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Hi this is Christy Whitman with the Quantum Success Show
where you can get your information and inspiration to create your desires.
And today I want to talk about the power of
words. Words had a power and there's some words that we need to ixnay
from our language altogether. One
phrase that I grew up with constantly
was you should do this. You shouldn't do that. You should have done this
and I grew up with my mom who still says that all the time by the way
um... and I had to work for a really really long time
for years to get shoulds out of my
language and even in just recent years
working very closely with my personal coach and healer Karen LaMark Wilson
whose amazing, thank you Karen. She
really hot me like stop myself when I said should
and really allowed me to get a different language around this
because as persons working with large fashion deliberately creating our lives
well you should all over yourself it does not feel good
and when you should all over your partner, your kids
they don't feel good. So one word
that I would love to challenge you to get rid of
like really be mindful this entire week is watch where you say
oh I should have done that. Oh, I should do this you know
uh, I should do the laundry or I should clean my house
or I should be a better mom or I should lose 10 lbs.
Whenever you're shoulding on your self there's a constriction that happens.
We feel like we are being made wrong in some way.
That where we are who we are is not enough and
its a very like I said shaming and produces feelings of guilt.
Uh it actually cuts us off from our life force
and is so instead whenever you hear yourself say
I should do something just stop yourself and say
you know what? Do I want to? Like for example
you know I should do the laundry. okay do I want to do the laundry
and if it's a no, I don't want to do the laundry.
The next question is do I need to do laundry
and if its well you know what yeah I might need to do it, were running out of
Clothes. Then you can at least look at what the options are.
You know we are free beings. We have total
freedom in our lives and because we are abundant
there are so many different options to every different situation. so
maybe right here in this moment you don't feel like you want to do the laundry.
You need to, you've determine that but maybe you can do it
tonight or tomorrow or maybe you just do a small load
or maybe get help from your husband or you know
there's so many different options but to sit there and go oh, I should
do the laundry and then your doing it and it's like this negative constrictive
energy. So whenever you hear yourself say should
and your shoulding on yourself this week go ahead and ask yourself you know
do I wanna call my mom or should I?
oh, ok.... well I really don't feel like I want to. Do I need to?
Yeah I actually do need to. Okay, so what are my options? Do I need to call her right now?
Do I need to call her later?
You know when can I her or you know do I want to?
Yea, actually it would feel good to call my mom. I would like to connect with her.
Now you have options. The other two phrases I want to challenge you for this
week which are really important to and you can see the different energy when you
say it is
oh, I have to.... I have to go pick up my kids or
have to clean my house or I have to do laundry. You know what
you get to. Change it to I don't have to, I get to.
I get to go pick up my kids from school. You have kids that you get to pick up from
school.
You have children that love you and you love and you know are cherished in your life.
You actually get to go pick them up from school.
When you shift that it changes the whole entire perspective. So words have
power and just even shifting these small words
can shift you energetically and therefore
bring a different point of attraction to you
and the things that attract. So instead of should
Ask yourself do I want to? Do I need to
and what are my options? What are my choices? Do I have to?
I don't have to do anything. I'm free being. I get to. I get to do my
laundry. There's laundry, I actually have clothes that I get to
wear and my kids get to wear and my husband gets to wear and we actually have the option of wearing clean
clothes. We get to do the laundry
and it totally brings a different energy. One other thing I wanna say
is whenever you hear yourself say I can't afford it
please get that out of your language. I choose
not to buy it. It's different and it feels different.
So really watch your words because words have
so much power. Choose wisely
the words that you want to say inside your head and also communicate out to the
universe cuz it makes a difference
in what you create in your life. I hope this has been helpful. Please let me know what do you
should on yourself? Let me know and what are you willing to change this week? I
challenge you for the whole entire week be really really mindful on your shoulds.
Your can't afford its, have too's and let me know how you feel differently.
Love to continue the conversation with you and as always if you go over to
christywhtiman.com. Please subscribe so I can continue to connect with you
Thanks a lot and have a great week.