me and I will create thoughts for you.
After doing all this will the mind become calm?
But aren't you in a better position? He hit me and I hit him back.
He hit me and I hit him back?
Otherwise we are at a loss and we feel bad.
He hit me and I hit him back.
When I hit him back will he keep quiet?
Let us talk about the exchange of words first.
And what about thoughts after that?
Thoughts will continue.
Even when the quiet our thoughts go on.
That is secondary.
When we are talking to each other will our thoughts keep getting created?
Yes.
When thoughts are going on for each other will the mind calm down after that?
No.
This is the first point.
We will look at the other aspect later.
First we will look at this. You said something and I answered back.
The mind does not become come with this.
The mind becomes more disturbed.
So first let us get rid of this belief system.
Because we believed earlier that when we answered back, our mind would come down.
After answering back the mind will be all the more disturbed.
I can say it will not be come but I cannot say that it will be all the more disturbed.
It will be more disturb because we will get more thoughts from the other person.
Maybe.
It is sure to come, isn't it?
You say something to me and I keep quiet. But I am hurt.
I am hurt and disturbed'.
So I can feel that my mind is not peaceful.
But I am quiet from here.
But if I say something to him from here in words.
And then you also say something either through thoughts are words
So what is happening with the energy? A ping pong is going on. So the mind becomes more disturbed.
The mind will definitely get more disturbed, there is no doubt about it.
So let us get rid of this belief system that if we had back answered, then the mind would have been peaceful.
Instead of it we will replace it with the line - If we had back answered, the mind would be more disturbed.
This means if we are quiet here, we need healing only here.
But if the conflict comes here
Then we have to heal here also and even the other soul has to get healed.
Until they Heal their thoughts, the inner conflict will keep going on between the two souls.
There is a lot of happiness in remaining quiet.
It was an adage also which translates to - Silence bring 100 times more happiness.
Look at the factor - hundred times the happiness because of silence.
But you said you were unsure with that the mind will become peaceful or not.
Silence brings hundred times more happiness.
I still believe that if somebody says one thing, you reply with 10 sentences and you will feel better.
But in such conversations we get entangled in negative energies.
By remaining silent you stop the energy then and there.
You mentioned we were not quite from within but from here.
We need to heal from within also and make it quiet.
We have to do it every day but what happens is that we do it only one day.
We tell ourselves - it is OK, it was their perspective.
Or we say - it is OK it was their Sanskar.
The mind will not get healed by creating these thoughts just once or twice.
Things which is giving gas pain and discomfort, and the thoughts are going on within
For them we need to consciously create these thoughts every morning and night, for a few days.
For that particular situation.
And for that person.
We need to create them, so that our thoughts get healed here.
Recall that situation and create a thought - this is his perspective, and it is accurate as per their Sanskar. My perception is different from his.
This has to be created daily.
Then the soul will learn that language.
That my perception is different from his perception.
And most important - I am a powerful soul.
When we repeatedly create thoughts - I am a powerful soul, I am a divine soul - I am giving myself the power to be able to do this.
This is very important. It is not small but it is a very powerful thing.
If we are not doing this, then we're doing its opposite the entire day by creating the thoughts - But he did like this, but he said that to me.
If I keep telling myself that I am a powerful soul, will I be able to forget what he said to me?
When we say to ourselves - I am a powerful soul - then what are we doing to our power?
When power increases, then this increased power will only heal the wound, is it not?
I need to try this.
A few episodes ago you shared that somebody's words hurt you.
You said for 2 to 3 years you held on to that. But this year you change your thoughts and your relationship drastically improved.
It happened because during this time.
You the soul had worked on yourself and increased your soul power.
After we increase our power, the same situation will seem very small.
It becomes easy to accept the same thing now.
If such situations keep coming all the time
Then accordingly should you constantly keep increasing your strength?
That is the journey of life.
That we keep on increasing our inner power.
So that is a choice we have then - either hold on to their words and remain in pain
And while doing all this deplete our soul power.
Or the other option is to stop the situation there and increase your soul power.
It is not about keeping the situation there. You need to work on it, and along with it increase our power.
He is a soul and both of our perspectives are different.
He did not disrespect me but he only said things as per his perspective.
We need to say this to the mind every day continuously.
That soul is also very pure.
We need to tell our mind - that soul is very loveful.
