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Webinar – Lost in Love? Five things you must know to have a loving
relationship. Firstly, I would like to thank and honour
and acknowledge each and every one of you for showing up today. It’s been an amazing
sunny day here in London and we have many, many people who have actually signed on from
abroad as well. So, wherever you are I hope you have a brilliant, brilliant day. We have
been having phenomenal sunshine and thank you for taking out time and being here.
And I am sure that you will get massive, massive, massive value out of being here. We have a
jam-packed webinar. I’ve amazing, amazing stuff to share with you – experiences.
And we will take live calls as well. So, you never know, we might speak to you and do live
processes with you. And if you stay till the end of the webinar, we have an announcement;
we have a winner, which we will announce towards the end of the webinar. That lucky person
will win a VIP ticket for the live event at Awakening, which is in London – July 27th
and 28th. So please stay tuned in. You might be the one.
So, let’s start. The first thing which I would like to share
with you is ‘Who am I’? My name is, as you know, Sidra Jafri. Chances are you have
heard of me from your friend or seen me on Facebook and decided to join me at this Webinar
but I would like to share more about me. So who am I? I am an awakening facilitator.
We deliver awakening weekends, activating the truth of who you are. Hundreds of people
show up at our live events where we transform people’s lives, their relationships, theirs
relationship with money, their relationship with health; no matter what aspect of your
life you are finding challenging at this point in time – awakening is the answer for you
because we do cover all aspects in our live event ‘Awakening’. And people are having
amazing, amazing results. Their lives have shifted.
And, I am a professional friend. I call myself. A professional friend is.... basically, if
you are going through a challenge in your life, most people, who they turn to is their
friends and family. And the problem or challenge with turning to your friends and family is
that most likely they are going through a similar situation that you are otherwise they
wouldn’t be your friends. So, people might usually take up wrong advice
and end up in a more challenging situation. That is different from turning towards a professional
friend who actually has the tools, have the tools, gone through it themselves, and are
in a position to guide you much, much better. That’s why I feel I am a professional friend
who you can ask for guidance in any aspect of your life and I will do my absolute best
to give you the guidance which is wise for you.
Then we do live stage work at the awakening, which you come over and we connect at a much
more intimate way on the stage and work on your specific issues. There is this thing
which will go like this, which will go like this: that we all have the same issue, only
the packaging is different. At the Awakening is a much more raw version of it, but for
now I will just say that how you got to the challenge is different, your challenge is
similar. So, there’s a group energy that we will create later. We will just create
it at the awakening which shifts everyone’s issue while we’re working with one person.
The next thing, which I am super proud of, which you can see, I’ve these beautiful
two boys, I am a mother of two amazing, amazing kids and they are absolutely brilliant boys
and the reason why I put them there is – as you know this webinar is all about relationships
and at the moment, as you’ve just found out, I’m an awakening facilitator and a
professional friend and I do stage work and one to one processes. But everything else
aside, I am a mother of two beautiful boys and I was married for ten years but because
I wanted to activate the truth of who I am, I decided to let go of the marriage, filed
for a divorce, a very amicable one which is why I am in a position to tell you that how
these five things which I will share with you during this webinar are absolute must
for you to have a loving, loving relationship. So, stay tuned in and let’s begin.
Now, before I start, I would like to share with you my intention. What is my intention
of being here with you today? That I would like to share with you five things you must
know to have a loving relationship. First thing is that a ‘broken heart is an
open heart’. ‘Forgiveness sets you free’. ‘Love is the answer, no matter what the
question’. ‘Communication is the essence of your relationship’. And the last one
but not the least, is ‘You always attract your perfect partner’. I will go through
all of these things in details with you in this webinar. And in the live events we go
through these things in much, much detail, but for now, stay with me and my intention
is to share with you these things and hopefully inspire you to take these things on board
and make a difference in your life and have a loving, more connected and a joyous, joyous
relationship. What I want to so is invite you to do is to
stay open and have an open mind. And before I take your intentions, I would like to give
you a quick look, a quick round through what people are saying who have gone through who
have gone through my program and been through the Awakening, have had the advanced course.
And I will share with you the reason why it is so important for you to know that the exact
stuff I am sharing with you today, I have shared with all those people who have taken
these things on board and transformed their lives.
The first, I would like to have a quick read, in your own time, I will just quickly sum
it up. This amazing, amazing, peaceful soul, Catherine, who came to us. She was in a completely
different situation, previously, when she was experiencing all sorts of sadness and
loneliness after her breakup and she felt she was bullied as well when she was younger.
And after going through the program, she has completely transformed her life, shifted her
weight, she is reaching her ideal weight, her relationships are much, much better and
she is ready to invite a perfect relationship in her life, which previously she did not
think was possible because of the break up she had gone through.
Then we have these amazing two people. Kiran, who was going through a major, major rough
time in her life and through the processes which I will be sharing - some of them with
you toady and most of them at Awakening and the advanced courses – she applied those
and her life ... life is a journey I say and shift happens as much as your human psyche
can handle. Those of you, who are on my program and many
of you who have joined us today as well, I feel ‘tools work, should you work’. And
Kiran is a prime example of applying these tools and making a difference in her life.
Richard Osterfield, another amazing, amazing soul, who’s himself actually been on a journey
of personal development and has mastered .. is a master in his own field and I feel that
what he recognized is everyone needs someone .. and a professional friend. It is really
important, once you come to a certain position, where you know the tools and done the work,
spiritual ego, kind of your personality kicks in, and you realise that I know it all and
that is the trap most people fall into and Richard was clever enough to recognize that
actually that I do require support as well. I acknowledge him for actually recognising
that. He transformed his life just by having the awareness that we all need guidance.
Bonnie Marshall is another amazing, amazing soul who was going through massive physical
illnesses and after going through the program and doing the processes and being in the group
energy and the awakening, transformed her life and much, much all with ease and grace
her life is now and she is absolutely amazing and thank you Bonnie for being in my life.
