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Hey YouTube so today I wanted to make a video
about self-help where you can help youself in a situation
like where you're down all the time or when you're in an argument with somebody
and I'm going to use a recent event in my life where I was kinda the bad person
but known when you're in a situation when you're arguing or something like that
both people are going to be wrong
and then both people are going to be a right at the same time there's no I'm always right and you're always wrong
it doesn't work like that and life doesn't work like that
so I'm hoping these tips will help people recent will help people in real life because
I did some of these things
or not did some of them
and i got no where in my life so I'm hoping these will help you guys
so the first thing his don't expect more from others and you expect of yourself
and what I mean by is like if you're like
sad all the time you can't just
expect your friend to make your life magically better
they're going to try to help but
like offer ideas but you can't like get mad at them when something goes wrong and they
try to help cause at least they tried if you're like seriously depressed
I suggest you get professional help from a therapist or something
because a teenager's not going to be able help you especially when they have more problems
than you do
or they have similar problems going on or whatever
hope just
you can't expect people to be God and be there for you 24/7
when they're struggling like everybody struggles too
the next one is to keep an open mind
and from the situation i had
let me explain the story my friend likes this guy
and she's had a crush on him for over two years
and she's gonna be a senior next year moving on with her life
right and this guy likes this
band that I like so I wrote him a cute little valentine on
Valentine's Day and it was out of song lyrics too
it wasn't like saying I love you or anything it was just song lyrics
and I put it in his coat pocket and my friend
took it I was messing with her feeling and I'm purposely making fun of her
and that's not what I was doing I was trying to help her
by like you know if he likes her
then she knows what to do if he doesn't like her then she needs to move on with her life
because by the time she's done with high school what is she going to do when she sat their in a fairy tale world
that was my point of view everybody has different points of views
you can't just say oh well you purposely did this to me and you hate me
you have to keep an open mind when people try to help you
so yeah that one's a
major one because everybody has different perspectives, but you can't just sit there and act like
you're correct all the time
the next one i have is Talk. Don't argue I think that one is pretty simple
don't be cussing people out because you're not going to get anywhere
the next one i have here is take responsibility and for like the situation i'm going to use
as an example you have to take responsibility for your actions obviously or you're not going to get anywhere
and so
the whole valentine thing it wasn't my idea right but i carried out
a lot of the actions so I took full responsibility for it
that wasn't just gonna sit there like oh well it wasn't my idea it was this
person's fault and stuff
take responsibility for your actions seriously
you'll get somewhere with your life and hopefully that problem
won't be as big. it shouldn't be, but if its bigger than it is then
you know take responsibility. own up to your actions
so the next one i have is
don't assume things and like and i kind of kept that with
keep an open mind. Don't assume people are out to hate you
take the other perspective don't assume
and go off at people and create more problems because again you're not going to get anywhere
and i think I'm going to say that like fifty thousand times in this video but I don't care
people just need to realize this another one i have i think is
don't assign blame where I feel bad
On the little valentine's note i wrote my friend's name
I kind of asked for his permission and I kind of didn't i was just like, "Oh by the way I'm
using your name." and That's how it went
and so he really had no clue about it
and then my other friend that was upset about the whole situation
kind of went off at him like, "Why would you do this to me?!? Why would you hate me?" and stuff like that
he didn't know about it. It was like
my fault so please don't
assign blame and go off at other people create a bigger problem especially when the
people have no idea
they were part of something. 'Cause I feel so bad. and I apologize for that one
the next thing is
don't take every little thing to heart and I think that one
means a lot in this situation because when it
comes it all comes down to a piece of paper like a lined sheet of paper with pencil writing on it
of song lyrics. That's all this is and
it turned into a huge thing where I am apparently this monster. and I don't understand
but just don't
take things to heart it's not like I'm sitting here
like purposely making fun of you
I'm trying to help or I was at least
yeah in this next one I can't believe how many times
this has happened to me. It probably has happened to me like three times now
and I'm always compared to the same person
and I don't take this person as an insult
don't use another person as an insult
can't believe how we heard that happened to me where you're just as bad as this one
person
like you're putting so many people down by saying that
No. this is where you're wrong in this situation where you can
you're just putting your friend down and then you're putting this other person down
you need to stop. I don't understand why you would use another person as an insult
that's rude and disrespectful. I just don't even know, but
anyway
and basically just to get over yourself
not everything's going to be about you like if anything I feel bad
for the guy that got this valentine more than I feel bad for the friend that was
was upset with her feelings or whatever because
My friend's like, "Oh well I like this guy." Well you're basically telling me
I wrote a love letter to him that was out of song lyrics and it wasn't really a love letter
wasn't saying I love you or anything either it was just like
lovey song lyrics yet not because this band is
alternative rock and punk I don't know
in so it's basically saying that I wasn't allowed to talk to this guy
and that's what her feelings are like I can't talk to this guy or I'm messing with her feelings
where its kind of stupid
but anyway I just feel bad for the guy because or more than
her because she's sitting there like, "Oh you hurt my feelings."
While this guy over here has got valentine's in his pocket and he doesn't know who they're
from
and he's sitting at the school working
first of all but he came to get paid and was working for us
and yet he's got kids touching his coat and going through his pockets
um I'd feel more upset if I was him in this situation because
I don't want people touching my stuff
while I'm working
I'd be frustrated if I got a love letter and not know who its from
especially when its from a high school student and you're out of high school
yeah need to get over yourself and realize that it's not always about you
or think how other people are in this situation
because really are you
really going to get upset over a piece of paper
or the other guy or are you going to get upset that people are touching your stuff
while you're working like all you did was come into work
and kids are just messing with you
so those are my tips and I hope they help you
and I hope they help other people like anybody
goes through situations and this just deals with life in general
you have to come to an agreement or you're not going to get anywhere in life
or you're just going to sit there and hate people and that's really not a great philosophy
and another thing out of all this, I will actually quote one of my favorite philosophers and it might not be word for word
its from Plato
be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle
I think that one is a great philosophy
it helps so much in situations like this
where just don't be a jerk
to anybody even if you were like wrong or whatever
or this person was wrong so you wanna go off at them. Everybody is wrong and everybody makes mistakes. and you have
to realize that and
apologizing isn't always going to fix everything
but you actually have to try and do stuff to make it better
which I have, yet I failed again. But oh well
so I'm really hoping this helps anybody
who deals with life or arguments
because I've witnessed this happen to so many people and its sad that people throw their lives away
over the stupidest things ever honestly
relationships shouldn't be about drama
especially when they are fairy tale relationships
that kinda sounds like I'm making fun of her feelings now
but you have to prepare yourself for the real world
and not expect so much out of people
and I did it too I'm not saying that she's the only person that does this. I'm saying
a lot of people do it and I did it as well
when it comes down to the end of the day,what's most important? The guy that
you know probably doesn't like you or your friends? So hopefully
that helped anybody and goodbye YouTube