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So today, I would like to talk to you
about the dating app, Tinder
I got in a conversation with one of my friends the other day about it,
and we were kinda like in a,
a little bit of a, somewhat heated discussion about the benefits of Tinder
versus going out there and cold approaching
and having cold interaction with people you just meet on the street
And I said that Tinder is kind of like cheating because pretty much everybody
on that site is already pre-qualified to want to go on a date with you
All you've got to do is manage it correctly. Which my friend was then like,
"There's no way that you can be that confident about it." And I was like,
"I am very confident about it!" In fact site issued him a challenge
which was, that if he could pick a girl on Tinder that he would want to go on a date with
I would then take over the conversation
and convince her to come out on a date
So the bet was set. The challenge was set. And, so sure enough, I took over his Tinder
And I started having a conversation with her. Now, it's important for you to know
that her profile
had a statement about how hot it was in Miami.
And that's what I used to start my conversation. So what we are going to do now is,
I'm going to take you through the entire Tinder interaction,
I had with the girl via these messages
And afterwards, I am going to go back though it
I'm going to break down all the different elements
explaining what I did, why I did it, and
what kind of affect it had. So this is the conversation that we had...
That's so true. Hi! I'm in Miami on vacation
Only heres til Monday. How is it always so hot??!! How's your weeked been?
Oh hi there! Weekend has been ultra relaxing Where are you visiting from?
Well, Texas, but I'm originally from London. Relaxing weekend sounds awesome
I did that last weekend. How about you ?
So do you come equipped with the London accent?
I'm from Ohio, but I have lived here for the past four years.
Unfortunately yea. Though everyone is accusing me of it being fake lol
I almost moved to Miami. Decided against it based on the heat wave here.
You know the one that is always here. Never bee to Ohio
Nothing unfortunate about the British accent!!
lol you get used to the heat
Haha. Thanks! I feel it's kind of overrated here. Ok, I'll take your word on the heat@ Wanna play a game? (I'm bored at dinner)
Haha where are you eating?
Don't judge me if I tell you...
I kind of go wil for the accent No judgement zone, I just ate Shake Shack
Hahaha...Ok cool, I'm at mr. Chow. I can't lie... I love the U.S. accent It's super sexy.
That's how I feel about the British accent What brings you to Miami?
Haha oops... we could be a dangerous pair I'm here for work. Leaving Monday.
Tell me something about you...
that you wouldn't normally tell someone when you first meet
Nice, what do you do? Um, I'm obsessed with cheeseburgers
Ok, I don't hate that, I feel the same about chilli cheese fries.
I make movies for a living.
And I prefer to go out on the week nights, never weekend nights. Sounds exotic.
Oh, why week nights instead of weekends? Tourists on weekends Like me! Not really exotic. Just work. But something I love!
Where are you staying? lol I'm at some hotel called the Surfcomber
It's a pokey little room, but I'm alone there, so you can't really complain. You ever visit South Beach?
I live in South Beach. lol I was at the beach at the Raleigh today. Right next door.
Oh wow. Too touristy here for you? Or you like it?
It's a shame to come out weekends. It would have cool to me someone here in person
and share a drink
It's the first time I've used this app Well I live on the bay side in a residential area
so I can get away from it
I actually work the hotel industry you. Are you here with coworkers?
Nah just me. Got a meeting tomorrow have I few friends in town I know
But other than that, I'm kind of alone. It's a work trip so total allowed, right?
Being able to get away from it sounds good. I've always admired people who work
in the hotel industry
I can't handle the general public. I like my camera is better.
Lol now you get why I don't go out on weekends
Haha. Valid. I totally get that. Ok, if you could show me one thing in Miami
What would it be? Something I couldn't leave without seeing or doing.
So, are you at Mr. Chow alone? Wynwood art walls
I actually am yeah. Does that make me a loser? lol
What are the art walls? That sounds cool
No! It is street art. All over
Omg! That's badass! We have a place like that in Texas! So cool.
