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It is true that most of us find our happiness and our comfort in serving other people.
Putting their needs, wants and desires ahead of ourselves'.
and, of course, obviously, there are times and there are reasons and occasions when you put
other people ahead of yourself's needs and wants and desires, but it is very seldom and
it doesn't have to be all the time.
If it is all the time, there are a number of reasons that you have to watch for.
First of all, I think, it is your limiting beliefs that you think you have to do that.
You have to put other people's needs and wants and desires ahead of yourself's.
This is, like I said, it's a limiting belief and it can be changed to an encouraging belief.
It can be changed to put it in different perspective, and if this is your feeling, then you need
to do some work.
The second thing is that maybe you don't know exactly what makes you happy so you kind of
are in a back burner or you are just enjoying the passenger side ride along with your family
member or people who are really dominant in your life.
The third thing is that you don't take responsibility for fulfilling your own dreams and wants and
desires.
The reason why you think you need to live for yourself is that you have unmet dreams
and unmet desires.
So, it takes responsibility and it takes work, actually, to be able to fulfill or to be able
to go and work towards your own dreams.
So, the first step is to acknowledge that.
If that is the case, then you just need to step out a little bit and be a little bit
aggressive and putting your own needs and wants and desires on priority because your time
is also limited like everybody else's.
So the first thing is to know exactly what makes you happy; second thing is to take responsibility,
and the third thing is that if you're thinking you have to do something - or you have to
put other people's needs before yourself - this is a limiting belief and it can be changed.
If you want to really upstart on the process, there's a link below that you can download
a form, a 7 step process that will help you identify exactly what makes you happy, what
do you want from life, so it'll make it easier for you to share it with your loved ones with
your family members, with your friends, and then when the time comes, you will be served
as well.
Not only that, but you'll also know exactly what makes you happy.
To me, living for yourself means doing the things that you love to do in the time that
you have.
That is living for yourself, and just try to create it for yourself.
That is the answer to this question.
Hope this helps.
I'm sure that there are more questions than answers, but this is it for me.
It is Farima Joya, from the beautiful island of Maui, Hawaii.
Thank you for listening.