Next two, quickly, Penolope Duncan, she is one of my prime, proud, proud, I could call
her case study, where she was going through massive relationship issue with herself, with
her partner, really going through the challenges of being in a victim’s place and not feeling
good enough and wanting to start her family but before she could start her own family
she needed to let go of lots and lots of which worked through over the period of time and
now by the grace of God and the universe, she is on her way to start her family. I am
really, really proud of her for staying with the faith and doing what needs to be done.
Then we have amazing, amazing Eddie Castle, who has been recent .. I was joined by him
in the last 6 months and he has seen a massive change in his life by just taking on board
some of the material which I am going to share with you now. And knowing that everything
is love and learning to be kind to yourself and other people. And knowing that you can’t
love anybody else unless you truly, truly love yourself. And there is a pre-requisite
that each actually self-love as well. So, tune in and know that this stuff actually,
actually works and as I said to you the only reason I shared these cases with you is to
know that the information I am sharing with you is so much valuable, that just by being
in this vibration, you have a chance to transform your life and acknowledge you. I acknowledge
you for being here. So, now. Let’s find out: what is you intention?
I gave you my intention for being here. My intention for being here is to share with
you these five things you must know to have a loving relationship and actually invite
you to live an awakened life and see if you are willing to be courageous enough, bold
enough to let go who you think you are in order to become who you truly are. I would
like to know what is your intention? What got you to this webinar today?
I encourage you to post on the chat box. Just take a few minutes or couple of minutes, just
of think really hard, “Why am I here? For what reason am I listening to this webinar?
What I would like to achieve as a result of being here?”
I always say at my advanced courses and the awakenings that be careful what you wish for,
because, it will come true. So, write your intention. I am very, very
big on intentions. Every time we do any processes, call chats or live events, we always, always
get the intentions. For what purpose are you doing this? What would you get as a result
of being here? Because, what you can measure, you can improve. So, there is a tangible result
of actually listening to this webinar. Because, I want to improve my relationship. Or I am
listening to this webinar because I want to be in a relationship. Or I am listening to
this webinar because I am in pain because of a loss of relationship and I want to get
over the hurt. Whatever you intention is, write it down in
the chat box. Our team is very supportive and I am here to read it and I might cover
it live. So just take couple of minutes and write down.
We have a few people, nice people, writing lots of stuff. Some people are saying they
want to improve their relationships with their selves. I want to attract my perfect partner
– I will cover that. My intention is to become a more loving person, so that I can
attract a loving partner, shift my beliefs about relationships and love and love and
love. That is beautiful. Somebody else said, I want to improve my relationship
with my husband. Perfect! We have someone else saying my intention is
that my ex-fiancé broke up with me two days before our marriage. Registry was three weeks
ago. I am hurting. I still want him back. That is an interesting one.
I will do my best to cover it. It is in the highest, I will speak to you and we will go
through some stuff. Some other person saying my intention is to
release the blocks around my heart so I can trust that I am exactly where I want to be.
I want to fully communicate with my husband. Perfect intention!!
What else do we have? Improve my relationship with my kids and partner.
Perfect! Let’s quickly read couple of more, and then
we will head towards the group session. I want to know what I can take on spiritually
to open myself fully on my commitment to be a wife and a mother. Beautiful! Beautiful
intention. My intention is to awaken myself to what is
holding me back from truly moving forward in my life and accepting someone in my life.
Perfect intention. The only thing that usually stops us from being in a loving relationship
is our own selves. We will cover that. We have another intention. I am on this, because
I want to fall in love with myself and would like to be in a loving relationship. I would
love to be able to give and receive love. Beautiful.
We have amazing, amazing intentions. And you keep putting them in. Remember, participation
equals value. This is not a passive learning, me sharing with you content and off we go.
No, this is hands on, active, transformational webinar. You should allow yourself give yourself
permission to be fully engaged in it, communicate with me, connect with me and I will go through
why communication is the essence of all relationships. As far as we are here, keep connecting with
us, talk to us. We are here for you. So, now, we have the intentions, let’s create
group energy. As I said to you earlier, I am very, very big on intention and I am very
big on group work. All our advanced courses, all our awakening courses, all our miracle
chats, they are based on the group energy. What do I mean by group energy is that we
do a quick process – by process I mean we do a quick visualization – to allow each
and every one of you and each and everyone’s intention to connect with all of us.
So, what that would mean is that then onwards, we are all connected. Whatever shifts one
will experience, everyone will feel it. That comes from a physic’s point of view that
everything is energy and we are all connected. You will be blown away by the power of group
energy. I see time and time again, most of my advanced courses say the group work is
the most powerful one. Which means, I don’t even need to be speaking to you physically
and your life will shift just as a result of being here. That is the power of being
on this call or vortex, I call it, or group energy, should you give yourself the permission
to receive. So, where I would invite you to is, to know
that this is a safe space, so from now onwards, we will do a lots of processes and a couple
of visualizations. As much as I am speaking to your conscious mind, I am actually speaking
to you unconscious mind. Your cellular memory is also ... My words are actually activating
the truth of who you are. Just alow your mind to rest and receive this information in your
cellular memory so that we can update your DNA structure to become this person who you
aspire to be. Ready?
So, if you could just relax, and cross your legs and arms.
And just take a few deep breaths. Focussing on your breathing helps you to quieten
your mind. So, just relax.
Take deep breaths in. And breathe out.
Now imagine a beautiful wave of relaxation. Starting from the top of your head, all the
way down to the tip of your toes. Just imagine
That you are fully relaxed. And now imagine in your mind’s eye ... there
is a channel of light .. going up from the top of your spine, up, up, up. All the way
up. Imagine. High. High as high you can imagine. That’s right.
All the way up. Connecting you to source.
And there is a channel of light coming down from the end of your spine.
Going all the way down. Down, down, down. All the way down to the centre of the earth.
