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Choosing between two pair of shoes, ladies, is a difficult situation. But how do you choose
between two lovers? This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to
Men and Dating, and host of Ask Dr. Paul. That question comes up frequently on my show,
and it's very, very easy to make a mistake, and I talk to people about their gut feelings.
I've had women say, "Well, I like this person for that reason, and this person for that
reason." Fine, then keep them both. But if your point is that "I have to choose", then
you must make it well within your feelings. Don't do it intellectually. If you sit there
and say, "Well, I have this lady in my mind who has told me that I should choose this
guy, and I have this other friend in my mind who said I should choose this guy", don't
let them decide for you. You have to choose. It's your life. What you need to do is very,
very quietly sit down, no music, just sit down, almost like a meditation, and ask yourself,
"Which of these people do I really want to spend the rest of my life with? Not next week,
not short term, but the rest of my life with." That's the basis for that decision. I mean,
you're not going to spend the rest of your life with that pair of shoes, okay, but you
may in fact spend your life with that lover. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today
be your realties of tomorrow.