So, I'm not kidding, if you're bored and wanna grab a drink
Or actually gelato...I'm a huge ice cream ***...for like 10 minutes
I'd love to actually meet an adopted local
Aw, I wish I wasn't cuddled up on my couch looking like a fried green tomato, sunburnt
What time is your meeting tomorrow
Like noon. Look, I'm not going to try to hypnotize you into coming.
But I'm stuck at work til early evening tomorrow
You're feeling sleepy. You know I wouldn't judge for sunburn lol
Come eat gelato
But I do inderstand a comfy coach. Couch.
I could consider of course not it's too also the more chilling lacks the better
I can meet you anytime you know don't eat on 16th and Collins
yeah perfect come have to also my tree
I want it is %uh post meal anyway 0 judgment we have to do isn't matar
blacks in the fridge a lot size: and that way at least I don't you ice cream
on
lol okay give me a little but I will come perfect you rock
what time you wanna meet that give me like 30 minutes a message you when I'm
gonna leave my apartment
perfect *** my bro just meet me a club
a competent so sorry maybe two Mar I'm always ready bear with me here
what are you going to the club heading there now live well have fun
yes I no worries I'm going back to the couch
as you can see with at like 10 that its really easy to convince somebody to ones
come out and hang out with you and then go on a quick little me day
now obviously at the end that we didn't match went on the date with a primary
because my friend were hanging out
and I don't wanna be a third wheel when he had some girl coming out come hang
out with them
and also been kinda orkut explain why I was messaging hi-fi my friends at
but what is important is that the techniques that were used in this can
all be used for yourself to convince people to come out on a date with you
fights and a so what I'm going to do now is gonna go back through the
conversation
this time explain through each point why I did what I did
and why it was so effective a convincing the girls come out
now very first message that I sent which was talking about
I'm hey I'm he i me mine your vacation among hits on Monday
how was your weekend thing a message like that is the kind message it sends
to a friends we've already been speaking to for ages
it's not like I hey I'd like to get snow you'll hey you're so hot
almost is just like to continue conversation is if we'd spoken in the
past
and literally responding to profile which makes my conversation some natural
and normal
and is going to be very natural for to respond to that I'm also
at the very beginning putting in the facts I'm only here for a short amount
of time
so any meeting that we do is gonna have to be brushed and it was important
because I had to convince her to come out that night
as per my friends deal in the best that we made she obviously points3 into that
very quickly with a
my we can be relaxing where you from so she once the exact one from in basic is
using its a
to keep the conversation going since the only the I've given I say well
I'm from Texas by the region from London threes like a two-point isn't giving a
two chances to do common ground with me
if I just sent us from london and she didn't like people from London I've been
struggling already
however by giving a Texas and London it is a two chances to try and hold on a
conversation with me
I'm I then also you know tell about relaxing weekend sounds great
and I did that the weekend before what I'm doing there is disqualifying the
fact that I no longer want
relaxing weekend in I would like to do something fun which again is all seating
for the fact that I wanna do something fun
something fun with her tonight's so then she's me the first one is interested in
me which
is based on the London accent now want to be polite to being in America with an
English accent is totally cheating
and I can't lie it totally is however it works the same wherever you go
if you have a American accent England you gonna find a lot easier as well
I've got some friends that come from sweet and from finland when they come to
America they find it really easy to
and likewise when Americans go there most the time when you gonna accent from
one area to go somewhere else
your sent using from a different gene pool and that becomes attracted to girls
in the area so
any %uh view that like you know jealous about the fact you don't have an accent
just travel
and take massive advantage just have been officially is once you move
plus also save although he might be initially attracted to the accent
it's not use enough to actually make someone a comment me needs to a lot more
than that
as you seem message I then say yeah it was accuse maxim that the fates
which is just a chance to downplay it so I'm not liking likely after this Axum so
cool
I think go back to talk about miami Heat Wave on and explain I don't know
anything about
hi she brings back to the accident she's like is nothing unfortunate the British
accent
and events you get used to the heat so this point I realize I've got a good
conversation summer
needs to move on otherwise is just gonna be completely born with something which
