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Did you know that people remember the way that you made them feel instead of the words
that you actually said? It's true! So if you're interested in making a great first impression,
it's very important that you prepare yourself with positive thoughts and experiences before
you even go to the event. Before you even meet the person in question that you want
to impress. So what does that mean? Let's say you are really dreading going to a networking
event, and all day lang you're like, 'Ah, I just don't want to, I just don't want to
go to this networking luuuuh, I don't want to luuuuuhhh...' Well energy is contagious,
so that dread will actually attract more dread. Now, if you flip it around, and you actually
get to a place where you're excited, where you're looking forward to people that you
don't know and maybe meeting them and how great it's going to be, that positive energy
is going to attract positive energy. And people, and experiences. When you are feeling good
about the outfit that you put together, that you're going to wear, you actually feel good
about yourself. And good will attract good people, good experiences, good opportunities.
So, the preparation is about arming yourself with all kinds of positive energy, before
you even meet anyone. Now, once you're standing in front of the person you want to impress,
you want to make sure that you connect with them. It is such a gift to give somebody your
undivided attention, and to really share with them in exchange. And so the way that we connect
with somebody is that we look them in the eye. We give them a firm handshake. Doesn't
it feel very awful to get sort of a limp handshake from somebody? It's an extension of your energy.
And when you cut that energy off and kind of dangle it meekly in front of the person
in front of you, it's a disconnect for us. Just, the person reads unconsciously, 'This
person has nothing to give. No energy.' So make sure you have that firm handshake, along
with that great eye contact. And finally, your warmth and your radiant smile is going
to invite a feeling of openness and positive vibes, so that the person genuinely wants
to connect with you. Lastly, after you've made this great connection, really listen.
Really be in the conversation. You don't need to impress anybody. You don't need to spout
off your resume and all the great people you know. You just have to be. You have to listen.
You have to ask questions. And in doing so, you ingratiate yourself to the person and
they will remember the way that you made them feel. That's how you become unforgettable.