Connecting you with mother earth. Grounding you. Knowing that you are supported. Knowing
that you are safe. Knowing that you are loved. From the heavens and the earth.
And now, just imagine, a beautiful ball of energy in your mind’s eye. Just imagine,
all of us etherically iNovum and in the middle is a big ball of energy and there is a channel
of light that is connecting you to the big ball of energy.
And that energy represents you intentions of being here.
Now imagine all those words you have written on the paper or thought of your intention.
Just imagine those words are leaving your body and entering the big ball of energy.
As for those of you who will listen to this recording later, just imagine that you are
connected, physically and spiritually. So, from now on, every conversation, every
process, every interaction will be alignment with the group energy. And I invite you pay
attention to every single piece of information because you have asked for this information
to be received in your cellular memory which will allow you to activate the truth of who
you are and lived an awakened live with love, compassion, grace and integrity in all of
your relationships. And whenever you are ready, you can just let
it all go and know that it’s all working in perfection.
Now, let’s begin. So, the first thing that you must know to
have a loving relationship is this: ‘A broken heart is an open heart’. That is the most
important thing that you must know to have a loving relationship. Why?
The reason why I say this is, most of the time, we close our heart because of the past
experiences and wear this invisible badge, ‘sorry, my heart is close until further
notice’. Even you can’t see that badge, it’s so invisible.
And that is why we are not receiving the information about our partners that we would like. So,
today, hopefully with this information, we will do a little process or do a little something
to allow you to open your heart to a degree that will at least release your heart’s
hurt. Before we do that, let’s find out is your
heart closed. So, I am going to ask you few questions and I would invite you to answer
those questions in the chat box. So, I am going to ask you a few questions
and all you have to do is answer yes or no. In that way, we will determine if your heart
is actually closed or not. So, I am going to ask you a few questions
now. Are you afraid of being rejected?
Yes or No. Just type it in.
Do you fear being alone? Yes or No.
Do you feel guilty? Do you feel there is more to life than you
are living and you feel this frustration that you can’t put your finger what it is?
Yes or No. Write it down. Then...
Do you feel, if you show your true emotions, others won’t accept you?
That is one of the major reasons why most people close their hearts because they feel
if I show how I feel, if I show how I truly am, people won’t accept me. So they close
down. If you have answered Yes to any of these questions,
chances are that you have a closed heart. Today is the beginning where we will do a
little something to open your heart. I tell you the problem with the closed heart
is that most people, because of their past experiences and the past programming, they
close their heart because of the hurt, because of the rejection, because of the abandonment
they have gone through. So, they are afraid, if I open my heart again, I will feel the
pain again. So, they close their heart. But the problem with that is, when you close your
heart, you will not only close yourself from feeling the fear, the hurt, disappointment,
but you fell close yourself from feeling the love, the connection, compassion, the grace,
which means you will end up feeling lonely, abandoned, anxious and upset because you are
unable to feel the connection with another heart. And that is what the first thing you
must know is – it is okay to have your broken as long as it is open because only when your
heart is open, then love can enter, then compassion can enter, then grace can enter, then connection
can enter. And today, let me give you the benefits of
opening up your heart. What are the benefits, as I said earlier? When you benefit yourself
from opening up your own heart, you will feel friendly and supportive people into your life.
You will start picking off on the love vibe. You will see and appreciate your blessing
and good things in life. If you are feeling yourself being really bitter and negative
and upset with the people and keep finding faults in everybody and yourself, chances
are you are not giving yourself the permission to have your heart open. And you will notice
people will start to be kind to you because you are being kind to you. You can’t give
what you don’t have. You can’t give the love, if you don’t have love. You can give
happiness, if you are not happy. So, we begin with the first the thing – which
is opening your heart. So, let me do a quick process with you, we go into much, much, much
detail at our Awakening and our advanced courses. Actually, did you know that you have four
chambers of your heart and each chamber will present a different aspect of your life and
at the advanced courses, we go through those details and clear all those little weeds in
the garden of your heart, which are stopping you from planting the seeds of love and connection.
But because I love you, I want to give you a little taster of how it feels to have your
heart open. So, if you could just follow my voice and
just relax and take a few deep breaths. Take a deep breath in.
And a deep breath out. And breathe in.
And breathe out. Focussing on your breathing helps you to quieten
your mind. So, just allow.
And imagine that you are in a beautiful garden. The grass is green, springy beneath your feet.
The sun is shining, gently warming your skin. The temperature is just perfect.
And as you look around, there are so many flowers, different varieties, different colours.
There is a water fountain playing, birds singing and you look around in this garden and even
though everything looks nice, the garden has been neglected and there’s lots of weeds
you can see. Especially there is one corner of the garden that is barren. There is nothing
there. That corner represents that part hat you haven’t
given attention to. You haven’t paid attention to that aspect of heart that represents your
own compassion towards yourself. So, I invite you to go to that part of the
garden which has been neglected. There’s lots of weeds there. It represents past hurts,
past experiences, projections, fears. And just give yourself permission to go there
as a gardener of your heart and know that you have the tools to pull out the weeds.
So, little by little you pull out the weeds from that part of your garden.
And each time, you pull out a weed, you let go of the fear from being in love. And know
that your heart knows that it’s craving for true love, true connection and this is
the beginning to experience love within your heart. And as you pull out the weeds, you
feel the garden of your heart becoming brighter and brighter. And find next to you little
seeds, and as you pull out these weeds, plant these seeds – seeds of love, seeds of kindness,
seeds of compassion, seeds of forgiveness. And with each day passing, you will water
these little seeds in your garden of heart and each day you will experience more kindness,
more love, more compassion, more grace knowing that it is you who has to nurture your own
heart and you take full responsibility of your own garden. This is your garden, your
heart and you are the one who can nurture it. And from now on, each day your subconscious
mind will take some time out to water these seeds and the way it will water is – do
a random act of kindness. Give a smile to a stranger. Give a random
hug. Compliment someone. Or even pay for someone’s coffee in front of you. By doing these little
random acts, you are nurturing your garden of heart and with this information in your
cellular memory; you know your life has shifted just as a result of paying attention to your
heart. May your garden grow beautifully!