The other day our neighbor's dog was barking quite a lot. So my granddaughter said
She was talking to the dog asking it to remain peaceful.
It is so difficult to tell human being and accept this.
You said - it is so difficult to accept a human being like this.
Did you check this line?
Yes.
The moment we create this frequency here
When we create this vibration many times a day.
When we say - accepting people as they are so difficult
Vibrations will create the reality.
Every morning we need to sit and do this 3 to 5 times
I accept everyone as they are.
And if with any particular soul there is an unpleasant energy exchange
Take the name and say I accept them as they are.
We need to keep repeating it and make our self understand
We need to create a new vibration.
Vibration will become the reality.
Whatever is the reality you want, create that in your vibration.
Right now so many times we say by being unaware - It is so difficult to accept people as they are.
Becoming aware.
Even when I tell my mind it says - I will accept everyone but not him.
We will put in efforts for this every day.
We will take his name and do it.
The mind will hardly listen to us.
Look at this line - Our mind hardly listens to us.
Our mind is the only thing which listens to us.
Our mind is the only thing which belongs to us, not other people's minds.
Can you see the vibrations? How our thoughts become our reality?
So we keep repeating them and change the thoughts.
My mind is the only thing which obeys me. My mind belongs to me.
This mind is mine. I am its master.
My mind does everything I say.
I rule over my mind.
And every morning and evening if we create this thought - I accept this soul as they are.
Emerge that soul in front of you in meditation and send a very powerful vibration - I accept you as you are.
Otherwise we are only trying to change that person throughout the day.
Remember to do it every morning and night. They are very important times.
Soon after waking up and just before sleeping at night.
These small practices give us long-term results.
Experiment this for a few days.
Emerge that soul every morning and say - I accept you as you are.
If negative vibrations can reach, then even pure vibrations reach.
When we create this vibration
What happens to the reality? They will not change, but our acceptance power increases, because the vibration we created was - I accept you as you are.
If we apply this to a situation where a family member around us is facing any problem in life, or is doing something wrong
Something which we feel is not right.
Then we can recall that scene where - just by mobile phone ringing for few seconds, a soul gets affected by negative vibrations of people around.
Then how much will our vibrations influence a family member throughout the day?
Then when we say lines like - We cannot do anything for her child. We are only helplessly watching wrong things happening to him, or him making mistakes.
Or when we say there is nothing in our hands, we need to remind ourselves at that moment.
To calm his mind, to enable his intellect to take the right decision, and to make that's all powerful - we have this power.
If we change our vibrations and get rid of worry fear and pain from our vibrations
And if we create focused, pure energy for him every day.
How to create focused, pure energy for somebody?
Emerge that soul in front of you.
Not the label of relationship.
Emerge that soul, take power from God and radiate to him.
And first of all give a message to that soul - you are a powerful soul.
When we see that a few things are not going right with him, we need to increase his soul power.
When we say to our self - I am a powerful soul.
What is a message to give to that soul?
You are a powerful soul.
You are a divine soul. Your every thought, word and action is perfect.
You can see that outside everything is going wrong with him, but what is the reality that you want?
That everything is perfect. So what is the vibration you should create?
The vibration should be - Everything is perfect.
Every day we should give him this though - Your every thought, word and action is perfect.
Everything is going very well in your life.
Whereas we pray to God to make his every thought and action perfect
It means they are not perfect now.
This is the power we have as a family.
If the entire family gift these collective vibrations to that person
We stress on doing it in the morning and evening, so that throughout the day the same thoughts go on.
When that soul receives such collective blessings
Then that soul can change his destiny based on his power.
But if we don't empower him but we want him to change his destiny?
We don't have that power.
That soul will himself create his destiny.
If he wants to bring a change in destiny, he has to do it himself.
What is the power we have? To empower him.
You are a powerful soul. Your every thought, word and action is accurate.
Whatever is happening in your life is perfectly right.
What is many wrong things are going on in his life right now?
Ok but still we need to say this.
Why? Reality right now is bad. But we should not think of the reality that is present.
We always need to remember the equation. We should not think of the current reality.
The reality that we want, create thoughts about that. Match the vibration with your desire.
Whatever is the reality you want, create that vibration.
And see that reality getting created.
Now I understood it completely. Thank you so much, Sister.
Om Shanti.
Om Shanti.
Thank you.