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for some of you this might be a first semester of school you might start a
relationship and this thanksgiving break is in a while the first major
opportunities
free to travel home perhaps even in your house and show off your girlfriend your
parents
or vice versa and so this is a big opportunity and a big risk because you
can either make a good impression
or a bad impression and if it's the first impression you want to be once his
positive as possible so
my myself and lisa has some tips for you on how to make the best impression would
needing your significant others
beforehand the specific tips
what was it like for you the first time you met the parents of a boyfriend
uh... remember to be honest i don't remember i haven't had and so on how do
you remember introducing a boy for your parents
uh...
actually someone taipei rinse around telling recently but it wasn't even a
boy it was not there was a weird situation but
here's one pc
okay davis and this completely changes
when you'll need price one even more when you need
when you need college in especially if you're not living
in the same city as your parents because before you have a school
physica territory knew we were dating they were hanging out at your house and
i get it through whereas if you're in college out of state uh... or eighteen
get a job out of state it's a totally different ball game because
it becomes a big *** out a time to meet the parents and other bramhall madmen
there's always stress around holidays anyway is an unusual if you are bringing
a buddy home it it's going to be around the holidays that's just added stress
and i think it base
could be potentially damaging if you don't handle it well to both your
relationship with your family
any relationship with your significant other because one thing i realized
uh... that i will do if i need to introduce somebody to my parents
and i'd for one thing start to see my family through their eyes which means i
realize like all the weird things about my family than other people might pick
up on
and then also i start to see the person and gaining
through my family size
and realize all the things that they're getting it taken not like about him
and it just caught me
context messages like jesus
i don't like that
i mean do you know the lead in the late fifties for example that this if i don't
assume i'm so uh... reckoned read with me i could do it i do agree that there's
a big distinction singing parents in high school and college because of high
school one of the parents possibly perspective you just some
found to have some high school that they don't college you have to be somewhat
more along and know what your features and the like in the napkin the palace
directly on an actual career expected more
so the first step but i want to give
especially for updates giving meeting at the parents because you're gonna be
having like dinner with them maybe even staying with them for couple days
the very careful about the influence of alcohol
like in my experience when i met uh... that the parents of girls that they've
been father usually wants to do some alcoholics show that he has to talk and
relax and hang out all that
drink too much
because you love your gun and that's saying something stupid your gun and at
the pentagon thanks
i remember specifics
the first uh... the first family that i met a girl friend was very traditional
filipino family actually and i don't know that i said anything particularly
offensive but they didn't seem to have amazing uh... confession of the apt word
of god only knows what i sent
i wasn't talking about like the politics of the filling in a long time to pick up
on your humor ok and now i know i get it and i and i love it i cherish it but it
took me a long time break a leg really sick and employees
of has said he made right job for something that is in a very dr you've
got a fixture
so the bid for the first that there are three major groups yet to be careful
about one less so
and these are very similar to how you can talk to the lost any once this is
sort of general advice to
be very careful talking about politics
because you you go to have family you don't necessarily know what their
politics are analytics religion
there was the second thank you for underpinning the fact that i don't just
be very careful these very sensitive topics of religion and politics
gradually getting impression of what they're like over the course of the
first meeting with them and then looking you're probably not going to have the
same exact views they do
but you can be diplomatic about it you don't want to have a major party met
with father for sending it
that's pretty good but it's a thing
why don't they
hopefully body and the fact that your significant other what kind of family
background they come from uh... and get an idea for are they a liberal family
are they conservative family what are their religious views if any
and that what you're less likely to offend then and also
what their family really cares about like if you if you if i have no grow
friend
whose mama would
played and destroyed something out there really prefer that you will
call her by her last name is ever firstname or really cares when somebody
like helps out with the dishes that your pride going around the holidays like
offer to help make something offer to bring something
what you can do
it doesn't seem like sucking up to the scene in nj anyway and then but that you
but that you know there's a bit longer fred at something that now though it
what is your family really care about what may be okay
too like make myself
look better in their eyes into ends and it's all about respectively what helped
me behave to be respectful in their home yet and that the flip side of that
that's very devices offer that advice to the person you're bringing back to your
friends
like humans and i see your parents there there is
my parents
had some crazy
characteristics to
and meeting in my brothers i woulda assertion because quickly and so
different from one of my brother's yet you should offer advice one other area
they want to say
i don't know
how much the average parents are really a value in them
but if you're dating like their daughter for instance they probably are about
agreeing to some extent so you know what appeared to be a sucked up
but i think that
if you're not particularly ambitious yet we don't think we have a very firm idea
of what your vigil careers could be
i think they get to some extent
i don't think that you should take everything but i think that you want to
appear to be confident and have some idea of what your future is gonna be
like
because it's very easy to dislike
a guided stating your daughter
he's just drifting aimlessly around and just cares about life upon potter
something
i completely disagree
and here's why pat because it if you're pursuing a career like what you could
work it *** baby gap but as long as you're interning on the side and you're
saying look this is what i want to do and trying to do this
if you're going outta your way to help them on this day and you know your your
significant others probably you then they may have connections that can help
you because they like you whether i don't think that we're disagreeing there
i'm not saying make up a career
i'm saying
show what you want to do with confidence
there's different ways like a branson's i don't know entirely was a kind of
bolstered up a little more than what you're doing dereliction bolster how
confident you are in your future you know what i seem to be a listen don't
look if you're it just is really the best baby gap manager
in the world then say that's the idea of baby gap above that ever since i was a
baby which is program
or something like that if you're going to during the peace corps something
speak about it with passion as long as it does the fed up with a vengeance it
sounded like you were saying canon mislead them into thinking that you're
doing a little more than you are
no i'm not saying like pad your resume in just a note that come across as
ambitious and confident
i think that's a general does a good qualities that you want to have
i think if you're in college
and here at pressures on for this and that big of a deal as it is if you're a
senior or if you're my ager john's age because
if you're in college is still could very well just be
yet and short term like me
kind of serious somebody they know they for a couple years but once you become a
senior in college if you married to a new pair is this is somebody that you're
really serious about if i woulda bring someone home would have to be a really
big deal
so then it becomes more serious because i know if i'd bring anyone home my mom
will be thinking of this and that her potential future husband and she's been
a evaluate that rap on tom can help prevent compassites yourself that you
i've you know obviously don't be somebody that you're not
but despite some things about you that may be late don't let on to that right
away when you're meeting somebody's parents for the first time just read it
basically
how you treated your significant other to pretend you're dating
pilot ten thousand first