And now, next: the next thing that you must know to have a loving, loving relationship
is ‘Forgiveness sets you free’. Most people have an issue in forgiving people and until
and unless you get this in your head, your mind, your body, your heart that forgiveness
will set you free, you can never have a loving relationship.
And I will tell you why forgiveness is the thing that will set you free. First, let’s
discuss what is forgiveness anyway? What does forgiveness mean?
For me, forgiveness means letting go of that no longer serves you. And people who have
show or demonstrate a beautiful example on a mass level of forgiveness: people like Gandhi,
people like Nelson Mandela, who was in prison most of his life. As he walked of the prison
door, after 24 years, I knew I had to forgive, so I can be free otherwise I would have been
living in the prison for the rest of my life. People like Dalai Lama, whose actual whole
country is being invaded and his people were tortured and killed but he still kept compassion
and forgiveness as a way of being. Forgiveness is not something high and mighty;
or why should I forgive or why should i be forgiven. For me, forgiveness, for-giving,
letting it go that no longer serves you. And a common example, forgiveness for me means
that you are actually taking on the rat poison yourself and hoping that something will happen
to the rat. Trust me nothing will happen to the rat because you are the one who is taking
the poison; or in another way resentment actually means that sometimes you are holding a burning
hole in your hand and hoping that something would happen to the other person. It is your
hand that is burning. So, it’s you who has to let go of the past hurt, of the past things.
And this is one of my fundamental principles or things which entire program is based on.
It’s one of the most foundation where you have to release your past; you have to open
inwards and let go of that no longer serves you and the reason we are afraid of, those
of you who are not in a relationship, or those of you who want to improve your relationship,
it’s because of this thing that you haven’t truly owned that thing that letting things
go. And one of the things that I teach at the
Awakenings and I go into much, much details at the advanced courses – the formula for
wholeness; I promise you get this, you will get life. And it is hardest part to understand
the simplicity and that is why we have people in our courses, who are year after year, who
every time they hear this, they think, “wow, I am getting to the next level”. And more
you integrate it, the more you raise the vibration. And the more you will be the loving person
you aspire to be. So, the formula for wholeness is responsibility
+ forgiveness=wholeness. This is just a taster. I just want to... I want to introduce you
to the concept at this point of time. But when you join us at the live event and the
advanced courses, you will get the gravitas of this.
The first thing with responsibility is.... what I mean by that is taking full responsibility
that you have contributed to that experience to a certain degree. Based on the idea that
everything is co-creation, everything is a JV. In all of your relationships, there is
a co-creation going on, there is a joint venture going on. Your intimate partner relationship,
your boss relationship, your siblings, your friends, everything is a JV. It’s a co-creation.
It is not just them doing something to you, or you doing something to them, it’s a co-creation.
So, you take 100% responsibility of your part into the co-creation of that relationship.
And if you think at any level, that any level, you haven’t – think again. And at the
awakening, we teach you quality questions where you say, actually what part of me has
actually created this? But for now, just take this information that
you are fully responsible for that co-creation and that forgiveness, forgiving, letting go
of all of their issues that you are holding on to – the resentment, the hurt, the rejection,
the disappointment you have been holding on to. As I said earlier, nothing is happening
to the other person, it is your hand that is burning. So, you take responsibility of
your actions and you forgive yourself for being in that situation and then you forgive
the other person for co-creating that event and then you become whole.
Did you know that if you feeling tired, low energy, not motivated, or not inspired, chances
are that you are not living in the present? You are either living in the past or living
in the future. At the awakening, I cover in much, much detail, where the reason why the
challenges you are going through is because of the past experiences you are still holding
onto and you must, must, must let go. We teach you amazing processes, instant processes,
which will transform your life. Letting go and becoming fully in the present.
So, forgiveness. As I have said many things about forgiveness, I want to –because I
love you – I want to give you a quick taster on forgiveness. And for that I would actually
pick up a caller. Let’s take a live – there is nothing more profound, I feel, is to have
live process, live demonstration. As I said earlier, we have created group energy.
So, just by working with one person, I am working with all of you. So pay attention
to his process. I am going to pick one person and one lucky person, I don’t ven know who
that person is. So lets see.. Hello!!
Hi, Leah... Leah: Hello
Leah: This Sidra Jafri, that was unexpected. Sidra: So, have you been listening?
Leah: Why? Sidra: No, have you been listening?
Leah: Yeah!! Sidra: Good. So, do you have someone who you
could do forgiveness of? Leah: Yeah, My Father.
Sidra: Brilliant!! So, are you ready? Leah: Kind of!!
Sidra: Okay. Look Leah, shift happens as much as human psyche can handle. So, we will do
our absolute best and as I said, this is just an introduction to giving you a taste of how
it feels to live an awakened life. So, do you give me permission to work with you?
Leah: Yes. Sidra: Perfect! So if you could just follow
my guidance and answer my questions and we will see what shows up. Yeah?
Leah: yeah! Sidra: If you could just uncross you legs
and arms. Take a deep breath in.
Just become fully present in your body. And tell me if your father could live in your
body, where would you sense him? Leah: In my chest.
Sidra: In your chest. So, just take all your attention, all your awareness in to your chest
and tell me what number is it between 0 and 10. 10 being really, really worse and 0 meaning
nothing is there. Leah: An 8.
Sidra: And 8? Does it have any colour? Leah: Black.
Sidra: If it could speak to you Leah, what would it say?
Leah: I hate you. Sidra: Brilliant! Just allow that energy,
that black energy to, just imagine, just imagine it, play with me as a game. Imagine the black
energy is just leaving your body and standing in front of you. Now, what’s the major emotion
there? Leah: Anger.