can talk about
he Miami and Ohio my accent which really isn't like a conversation
so ask if she wants to play game and I justify it by saying
I'm Ward dinner she then asked me where I'm eating now I know that the
in a place in my friend reaching out is quite expensive such investment I've
been there
and %uh I didn't wanna come across like you know I was somebody spends lose
money on food because I didn't want it to be completely
pulled in via so I stopped once again just like a dream axis earlier a
disqualifier I'm eating
you can judge me if I tell you she them wanting goes back to the accident she's
like
I go while Saxon to you give me a really strong signs attraction here and this is
not gonna judge me too she ate Shake Shack
some like okay cool mister shaw and then to shift the conversation story of their
respond with and I love the US accent find a super sexy a funny my experience
as one of the best ways to handle maxine
if I instantly give them a compliment on their axons it helps us build some
common ground find some commonalities between us
robin meade is being like oh yeah my actions Graham so wonderful might come
across like you know some bit too full of themselves
she then says that's how I feel about British accent so already starting to
bond and generate some
common ground attraction between us I like Iraq said she liked my accent
and we sing the grounds find some mutual attraction people ten spill
a lot more confluence reaction when the both attracted
and so might buy me laying the groundwork I'll it makes it a lot easier
to again Saturday
it later on and then she starts give me some interest in learning more about me
with to what brings you to Miami at this point I
build on the commonalities I spoke about earlier on us both have the accent with
while we could be a dangerous path
I'm doing that since nine to allude to the fact that the two of us being
together
explain I'm leaving Monday again because exceeding the fact that I'm gonna stop
pushing for meet up tonight
and ideally it needs to happen tonight at this point I decided it's time to a
little bit deeper than the previous conversation
so she didn't buy into the whole concept of having a game she's like
bypass the whole thing something we want what we call qualification
biking had strayed tell me something that she wouldn't normally tell a
complete stranger
solitary say the phrase tell me something he wouldn't let me tell
someone you first meet them
but the same point she starts to pull information out of me
asked me why do for a living option and is in fact that she's lots cheeseburgers
not exactly the deep thing I wanted but still it's a bit more information about
her
so again I'm going to a common ground on that I'm gonna try and match its general
traction
some light I'm I don't hate the of cheeseburgers I feel the same
actually cheese fries important thing to know if he is I'm not just think we are
I like cheeseburgers to
I'm adding my own information that's when things I think a lot of guys the
coop on is that it's like oh I like that too on the same as you
it's so much better to have your own opinion on something have some kind of
similarity to socialites cheeseburgers I like chili cheese fries
and the truth is I love chili cheese fries in reality someone is making it up
and then I so I make movies for a living I'm
again this is one of the first times I'm actually gonna initiate some kinda
bragging about myself
I know that making movies can be thing that goes really love
and of course it's true with the fact my own production company that makes cams
with you have much the *** I'll check out youtube.com scans coaxes great show
I'm but it's something I know if I'm gonna report should come out tonight
I need something and that's what went wrong 'cause so pulling
she says its first down week nights and never on the weekends I'm which is
basically how disqualifying factor she really doesn't have to come out tonight
so I know them enough to push a little harder from can make this happen
Lynch says that it sounds exotic I do she didn't supervise the movie thing so
it's not as great as I wanted it to be
but still she obviously fines look the more interesting than if I just said you
know
I'm I write blogs online on how to pick up chicks from
as in Justin maybe would be things you know so I then oskar
why do for weeknights rough the weekends this is me trying to
analyze the objections she saw no if I don't know how to handle
objection I'm not going to fix it so the more information Dane
use it is going to be and six planes tourists is the proper
so I then for myself on the bus I like like me I'm a Taurus
what I'm hoping she's gonna do see is by me disqualify myself saying I'm a Taurus
she's gonna say no but I like you you know I cheat or is that makes okay
and that means that she's arguing for are coming out to meet up with me
not sanguine hoping to gain that Anna downplay my career of the standby and
it's on my kids are exotic it's just something I love doing
and then she asked me where I'm staying this to me is one of the strongest polls
any time she's asking questions about myself that completely unprompted
