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Hi, Larry Cappel here. I was recently interviewed by a psychotherapist, a gay man, in Sydney,
Australia who has a gay counseling practice there. His name is Clinton Power. He asked
me some great questions about the issues that prevent gay men from leading rewarding
lives. We had a really nice discussion, I want to link below to his discussion. You'll
see that the interview in the link below this video.
In general, the issues we talked about, what I saw as core issues, is the struggle for
gay men to be single and be happy. There is so much value placed on being in relationship
in this society, that we often, as gay men, think there's something wrong with us if we
aren't in a relationship. That is just not true. That is one of the core issues.
I think another core issue is that a lot of men still struggle to believe that they can come
out and still be loved by the people that loved them when they were younger and
still in the closet. Can you come out and still be lovable? That's a huge issue yet,
but it's much better than it used to be, It has not gone away.
Another issue is infidelity in gay relationships. Gay men value being in a relationship so much
that they often get into relationships that just aren't good for them. Maybe there's something
wrong with the relationship, but because of this fear of being single, many gay men stay
in relationships that they shouldn't stay in after they've gotten into those relationships.
They just don't move on and find a healthier situation. That's a big issue in gay relationships
too. Then people in relationships because we're
gay, and we've always put a value system on sex being a free expression and so on and
so forth. Infidelity becomes a big problem in gay relationships too, and open relationships
are just a challenge. Then there's a whole issue of numbing ourselves with drugs and
alcohol. The pain of being gay, well we can forget it for a little while if we're drunk
or high. Those are the big issue we talked about. I
don't want to just go through the entire interview here, but I do want to invite you to read
the interview and see what you think. You can leave me comments here, and Clinton would
welcome your comments underneath his article on his website as well. If any of this strikes
a chord with you or you have any questions, reach out to me. You can leave me a message
on this page below. There's also the contact Larry box as well as my phone number, and
you are welcome to use any of those and I will respond. Thanks for taking a moment,
and I look forward to connecting.