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(Energized) What if I told you with this one trip today that you can become a celebrity
walking through all your fans
anytime you meet someone you don't know what is social situation?!?!
You know we're bombarded with a lot of this "simple trick" and this
"magic pill" that's going to help us with whatever ails us.
But this tactic that I'm going to talk about to day
is a very simple fix very powerful,
almost like a magic pill. One of the reasons I like it so much is because
there are no variables involved. You know see really got someone in your gonna try
a different tone out your body language or other tactics well there's always
variables going on in there because you're dealing with another human
but this tactic takes all variables out it's something you can completely
control
and I would say roost raised the way that you received by new people
by 50 percent plus no one would you say
and interaction begins with someone else
would you say it's when you shake your hand when you first say the first
sentence winners back and forth for a few minutes when you first make eye
contact with them
when does it begin I think most people the answer would fall
along goes four categories however right
answer is grossly overlooked it has a huge huge
impact I think over 50 percent the way that we are initially received
is due to the way that people perceive you
before you begin to verbally or not verbally communicate
and what that is is the minute you walk through the door
and become in the line of sight another person
that's when the interaction begins back some communication starts taking place
and that's when that general idea and
attributes are so she did you immediately that could be very hard to
shake
once you actually fall into more of a traditional verbal
or non-verbal communication line so what we're gonna talk about today
is how to maximize the impression that we put on other people before we begin
common communication
so when you walk through the door at a party
and office I am meeting wherever you are
people are generally gonna stop in some people completely orient themselves
some people just gonna look over their shoulder some people more sly about it
but everyone notices with new people come through the door
everyone does and that's when people begin building
the impression review and that's what we're gonna really capitalize on the
fact that there's no variability
in the environment with how we handle ourselves and what we project so it's
very easy to foolproof way
to really start taking that first step to gain
momentum in your social growth and your %ah
your competence so we're gonna do is your gonna implement some very basic
kinda body language so the first thing you want to do
is lower their shoulders no tension no stress and get really nice and loose
arms dealers pretend like you just walked in your own home how are you not
hi iraq got tense you know there's no stress in your face to face a muscle
your nice a loose know there's no pressure now
when you're walking in to a bigger area
where there's more people in our is more social pressures say
your 20 five people turn what you like this
what you're gonna feel that social pressure so the more you can keep nice
and relaxed in the face is that
more impact the it is because the more people subconscious expect you to get
real tight and tense like most people you know
you walk in the door the box below are
I mark mean to bother anyone
right you like social pressure to common way to deal with it
but we committed fifty people thirty you you look around your *** nice and I
salute yeah cool
a rosier a Mike how are yah nice tonality nice projection the base their
social pressure that it's really packing so
I talk a little bit about your face a lot of time stress is shown in your face
so being very nice and loose like your own some meditative state
you're walkin and you're going to be very calm your face so you're
I is mostly ago when it ends up going shows crow's feet
you bet developed over the last five years but when you don't have those
people are gonna see that so nice and loose
you're gonna have a smile now it's very very hard to smile and laugh
in un comparable environment and when you try
can be kinda bacon force you come in there hi guys
you hear your voice kinda goes up in your head boys the fake smile
wanna keep it nice lou shoulders nicely spaced
nice loose comparable smile just nice these like
like your surprise maybe fifty people are looking sorry
we were pleasantly surprised you're glad to see everyone you know if you haven't
seen my cross you come in
okay hey my car yet nor is going to be here
right nice not taken aback not emotionally reactive
no no feelings that social pressure are exhibited your body language your face
your smile now you come in with someone else
it's nice to continue conversation with them yo right when you come in a lot of
times people with his other people rebel siege that conversation like this
because they feel like everyone else's time and
attention is more important matters now on a nano your conversation is the most
important so you're come in and say you're with your wife
are you coming people who are you to continue that conversation act like no
one's around in
slowly Aurea you look at that smile go look people at my car to