Sidra: Anger! Just allow that. If it was a person, who would it be?
Leah: My father, I guess. Sidra: That’s fine. So, just imagine your
father standing in front of you, so that the whole energy, this whole energy is leaving
your body form your chest and standing in front of you. How does he look, how does he
feel to you? Leah: I am not sure. It’s just like a shadow
really. Sidra: That’s fine. I am going to say something
and you are going to repeat after me. You are going to say to him, I’ve loved you.
Leah: I’ve loved you. Sidra: Please forgive me.
Leah: Please forgive me. Sidra: For hating you.
Leah: For hating you. Sidra: For being so angry with you.
Leah: For being so angry with you. Sidra: You’ve been horrible.
Leah: You’ve been horrible. Sidra: You were never there
Leah: You were never there Sidra: I’ve missed you
Leah: I’ve missed you Sidra: I wish you were a better father
Leah: I wish you were a better father Sidra: I forgive you
Leah: I forgive you Sidra: For being a horrible dad in my eyes
Leah: For being a horrible dad in my eyes Sidra: Just like me
Leah: Just like me Sidra: You’ve gone through
Leah: You’ve gone through Sidra: Despair
Leah: Despair Sidra: Anger
Leah: Anger Sidra: Rejection
Leah: Rejection Sidra: And hurt
Leah: And hurt Sidra: May you find peace
Leah: May you find peace Sidra: Just like me
Leah: Just like me Sidra: You’ve been lonely
Leah: You’ve been lonely Sidra: Misunderstood
Leah: Misunderstood Sidra: Fearful
Leah: Fearful Sidra: Judged
Leah: Judged Sidra: And rejected
Leah: And rejected Sidra: May you heal like me
Leah: May you heal like me Sidra: Just like me
Leah: Just like me Sidra: You are a soul
Leah: You are a soul Sidra: On your journey
Leah: On your journey Sidra: May you find
Leah: May you find Sidra: What you are looking for
Leah: What you are looking for Sidra: I release you
Leah: I release you Sidra: From my energy
Leah: From my energy Sidra: I choose to be free
Leah: I choose to be free Sidra: From your judgements
Leah: From your judgements Sidra: Your beliefs
Leah: Your beliefs Sidra: Your expectations
Leah: Your expectations Sidra: Your fears
Leah: Your fears Sidra: I release them from me now
Leah: I release them from me now Sidra: Thank you for being my father
Leah: Thank you for being my father Sidra: You have shown me
Leah: You have shown me Sidra: How not to live
Leah: How not to live Sidra: Thank you for that lesson
Leah: Thank you for that lesson Sidra: With love
Leah: With love Sidra: I let go
Leah: I let go Sidra: Of any vows
Leah: Of any vows Sidra: Any contracts
Leah: Any contracts Sidra: Any pacts
Leah: Any pacts Sidra: Any agreements
Leah: Any agreements Sidra: Any promises
Leah: Any promises Sidra: That I have made to you
Leah: That I have made to you Sidra: Or that you made to me
Leah: Or that you made to me Sidra: That keeps us both stuck
Leah: That keeps us both stuck Sidra: With each other
Leah: With each other Sidra: I release them
Leah: I release them Sidra: Higher levels
Leah: Sorry Sidra: Higher levels
Leah: Higher levels Sidra: Please take us both to perfection
Leah: Please take us both to perfection Sidra: So, what would you like to replace
that energy with? What would you replace your father with? Would you like to replace it
with love, compassion? What would you like to have in your chest instead of that feeling?
Leah: Yeah, love and peace, I think. Sidra: What colour is the love and peace?
Leah: Colour. Baby pink and baby blue. Sidra: Is it a warm feeling or a cool feeling?
Leah: Yeah, I think, yeah, warm and cool. Yeah, so a little cool.
Sidra: Nice. So, in your mind’s eye, just imagine: you have this new warm feeling of
love and breathe that in .. and breathe out any resistance, any remaining energy that
is not yours. So every time you breathe in, you breathe in love and every time you breathe
out, you breathe out all that’s not yours. So, every nerve, every fibre, every cell in
your body is bathing in this beautiful lukewarm energy of love. Pure love. And you are just
emanating. Tell me how does that feel?
Leah: It feels nice. Sidra: Beautiful. Have some water please.
And let us know how your life has shifted as a result of it. I promise you, should you
give yourself a mission, your relationship with men will shift because your father represents
your relationship with men. Yeah.
So, I would really make sure that this shifts. Actually when we have a recording, I would
actually invite you Leah to listen to this again .. and to go ... actually three days
would be .. because shift happens only as much as your human psyche can handle. And
I can see that there is much more to it than what we have covered at this given point in
time. Yeah.
So, listen to this recording. Just, you have to just listen to this process. Just listen
to this again. And if you are in the country, come and join us at the awakening and you
might be the lucky one which we will work with on the stage.
Thank you. Lots of love. Look after yourself. I look
forward to hearing from you. Just connect with me. Okay?
Okay. Thank you. Take care. Pleasure!
Okay. Please all of you, who have been listening, please have some water. Dehydration can actually
usually a lot of headaches. And when we do energy work, water is crucial. Bless the water
before. With love.
Okay next. Perfect one.
Love is the answer no matter what the question. Hence my suggestion, bless the water with
love. Because all there is, is love. And the kind of love that I am talking about...
The thing that you must know to have a loving relationship – is the love that has no gender,
love that has no intention, love that has no agenda.
Love is not an emotion from this point onwards. Love is who you are. What is love anyway?
I truly believe that we are born from love. We are love. Love is who we are and when we
come to this earth, we forget who we are and we bind to this illusion of separation of
not good enough, of not happy enough, not successful enough, not caring enough. So,
all this is illusion of separation which we cover in detail in the advanced courses. This
is my favourite, favourite, favourite topic. Healing the illusion of separation to where
who we are to what we brought in as an illusion. But for now, I would invite you to just know
that you are love and what are sources of love.
