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So anger is often about somebody violating our boundaries. We have a sense that someone
has hurt us, taken something from us, violated us in some way. When that happens, often times
we want that person out of our lives. Sometimes we don't have a luxury of telling them that
or actually making that happen, particularly if it's a boss or something but we can do
something about that. We can image telling them everything that we have to say that we
are upset about and then imaging them going through a doorway. Then, slamming that door
behind them. In our Taking It Lightly Intensive, we actually built a very special door just
for this purpose because there's a really powerful thing that happens in the sense of
slamming the door. Now, if you are going to do this at home, I caution you to make sure
that the door can handle slamming so that you don't want to cause any damage of any
kind because that is violence. We don't want to create any violence. So, imagine in your
mind telling this person everything you've had to say, since they are not there in front
of you literally you can say those words. Then, when you are done with whatever it is,
grab that door, see them them walking through that door, and then slam that door. "Get out!"
The feeling that you get from slamming the door, the closure, the energy helps to have
a sense of protecting yourself and saying " that's it, no more, you can't do that to
me". That, moving all the excess anger through allows you then later at another time in a
calmer more productive way to be able to communicate what you need to say about your boundaries
and how you want people to relate to you.