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Hello! I hope those of you covered in snow in the NE are doing alright. So I was asked
to give my thoughts and opinions on dating/marriage in the US. The way that this is phrased makes
me feel like this person doesn't trust women at all and thinks women are evil and out to
take men for everything they're worth. There are some women who will do that but significantly
more women will not. And, having as many female friends as I do and hearing their stories
and such, I can say, I can truly ATTEST to the fact that many just want a family. They
just want to be loved. They just want a good relationship and that's all they really want!
So, the numbers are on the side of the good women, not the crazies. As far as whether
or not I think marriage is a good idea, that's up to the couple. Two people decide that sort
of thing, and there is a lot to be said for marriage because you're holding yourself accountable
in front of loved ones in saying you will stick by this person's side no matter what.
And if you made the right choice from the get-go, if you chose a person who is good
for you and is going to provide you with a good family then you should absolutely hold
yourself to that. If members of your family remind you of that from time to time, that's
kind of a good thing, ya know? But if you have incredible willpower and so does your
significant other, then maybe you don't need marriage. Maybe you can just be together,
be committed, and not have to worry about a thing. I don't know, I'm not in everybody's
shoes. I think that there's a lot to believe in with marriage, and I think that it's a
good thing. I think it's worth trying for, I think you shouldn't be afraid of things
like marriages that went south because someone went nuts. Of course it does happen but if
you learn how to understand people and see the truth of them, see them to their core,
see all their flaws and their strengths, then I think you can make a really good decision
from the get-go. Then take all the steps necessary to keep the relationship going, then all those
things you mentioned will be things you won't even consider. It would be just as outrageous
as saying, "What if they turn into a dragon?" or "What if my house turns into a bunch of
frogs and I lose everything?" OK? Be reasonable and also be caring. Be as good as you want
the other person to be. So, I guess all I'm saying is just learn to mature yourself as
an individual and find another mature individual, then focus on making the relationship work,
then focus on making your family work, and then everything else will fall into place.
It won't be easy. It's certainly not going to be a fairy tale, but it's something you
can handle and something that will be fulfilling. So that would be my advice to you, and anyone
else watching this that is on the same sort of fence of whether or not they should get
married. OK? Best of luck to you. I hope everyone who is suffering through the storm right now
makes it through. Go make some hot chocolate, watch some TV, and snuggle up in blankets.
Have a good one!