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Annnnd bi stuff. I wanted to do a Q&A about sexuality, specifically bisexuality, because that's what I know. I went on tumblr and asked you to send me questions,
and you sent me so freaking many it's ridiculous. So here's like 2% of them because I can't possibly get to them all. Do you ever like you're too gay or too straight?
Oh yeah. All the time. I go through phases where I'm super confident in my identity and then other times when I feel like I'm not measuring up, which is stupid because who do I
have to measure up to except for myself? And I'm always measuring up to myself. There's no predetermined way to do identity and who you are at all.
I tell myself because sometimes I don't believe it, but it's true. Why do you identify as bi as opposed from pan? I get this question all the time. My reasons for this are actually
pretty simple and straightforward. I don't really care about labels. I don't put too much stock in words to describe myself. But the reason I identify as bisexual is because
more people have heard of it. But it's fluid and everybody identifies however they feel comfortable and that's all that I care about. Are you comfortable? Are you happy? Do you feel honest?
That's all I care about. Did you deal with ***/biphobia when you first realized you were bisexual? Hell yeah I did. I'm still doing that, to be honest. We've made a lot of strides,
but still generally, as a society, we look at people who aren't straight as the other, as something different and not normal. Working through and overcoming that is difficult.
It's something I'm probably gonna do for the rest of my life. What's the most annoying question you get asked frequently? *inhales* Do you consider yourself to be a 50/50 split bisexual?
Some people don't find it annoying, but I do because I just think the question is boring and unnecessary. I get that people just wanna understand you better, but it's really only
bi/pan/polysexual people who feel they have to put specific parameters on their identity. I don't really care about labels at all, so I definitely don't care about percentages and
also I don't feel like my feelings can be boiled down to a number like that. I don't feel comfortable doing that. I also don't feel like it's necessary, but that's just a me thing.
Some people are fine doing that. I just don't care. Is it really necessary to come out when you're bi? It's not necessary to come out ever about anything. If you're not ready to
come out, if you're not safe, if you don't want to, you don't have to do anything. You're no less legit if you don't come out. You're fine. Since coming out, have you realized that there
are any male tv/movie characters that you had a crush on? Oh yeah! One really recently. Peter Petrelli from Heroes. Turns out I was really gay for him. I just didn't know it.
100% my type of person. So, yeah, very gay for him. How do you explain bisexuality to ignorant people? I don't think you really can. That's a little bit pessimistic. I just think
if people are resigned to their opinions that go against logic of the real world, it's gonna be really hard to change their opinion. I generally try to avoid conversations like that.
If I say something about myself, and someone rejects it and says something nonsensical, usually I just leave that conversation because that stresses me out. If I do have the energy,
then I'll present the information and let them do with it what they will. You can't beat yourself up over not being able to convince someone that you're right. But I also
believe that generally people intelligent enough to come to the right conclusions when exposed to the right information over a long period of time. So it may take a while,
but I do think people come around eventually. Last question, how can people be better allies to bisexuals? Being an ally in any context is just about listening to other people
when they talk about their experience. It's important to remember that your experience and opinions are not universal. I can really only speak for myself. I don't speak for the whole
of the bisexual community. I fit into that community, but I don't speak for anyone other than myself. As an ally, it's kinda similar. You just need to learn when to take a back seat
and let people talk about themselves. That's actually really easy, to just not talk. That's about it on the questions, though. Thank you for sending me so many.
There are so many freaking questions. If you have any more questions or thoughts you can always leave them down below. I'll be reading and responding to as many of them as possible.
I'm gonna head off here though. I love you a lot. And I will see you next time on Friday.
My favorite thing about the last video is everyone was like "your skin looks so flawless" and like nah. I was wearing makeup. I did a photoshoot in the morning.
Wasn't my actual skin. Get memed on. Get rekt. haaa