I take as a huge sign attraction she completely ignores like where you
staying
like why would she wanna know that the only reason she could want to know that
is because she's hoping that she can be up with me all hoping that you know
maybe
to have a scam to me up together hywell look at as high a
unsolicited trying to find my logistics
that is a very solid sign that maybe she was me up with me something releases
attracted
sounds like you for the information I tell a hotel I'm at again
I know the hotels in quite nice part of town so I don't plan like it's a popular
over nothing so special
and this is quite the same as if you know he may be driving a nice car rather
be like oh I Drive a Jag learn it's a really great car
it's much better to be like yeah but this year it's your car I like a I got a
great deal on it so I can't complain
problem bragging about it makes a lot easier for people to digest when you do
have something that's kinda column with bragging about
like a jack which I was at she then says that she lives in South Beach which is
right next to my hotel is
and she explains that she was and she at the rally hotel which is right next door
to mine
so can she's doing some common ground here we're not moving to the direction I
white
but still at least she's responding in conversation that you move pretty fast
I say oh wow is this area Tito Resty few would you like it it's a shame you don't
come out weekends it would be cool to meet someone your bus and share a drink
it's the first time I've used this now I'm hoping this is kinda like reverse
psychology is like that
thing a lot like ages ago when your kid we like oh I don't want to do that
animals well then you have to do that
and then you get to do the things you could want to do and basically using
exactly the same technique it
I'm she says that she lives in the bay side residents a recession get away from
the tourist industry
and because she works in a twice as we like it and then again another just a
question
are you here with coworkers again when I see much less like why you asked me this
white 1i from his coworkers
0 thing the only reason she will know that is because she wants to know if she
has to compete with people
when she just gets the hang out with me so it's another sign
that may be forced me up with me and also because she didn't John but the
fact I said oh it's a shame when it gets me up
then I like actually maybe this is still going to happen so I'm going to keep
pushing its like you for the positive just text
it's just me I've got a meeting tomorrow and I've got a few friends in town
but other than that I'm kinda 1 it's a work trip so you know just
about me being alone and then i'd give her big complain about what she does for
a living
I was at my people work in the hotel industry icon handles general public
I want my cameras better so what I'm doing this situation again is a basic
your comp about how great she is
I'm making it seem like you know I'm a little bit alone and she's not gots
compete with
any of my friends any my work colleagues anything else we face it makes it the
lowest pressure environment have a
I'm you know this doesn't do anyone else is just gonna be me I'm because she
seems somewhat interested in me
I think that's gonna be enough to pull in contrast if she paid worried about
maybe hanging out with just me that I'd be talking about how the whole buncha
friends should come meet with him in every legal
so really because I sounding out with the other person to see what you should
know
should be on she's like are you don't like people while you know that's why I
don't go out on weekends
I might high-value data get back once again building
common ground between the two of us the more times I can build a common ground
much more like a time for her to calm for me on convincing someone to come out
and meet me
on the ferry last night having a trust me feel comfy with me
is a much more important factor than having attracted to me if she's too
attracted to me then she might feel a bit nervous that made him a little bit
to get this
12 no common ground that you can trust me come out meet me and then when she
meets me
that's likable the tractions which so then I'm gonna take hypothetically if
you could show me one thing in Miami
what would it be some twenty get her the idea of maybe show me around man in
teaching
things and then again she comes out with this legislation
are you mister Challoner so once again she's trying to see this out
is she just gets me or is the other people and again she's not made it clear
that she's not to come and see me
so I still think the games on ups the ante planes and I'm like wow eating
alone does that make me a loser
again I'm going it's a fine on my behalf I'm disqualify myself does that make me
lose up
hoping this is Matt no it doesn't make you lose that's awesome during our long
anything I can do to get hard to convince myself I'm great
I'm using at this point I'm and I'm like oh wow all walls that sounds cool
real important thing I'm doing for the some respondents everything she says
