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Hello, everyone!
I am Mary Grace, 23, and a certified N.B.S.B.
Hello, I’m Aileen Santos.
I’m a relationship coach.
My question [is], how would I know if that person is “The One?”
Kasi parang I [want] my first boyfriend to be the last—boyfriend to married.
Now, a few things about finding “The One.”
When people ask me, “Coach Aileen, how do I know if he’s ‘The One?’”
Here’s the huge difference between real life and fiction.
In the movies, you know that he’s “The One” because there’s a close-up shot of him,
the OST plays, there’s a slow motion shot, yes.
But, in real life, we don’t have that privilege. We don’t have that advantage.
He might step on your foot.
So, he’s not ready-made.
So what does “potential” mean?
In psychological research, it’s been found that in an average lifetime,
every person meets at least eight people of the gender that they’re attracted to
who have the same values and life direction that they have.
And these two things—values and life direction—
they are the most basic [foundations] for a good relationship.
You add to that the attraction and spark.
That makes someone a potential.
I want you to think back right now.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that you had a relationship with them.
But I know that you can remember certain people in your past.
You would talk until the early hours of the morning.
Those are potentials.
Maybe he had a girlfriend back then,
or your parents were too strict back then.
The timing wasn’t right.
But you know that there are these people.
What makes a potential into “The One?”
Your choice.