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Hey guys Duke DeLaet here for pickup daily
and we're going to answer a question
from Seddit today says how do i balance
conflicting ideas women want what they
can't have
and show your intentions clearly and
early great question guy from senate uh
we're going to answer this and more
today on pickup daily pivot
how to balance apparently conflicting
ideas women want what they can't have
and show your intentions early and
clearly well the reasoning for both of
these mindsets and just just to make
clear these things are both mindsets
they're not necessarily true gospel were
done everything right it there just
mindsets that may help in some
situations and may help in others it may
not help in other situations so the one
that says women want what they can't
have it
it has to do with availability and
scarcity if you look at child needs
rules in influence psychology of
persuasion one of his books where he
goes around figuring out how colts
implicate new members he was talking
about how the idea of scarcity is
something that compels people to take
action to want something and that's like
a general human things I'm just like
women want what they can't have we want
what we can't have
but you do like it's it's it's it's a
thing like using sales marketing and you
know obviously the the rarer thing is
going to be a little bit more desirable
than the easy to get
thank you know it you go to a bar and
there's a bunch of sevens there and you
know that you know there's a whole bunch
of it and there's only one or two like
nine or ten you're gonna be like okay I
want those and you're going to value
them over the other ones just because
they're river
however if you go into like a high-end
Hollywood nightclub is just tens
everywhere the looks are going to be
less awesome as you're evaluating and
you're going to be looking for more rare
qualities like how friendly they are how
much they touch you and stuff like that
there is going to shift and change just
because the scarcity level of the
resource that you're looking at has
changed
women are the same way if they can't
have you
they're going to chase they're going to
chase it and invest more
into that interaction which is kind of
the idea behind qualification when you
qualify and she's like oh I may not have
this one in the bag
she's forced to decide whether or not
she wants to invest more into the
interaction and compelled to do so if
she's interested at all right on the
flipside they say show your intentions
early and clearly there are many guys
who sort of beat around the bush and
don't enter conversation with a woman
sort of in authentically where they'll
they'll say hey I've just looking for
this we're just trying to be friends and
you know haha it's very indirect and
they try to get buddy buddy from the
side and then later on they spring the
sexuality on are very quick and it's
like a like a woman's try to talk and
then all of a sudden the sky
she was just thought was cool is now
like escalating fast honor and say okay
this is uncomfortable
this is not contextually appropriate
this makes me feel weird
so when we say especially in like direct
game methodologies i can show your
attentions clearly it's not a high
percentage move like indirect game is
way better when it comes to dealing with
all of the little social nuances right
but direct game when you when you stay
edges fast you state it is clearly it
really shows a high level of masculinity
and it could turn on a woman who's
looking for that kind of thing very very
quickly so they're just applicable for
two different types of scenarios if
you're out there at the view as a man
have a difficulty showing masculinity
showing a tent going *** when you
need to and that's your issue then
definitely show your attentions quickly
show your intentions clearly and put it
out there for her to accept or reject
because you polarizes very quickly and
it creates a spike of a tat of
attraction but if you're a guy who go
*** all the time and you know when
the signals are you know what the right
moments are then you don't have to
really focus on that as much because you
kind of already know how to do it well
you might want to do is work on the more
nuance getting into a social circle or
getting into her favor from the side or
you know introducing her with high value
other people and doing all these other
moves that are a little bit more
complicated than direct like oh I can't
approach what do i do O polarized
sexually right both of those things are
valid advice but they're not necessarily
contextually relevant in the same
contact so i hope that clears it up
either way definitely keep trying and
alternating all of the things that
you're you're checking out in game
because as you keep moving up and levels
each of the truth that you learned
earlier i'm going to be explained in
higher complexity as you test them out
in the field that's my answer today on
pickup daily we do this every damn day
so until tomorrow
stay awesome