any individual piece a conversation she gives me I'm gonna be using back at her
because I wanna make sure she knows I'm responding to everything she says I'm
not just ignoring things and focusing specifically on the two of us meeting up
and that's that no its tree are its will over and its recall
so if you look at the exclamation she's giving his she's making it very clear
that she's really into this
and so I'm going to match that with a lot of exclamation marks myself and also
you know
be a multiplex which marks capitalization what have you oh my god
that's badass
in place and text like that so call again building that common ground
so then I'm gonna go for the pitch so I'm not kidding if you're bored
and wanna grab a drink or actually ice cream 5-10 minutes
I'd love to meet adopted local so this is the pool I'm doing here is a whole
buncha stuff the first one like you know
if you've got nothing better to do I know she doesn't she just messaging me
and she wants to grab a drink what you'll also that come with that
technique I did earlier
when it dropped Texas in London something up alcohol and ice cream
just wanna drink alcohol maybe should have ice cream some ice cream maybe
should have alcohol
and the two like bonanza spectrum one of them is you know going out Alcon parting
some people like the alcoves justification on the other hand if they
don't wanna drink that what the next day
ice cream 10 see something that people like and then she's like oh no
I wish I was in college up on my couch looking like a fragrance marzo
I'm what time to meet its months she's trying to put me off me like you know
made with me another time
second so the chance to meet up with me but she doesn't wanna do it right now
at this point I've basie two options like my the diver go tomorrow at which
point
at least one that my friend which is something I'm not actually gonna do
on I could push to go to her place and hang out with her on a sofa
but that's a bit of a push in a bit of a stretch reckoned we initiate try and
pull off the ice cream on which is what I got for
I try make it funny I might like to know you know I'm not really have time
tomorrow
and then I go with the you are going to tend to hypnotize ragle sunlight look
I'm not gonna hit what size you
I'm stuck at work I'm not gonna I have not been able to get out you're feeling
sleepy
I'm you know I wouldn't judge you some bugs me since I'm not gonna judge if you
don't get dressed up
comment eat a lot so by doing the sound comfy Council
cultures I said so at this point she starts to say well
you know if you don't mind I look like a hot mess I could think about it so now
she bases and yes I'll come out and you don't mind I look like a hot mess
summer of course I its ice cream and justifying snow behalf
the more chilling relaxed you are the better to try to make you feel very
comfortable
you know coming out being like state just like me
anytime tonight and I given the location which I know is close to her cuz she's
really told me that she's
lives on South Beach so she knows exactly is and then the final pushes you
know
my tree a the ice cream place I go see the the gelato place
they often have like buy one get one free says like an actual spending money
anna says she's going to travel light see me I don't mind playing two-dollar
ice cream I'm and that's all just do is pop Mitel
accent again downplay my accent and then be free to our time someplace in making
this
as easy first possible to what's come out and then a plea guilt trip which is
told me something that my mom upon me when I was kid which is you know
at least this way I don't have to the ice cream line and that's a okay give me
a little bit
and I'll come and then at that point having just takes and the course last
minute cancel with a pretty good justification which is my friend wants
go to my club
90 the shows we wanted my fav thing she said you know should ice cream to
going to now called just get dressed up sign you that was enough to power of
I'll be honest if you're kinda felt bad about not meeting up with that the truth
is you know
everyone me up with a married man im much more happier with my wife and I be
some random girl
and also you know it was a chance my friends catch up and have a nice meal
together and see each other
as you can see me it goes something that can be really easy
and you should feel free to complete use this script as it is and you're just
weak if its fifth year instructions
although in reality if you want to really get this to work should be
thinking about yourself and try to take away the techniques I'm using
and using myself to make it work on item mostly students don't use is a
replacement to other me girls
but I said trying to use as an addition you know maybe out with some friends and
family will have you can
with pockets and our stock messaging some girls and then that way your
friends and family we completely shocked when this
told cutie comes out of nowhere walks up to table use this out
and you disappear off into the sunset some fun and frolicking when everyone is
like how did you do that you can be like
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