many your wife go get a drink or whatever but
what you're doing at that time is the most important
and don't allow the fact that there's more than one person
the fifty people is 25 he was a hundred people don't want that back change
the way that you react in the way you feel because really shouldn't you know
what is the aggregate their attention have anything to do with your company
there
you're not being rude this is a very supplicate way to act on the minute you
come in at the white yet
back and we've got that Parker hey guys
now now supplicate right that shows that you know put the prep any presents
excuse me up the shows that you not put any importance are your conversations
are you coming
okay we've got the last spot things are going good things going to be a good
night
hey guys so you saw her there it's just like that
that video that I put out about whiplash in a way this is another extrapolation
back
you're not going to be whiplash to a bunch of people when you feel that
social pressure you to keep very calm
I C now when people see all these things happening
right you're not quick to look in a dress everyone you keep what you're
doing as important your
very calm you got a nice smile maybe even your lap a joke about
so mexico so the first time people see you
they see you lacking this you engaging is you talkin other people issue super
relaxed
and back is was gonna give up to these impressions on now
they see you're doing you're behaving in a way that ninety 90 to 100 people
camped
your resilient against social pressure you're competent what you're doing
you're smiling you lose you're not getting any of those stressed how all
the way in your face shoulders down
you actually look I composed everyone else just there's no obligation you but
you're happy to be there you really having a good time you're admitting
that energy in that radius so now people are saying you don't know you were just
met you you know maybe a week ago or whatever
St wow who is this guy so now they start to say
competent high social value high status
these are signing all these things to you so now
when you go up to them and meet them as opposed to if you just came in like most
people
will drink it stay like this a bill or
you I love you nice weekend you gonna get out there and walk the dog
right you West someone like that comes up to meet someone there so you know
this communal born conversation about whether don't really care about this
you come in to police after to use their site you are many celebrity status
everything that you said a is gonna be filtered do that alter high status you
know
imagine you talk to Peyton Manning at the Super Bowl right
everything he says is gonna beast concede to school for you right still to
such a low level
some was super high status in Super Value you aside a very low bar to what
they're saying and thinking it's cool right
so you come up in a scene you look so cool incompetent
everything you say is gonna be perceived as cool so the thinking man's cool guys
coming in here to talk to maybe I'm a little bit nervous
other walks with I'm saying and now you can say the dumbest things
and they're still gonna think you're cool versus some guy who comes in you
like this
and I think who's this nerd you know this guy who are you talking to this guy
right
completely different switch is flipped so this is a way
that you may be just getting started or your best bet you maybe you're not that
smooth
verbally maybe you're not that great socially won't give yourself this
advantages like 50 percent boost before you meet someone
they're gonna be perceiving everything you say as if it's true a super smooth
company guy
because they saw that may already made these associations moorhead
very hard to shake very easy to compound self-fulfilling prophecy
was the power CD compilation buyers so every PC that's cool
that they can all you have done wonders guys caught some company looks really
cool competent
right if not cool to go maybe I maybe I read that wrong maybe
you know private there are discussed cool obviously right so it's amazing
filter to deal with and have that to your advantage
whether you're just getting started or whether you're very advanced get
yourself back
and understand a minute you become you come into visibility is anyone
that's when the interaction start you gonna take advantage that and you're
gonna be so shocked
how people perceive you they may be coming up to you to want me you with it
maybe even show some socks shyness
because the high says guys coming over you know then serve Baro how are you
know they're all nervous oh hey how are you
the light up you know he's taking time to talk to me all these things you're
gonna I'm going to review that all these things you can experience
once you have this this dynamic kind of personality once you have these dynamic
attributes that people signed you
you can experience all this kinda stuff and that's gonna allow you
if you don't maybe have the most social competence now using his training wheels
and you're like oh yeah I hey man are you getting better sections
that's gonna compound like a big Africa you have to get positive reinforcements
from the environment
your comment you're going to get more positive reinforcement you become more
comfortable a competent
its gonna snow all and you're gonna be on your way thanks for listening