And one of favourite quotes is by Rumi. It says, “Love rests on no foundation. It is
an endless ocean with no beginning or end”. As I said, Love is who you are.
And different sources of love. You experience love as your partner, with your partner, with
your parents, with your siblings, with your co-workers, with your friends, with strangers,
with things. When you truly get this concept, you will have a love affair with virtually
everything in life because that love has no gender and no agenda.
You will fall in love with your laptop, with your car, with your home. With everything
and everyone. And that is the type of love I am talking about and just by embracing that,
you will improve your relationships, 100%. Then, self love.
Most people say, you have to love yourself. As I said earlier, you can’t give what you
have. You can’t give the love you don’t have. So you have to be full before you give.
But there is a catch there, which is self acceptance is pre-requisite of self love.
You cannot love what you do not accept. And we cover this. There is a principle of wakening
– it’s called it takes one to see one. It goes into massive, massive detail of the
shadow side. Shadow side is only that side of you which you cannot see.
Those of the neglected aspects of you – the martyr, the ***, or the stubborn, whatever
there is which you don’t want to accept which is actually a hindrance in loving yourself.
And one of the divine magic, actually let me give you a gift right now. If I were you,
I would write it down. Divine magic statements, they are kind of
like affirmations or incantations, but I have actually call them divine magic statements
because I feel the vibrations. I have infused them with is pure love and divinity that you
say will activate your cellular memory. So, on this one, I would give you gift of
divine magic statement, which is, “I love, accept and approve myself in totality”.
I invite you to use this, write this statement 21 times for 21 days to reprogram your cellular
memory so you can accept yourself and love yourself in totality and do let me know. Later
I will give you the details how you connect with me and stay in touch. I love Facebook
and I love social media. So, you can be in constant conversation with me. Or even better
you can join me at the awakening and see me live and tell me how your life has shifted
by just using this cellular reprogramming of your cellular memory.
I repeat, “I love, accept and approve myself in totality”.
There it is in the chat box as well. You can see.
The reason why I have put this picture up and I say love is the answer, no matter what
the question is one profound story that really changed by perception was about this prophet
who was walking with his disciples, and as they were walking they saw this scorpion,
who was struggling to get out of these pebbles. He was going to die, if something wasn’t
shifted. As the prophet watched this scorpion struggling, struggling, struggling with the
pebbles for his life. He went down and took the pebbles out of its way and kicked the
scorpion up and allowed him to go towards the sand.
And just when then the scorpion was going off the prophet’s hand, it stung the prophet
and ran. The disciples got really angry and said, “My God. It’s an ungrateful creature
because you actually saved its life and he could not sting you.” The prophet smiled
and said, “of course, it’s a scorpion. What else do you expect from a scorpion? But
a sting? Scorpion did what it does and I do what I do, which is saving people’s lives
and helping or being kind. Just because it is a scorpion doesn’t mean that I change
my action towards it”. And I love, love, love that story so much
that it put my life into perspective by saying, “Hang on, no matter who’s standing in
front of you, you be the love. It doesn’t matter if the person has hurt you, upset you,
rejected you; you be the love you are and you will see people shift.
One of my other favourite teachers is Wayne Dyer and he says when you change the way you
look at things, things you look at change. And I repeat that again so that you can get
it in your heart. “When you change the way you look at things,
things you look at change”. When you change the way you see the world,
the world changes in front on your eyes. When you infuse yourself with pure love, you
can’t not be loved. Loving people live in a loving world. Angry people live in an angry
world. And that’s a fact. It’s the truth of the statement.
So, I have another game for you. As you know, I love communication. I love interaction.
Do let me know, how this game goes. This game is called, “I love you because: game”.
And what I mean by that is no matter from now on, whatever emotion you express, you
have to start your sentence with “I love you because:”. Even if your partner is making
you angry and you are fuming, you say, “hey!, I love you because you have the ability to
make me angry. I love you because you frustrate me. Or I love you because you make me miss
my train”. Or whatever it is. It could be a random thing. And this is a stroke of a
genius, by the way. You actually get the power of this game behind. The minute you infuse
any information, any energy with love, it blends with love. So, no matter what you say,
people will feel the love you are infusing it with.
Playing this game, especially with children, with hours, actually go. . If I were you I
would go mad on it. Just go and play it with everyone. It’s just a game anyway. See how
... Our friend Albert Einstien said, “the definition
of insanity is keep doing the same things and expect a different result”. If you want
to be in a loving relationship, or if you want something you never had, do something
you have never done. So, this game could be that game, which will
allow you to bring your passions. So, next is one of my favourite things, to
have a loving relationship “communication is the essence of life”. I feel all of life
is relationships. Your ability to relate to things defines your life and communication
is so important. When you stop communicating, you die. Even when you are asleep, your mind
is saying to your body – breathe, breathe, breathe. If it stops communicating, you will
die. Talk, talk, talk. There is no such thing as
over-communication. Always express how you feel. And when you come to the awakening advanced
course, we actually teach you how to communicate. There is a way to communicate and the first
thing is: no blame policy. There is no way you can blame anybody for anything because
you are responsible whatever happens in your life.
One of my favourite sayings is that ‘no one is the keeper of your emotion, and every
one is the creator of their own experiences’. You are actually creating your own experiences.
If you sat with somebody, you have created that. And there is no way you can take charge
of your relationship unless you master that point.
You are the creator of your relationship and your communication.
