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whether that be from family, one's professional life... let's think about this deeply...
another word for expectation is projection and these projections are sourced from a sense of incompleteness
from unhappiness... when i feel incomplete or unhappy, i project that my spouse should
make me happy, i project that my workplace should bring me fulfillment... so for us
the more we find completeness, the more fulfillment we have in our lives, we will not have expectations
rather we will have acceptance... and the more accepting we are, then others will invoke
that same acceptance... this is a long term strategy towards working with expectations
to be more accepting... now, this is from us towards expectations, what do we do about
expectations towards us? be calm... there's no point in not being calm... whenever there's
an emergency, in a physical sense, on a plane, in a car... the advice is always stay calm
and figure out what to do... we tend to do the opposite, isn't it? we react and then
figure out what to do and it becomes harder then, so be calm... it is wasteful otherwise...
next, there's such power in sitting with someone and for them to understand you and you to
understand them so that expectations can be more aligned... otherwise there's only a game
of inferring... i infer you can do this so i have this expectation of you, but if i sit
with you and i tell you how i feel about a certain project, a certain behavior, you tell
me too... with that understanding comes alignment and less conflict... so much of our lives
are virtual now and you can't see someone, you can't feel someone... we have to go back
to the original social media which is socializing with people, holding their hands, looking
at them in their eyes... and finally, in my experience with my family, with my work, with
living, you can never meet people's expectations both by how many people are having expectations
of you and how much they expect of you... when i'm clear that i cannot meet everyone's
expectations, i cannot meet a single person's expectations in the way they expect of me
i just become more balanced... i accept that people will have this negativity of me and
whatever else comes with it, i'm not shaken... it's like if you live in a hot place
you accept the weather to be like that... if you live in a cold place, you accept the weather
to be like that... people are like that too and when we know this, we're more calm...
so be content, be calm, be communicative, and be clear... these are ways to have a healthy
relationship with oneself and others