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Internet Predators use distinct techniques to try to trick you and gain your trust. We
know about these techniques and tricks because we chat online with the predators and we've
confiscated their computers and examined how they chat with victims.
The predators will try to appear familiar to you. They will be really friendly, asking
you about your hobbies and other interest. Internet Predators ask lots of questions and
respond in such a way to fool you into thinking that they care about you. They try to make
you feel good about yourself, complimenting you and maybe even sending gifts. They often
will agree with your opinions. What you like, or dislike, they do too. They will say they
understand how you feel.
Predators will challenge your parents' authority by telling you that they are too strict or
say something like "I would never treat you like that," or "they just don't want you to
be who you are, they just don't understand."
Predators also typically try to develop your trust. They may say something like, "you know
you can tell me anything and I won't tell another living soul." In fact, we've had a
predator say. "I know you would never get me into trouble" and "I trust you with my
heart."
Predators ask personal questions and try to get you to establish a secret relationship
[establish secrecy]. They will ask you to describe yourself, talk about ex-relationships,
and want you to reveal secrets. Predators will exploit any parent/child conflict and
encourage the child's feeling that the parent is wrong.
Another thing predators typically do is try to erode barriers. They will ask you lots
of questions to see what your morals are and try to exploit them, they want to talk on
the phone with you, exchange photos or use a webcam. They may send and want to receive
inappropriate pictures.
Finally, predators want to set up a face-to-face meeting.
If students have been communicating with someone who is using these tricks, they need to remember
that it's never too late to get help. The students may have already seen or done things
online that they are ashamed of. Don't be bullied. And don't let someone you've already
communicated with trap you. It is better to tell parents, or a trusted adult, about the
situation now before something bad happens to the student or to someone else the predator
is talking to online. Online predator contact can be reported to the Attorney General online
or by phone.
When the predators we communicate with online show up to meet the student they thought they
were talking with, we arrest them. We talk to them to find out how many other students
they have hurt or have tried to hurt and unfortunately it is usually a lot.
Our experience teaches us that students need to remember two important things:
1. Never talk to an adult online unless a parent or a trusted adult knows about it.
Even if that person is someone you know -- like a coach, a priest or a minister, a teacher,
or even a friend's parent.
2. If someone says or does something online that makes you feel uncomfortable, get off
the computer and tell a parent or trusted adult right away. Don't be afraid to tell
them about it -- they would rather know than have you be hurt.