The next one is the values in relationships. What are your values as partners, as friends,
as co-workers? Most people, the reason why relationships break down is the mismatch of
values. Some people value money, so they work 18-19 hours a day and the other partner values
connection and communication and they expect their partners to be at home on time and that
doesn’t happen. So, there is a mismatch of communication and mismatch of value and
hence the breakdown of the relationship. So, you have to know. You have to communicate
with your partner. Even your potential partner. When you go out as friends or when you date,
make sure that you find out what their values are. Once again, we go through these in detail,
a lot more, at the awakenings and our advanced courses. Find out what their values are. And
if you really want to what a person’s value is, you just look back at their time. Where
are they spending their time? Where you spend your time, money and energy
is what you value. One thing I know, one thing I guarantee that
you value relationships. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here chatting to me. So, that’s the good
news. You know your value that you do value your relationships. You do want to improve
your relationship. And you are on a perfect webinar, by the way.
Just so you know. Next thing – Enjoy the differences. Most
people try and convert their partners into them; it is quite boring. There is a reason
why you are different. If you like yellow, I like yellow, you like green, I like green,
you like washing, I like washing. It can be quite monotonous and that’s why most people
go out after a certain number of years or even months. They start getting bored of the
similarity and they want something different. Variety brings spice to life so learn to enjoy
the difference. The reason why I put that in communication
is communicate the differences and find something different to do, if your partner is wanting
to do something different. It is all about communicating with love.
And one of my other things is, praise policy. If you can’t say something nice, keep your
mouth shut. Keep your mouth shut. Remember no blame policy
in communication. You are co-creator of your experience. Say something profound. Find something
nice. There has to be something good. And if you can’t find it, one of the principles
of awakenings is – ask quality questions which we teach is “what is right about this
person that I am not getting? Or what is right about this situation that I am not getting?”
and you would be surprised. Remember, a question hooks the mind and we cover that at the awakening
that a question hooks the mind. All you have to do is ask the question and your mind will
go find the answer. Praise policy is a must and use questions
to direct your results. If you need an answer, ask a quality question. The quality of your
life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask yourself and other people.
So, make sure you ask quality questions. That is the fourth thing.
The fifth thing, which actually blows people away is that you are in a perfect relationship.
Even if you are not in a relationship, you are in a perfect relationship with yourself.
The universe is giving you a chance to accept yourself the way you are. Love yourself the
way you are. Be in the vibration of love and then you will attract the right person.
At this point, I usually ask people who are looking for love, who are looking to be in
a relationship, ‘would you go out with you’? Or if want to marry someone, ‘would you
marry you’? You are welcome to type your answers. But
most people at this point, say, no, actually I am so .. but I am this, I am that. But,
if you are not willing to go out with yourself, how can you expect anybody else to go out
with you? If you don’t want to marry you, do you actually think somebody else will marry
you? So, before you fall in love or rise in love
I like to say, before you rise in love with somebody else, how about rise in love with
yourself? If you are looking for a partner. If you are in a relationship, same applies
because one of the other principles of awakening is everything is energy.
Our friend Albert Einstein. He is one of my favourite physicists by the way. He says that
everything is energy and all there is energy and you are only attracting + or – 3 of
frequency. So, your partner is actually currently reflecting your frequency. If you are not
happy with your current partner, or you have issues with it, you must change your frequency.
You either accept them for who they are, or let them go.
This reminds me of my favourite serenity prayer, which goes like this, “Dear God, help me
make peace with it to accept things that I can’t change and give me courage to change
things I can change and wisdom to know the difference between the two”.
And what most people do is they try to change people where there is no hope and then get
upset and resentful that I am trying to change that person and they are not changing. Learn
to know when you can change and when you can’t change.
And the other thing, my favourite quote by Budha is, “When I was clever, I was trying
to change everybody. Now that I am wise, I only work on me”. And that is the other
principle of Awakening, which we cover in detail at the Awakening events. Work on you.
Be in it for you. Selfish is a beautiful word. Selfish doesn’t
say that I am more important than you, it only says I am as important as you.
And always remember, we teach people how to treat us. People don’t know how to treat
us. If you feel you have been mistreated, all you have to do is educate them.
I firmly believe that there are no evil people, only ignorant ones.
All you have to do is to educate them with love. Before you can educate anybody else,
by the way, you have to educate yourself. You have equip yourself and that’s why coming
to the awakening or attending these webinars or being in this vibration of self development
is a great idea to work on yourself. The more you shift, the more people around you will
shift. The truth is, what truly matters to you, you
are getting. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be there.
Remember, I told you relationship is a value game. Your key values are being fulfilled
in that relationship or even though you are not in a relationship. Otherwise, you wouldn’t
be in that space. One of the things I shared at the Awakenings
is, until and unless the pain of staying the same is not greater than the pain of change,
we don’t change. We stay in our known hell which is better than the unknown heaven. So,
your true values are, I guarantee you, being fulfilled in that relationship. Otherwise
you wouldn’t be there. The key here is to improve and find out what
you value and educate and grow together. Because either you grow together or you grow apart.
That’s why when people come to the awakening or people join up, I say just invite your
partners, invite your friends, invite your family because there is nothing more profound
and joyous than when you grow, you have your friends with you.
Because, we accept the love we think we deserve. And that is the truth. You only receiving
the love which you subconsciously, not consciously – consciously you might be thinking ‘no
Sidra, I deserve a lot better’ which is fine; right now where you are is subconsciously
what you think you deserve. That is a fact. And when we uncover through these processes
and go deeper we realise how we can raise your deserving vibrations so that you can
allow more loving experience. And one way, which is one the most profound ways, which
I feel, the way you can deserve and raise your vibration of being in the deserving of
the love vibration is joining the journey with me.
So, let me quickly go through ... I hope you got massive, massive value. There is a lot
more to it. As I said, this is just a beginning, taster, an introduction to who you are fully
deserving. This is just the beginning. So, I will quickly go through the journey
onwards would you give yourself the permission to receive it. And towards the end, I will
announce the lucky winner who will win the VIP. So stay with me on this one, please.
So, the first thing you can do is come to our live event on 27th and 28th of July, held
in London, central London. You will get the email with the details. The awakening is a
profound two day course which is the general admissions are free, which is my gift to you.
This is my piece towards the contribution of the planet.
