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THROUGH GAY EYES
Episode 5 Gaydar, Gaydar, Tell Me...
- Milán, you really didn't know what gaydar means? - No, I didn't.
So have you looked it up somewhere? Do you know it now?
Sure. It's when we feel that another person is gay.
By the way, its Hungarian translation is "melegradar" (gay radar) and yes, as you've said,
it means that we feel or at least suspect that another person might be gay.
We just WANT this person to be gay!
You just see someone on the bus, you find him really attractive, you fancy the type of beard,
face and hair he has and you wish he was gay.
So it's easy to presume that he's gay, too. But it's not true, this isn't possible.
I can have a suspection but as I've said, you can never be totally sure, you just have a feeling.
And what is it that makes you suspect something like that?
I don't know, you can look at him... Usually the eyes... In some way your eyes are a little like...
- The mirror of your soul... - Which radiates gayness.
- So if I showed you some photos of men... - I don't think this would work on photos.
Probably it's also about the charisma of a person. - I see.
Or maybe that's all it's about. - Well, obviously...
It's about what you'd like to see in somebody and it's also about the aura of his personality.
Has it ever happened to you that you met someone on the bus and your gay radar
worked and then this person actually turned out to be gay?
Well, it's never actually turned out. But once I made a nice eye contact with a guy.
One of my lesbian friends, she was by the way my classmate, we talked a lot
and the next time I saw her was at a gay place. And I'd seen that before that
she didn't really enjoy the company of guys... Okay, it wasn't really a gaydar situation.
I don't even know to what extent it works on girls.
Then it really is about attraction! So to sum it up, we can say that
gaydar might work between guys - if it works at all.
It's just something that can give you a hint. It's not like it has to work every time or that things are
totally under control so that you could be 100 percent sure that somebody is gay.
So actually if you use your gaydar or you suspect that somebody's gay it doesn't mean
you want to put the moves on him. It's not about that.
- So it's a big purple mist. - But I think it makes sense.
So feel free to write down what you think in your comments.
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