I truly believe that the awakening is the way forward to allow you to live an awakened
life. These are the tools, that I shared, are the tools that allowed me to shift my
life from being in financially *** space, really, really struggling, in a really unhappy
marriage, going through depression and anxiety and stress and suicide to living a really
abundant life with ease, and grace. Miracle is my middle name and I love that. I think
it and I make it happen. And that is not just me by the way. It is
each and every one of you who can make it happen should you have the courage to do the
thing that needs to be done in order to lead the live that you truly deserve. So, you can
be on the live event on London – 27th and 28th of July or you can give yourself permission
to deserve a VIP experience. By the way, VIP experience is not Very Important Person. It
is the most amazing experience. It is not something which I feel you will have experienced.
People who give themselves permission to experience the VIP experience, they will get at the awakening,
a light lunch and a refreshment, advanced registration and front row seating a the event,
which means you will have a better connection with me. You get the information a lot more
with a lot more infusion. A lot more power. And the best thing, one of the best things
is, you will get a private group miracle session with me just like I addressed with Leah earlier,
we go through those individuals who are going to be our VIP guests who actually have a special
bonus session an hour on Saturday evening and we connect and do live processes. Work
with your live energy. Awakening is beautiful for general admission
but if you really want to experience the power of magic, then VIP is a brilliant way of experiencing
it. And then you get exclusive signed copy of my latest publication, which is the Awakening
journal. Awakening journal, is by the way, pure magic. It is a life star book where people.
It is small little A6 book which has all the processes we cover connecting with your high
self. All the process to release your past, live in the present and work for your future.
As you can see the ticket price for the VIP experience is actually 97 pounds. The general
admissions are free. If you can see on the tab up, there is a bar which is sidrajafri-lovewebinar.eventbrite.com.
If you click on that, copy paste that link on your browser, it will take you to getting
the tickets for general admission, which I said earlier, which are absolutely free for
you, no cost to you at all. It is my gift to you.
And VIP experience, both tickets you can get from there, I’ve just said.
So, just go there and click on it. So, let me quickly recap before I declare
this webinar complete. We did five things: 1. A broken heart is an open heart: only when
your heart is open, love can enter, compassion can enter. So you have to go through the pain
of the past releasing it and enjoying your relationship
2. Forgiveness sets you free: Remember the formula of wholeness is responsibility + forgiveness=wholeness.
A simple process of forgiveness will make your life so much easier. Did you know that
all the relationships you have ever had in the past are still lingering on in your energy.
And you don’t have a clue about it. At the advanced courses and the awakenings, we cover
and unhook you from your past, setting your past free.
3. Love is the answer, no matter what the question: Remember the ‘I love you because
game’. Make sure you play that game. Love is who you are. It has no gender, no agenda.
That’s who you are. 4. Communication is the essence of relationship:
communicate, communicate, communicate. Your ability to communicate with love and compassion
will determine the quality of your relationships you experience in your life.
5. You are in a perfect relationship, whether you know it or not: Even if you are not in
a relationship, you are in a perfect relationship with yourself. And when you join us at the
awakening, we go into much more details and release all those unforgiving, all those resentments,
all those partners which you have attracted in your life. Even abuse and trauma and even
major trauma you have gone through, there is a reason for it. And we cover it beautifully
at the awakening which goes through the principle that nothing is missing. When you join you
will find out. Now let me quickly recap the VIP experience,
should you choose to do that. This is how the amazing journal looks like. It is absolutely
phenomenal. I keep it with me all the time to the point that my son takes this journal
to school. He is writing on it. His name is Hussain Courageous Jafri.
You will know when you join the awakening that you have been initiated into the world
of courage. Courage means feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
The group miracle chat on Saturday evening. You will go through, we will go through live
processes with those of you who have joined to, who are inspired to join us at the awakening
experience. We will have a special hour. We spoke working with your issue creating group
energy. You will have fast track entry into the room. Plus a lunch will be included, a
light lunch. You can have a meet and greet session. Connect with like minded people.
Transform your life. Now, we have a winner!
Taddaaa! Let’s see who is the lucky winner of VIP
ticket is. And this is a random, random person, who will
be the winner. This is Alisha Wilson is the winner.
Let’s have a quick chat with Alisha Wilson. Hello, Hi there!!
Hello, one, Alisha? Hello, two, Alisha?
Your experience is going, going .... Hello
Alisha: Hi! Can you hear me? Sidra: Hi, I can.
Oooh. You are one lucky person.
Alisha: Okay! Sidra: Did you enjoy the webinar?
Alisha: Yes, very good. Thank you. Sidra: Do you live in London?
Alisha: Yes I do. Sidra: Perfect. Are you free on the 27th and
28th of July? Alisha: Yes, I will be. Definitely.
Sidra: Perfect! You will get the details from Michelle. It’s our gift to you because you
have been initiated. You have taken a courageous step to be on this. It is not an easy journey.
But pure worth it, I tell you that. So, you come and experience as a VIP guest. Get all
the benefits, just because you can and you deserve it.
Alisha: Okay, thank you. Sidra: Brilliant. Thank you Alisha for being
on the call. I truly look forward to connecting with you at the awakening.
Alisha: Alright. Thank You. Sidra: Bye.
Okay, so where can you find me? You can find me if you can follow me on Twitter
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Sidrajafrilive. I promise you, I love Facebook. It’s one of my favourite things. I communicate
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We do lots of pins, lots of posts. Make sure you follow it. Make sure I feel
it will help you to be in the vibration. And last but not the least, I would like to declare
this webinar complete on the note that please, please, please join us at the Awakening.
If you found this information valuable, this is one tiny, one hundredth bit of what we
will cover at the Awakening. May you have the wisdom and the courage to
take the steps to live an awakened life. And on that note
It’s been my true pleasure and honour to be the host of this webinar. This is Sidra
Jafri signing off and I shall see you at the awakening.