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Hey this is TW Jackson I would like to welcome you to the site here
you can call me T Dub and I wanted to do a video for you
that i'm hoping will really help you out whether you decide
to win your wife back and visit my site or not
i'm hoping this will be something you can take with you take with you today
and will really help you out because i know if you're visiting
you're going through a really tough time now with a break up
and i answer gosh hundreds of emails every month i get alot more but
unfortunately i just can't keep up and from time to time i get real letters by
the post which is really really cool
i got one just the other day i'm going to cover the guy's name up
the return address to keep it private but it was on march 27th
but let me show you that here right quick tw jackson if you'd like to write to me
id love to get a letter from you just out here in the country
i'm just an old country boy like i told you if you've
read through a little bit of the introduction in the letter
i'm an ex service guy been through the military all kinds of countries and states and stuff
but that's enough about me all the time i get letters and emails from
folks and they've just got you know word of the
break up and man it's such and emotional and trying
time there you'll have to excuse me i don't do a whole
lot of these videos i hope it comes across helpful for you but
i'll probably do a little bumbling
but look what happens a lot of times is that somebody gets that initial break up
whether it be in a letter or face to face
and they just kind of go insane for a little while
that's just the best way to put it just kind of insanity and they start doing
what i call text message terrorism they're text messaging
back and forth and just trying to figure out what's
happened do they have somebody else they're really
seeing are they telling you the truth why are they
breaking up professing their undying love
another common occurrence is what i call drunk dialing it's when you try to
win your wife back and forget about everything but you go out and you have
a few drinks and before you know it you're on the phone
dialing up your ex talking to your ex and basically
you know kind of making a fool out of yourself and if you've done that don't feel bad
that happens to so many people you would just not believe
and you know i've been there before too so what do you do
the thing you should do is very very counter intuitive
to what you feel inside to what happens so instead of doing the drunk dialing
the text message terrorism or trying to get in front of them
and trying to win your wife back you got to kind of do what i call it's a kind
of ninja kind of jiu jitsu if you've ever heard
of jiu jitsu or what is it judo
what your want to do is kind of use the force if they're applying a karate chop to you you
want to use that force not against them but you want
to use that force and kind of deflect it
and that is really your first move and you're probably saying what the heck
are you talking about T Dub you just totally confused me
so here's what I mean the first thing you want to do
is you just want to agree with the break up ok
you want to agree with the break up and you may already be passed this point i'm
going to talk about that here in a second
but in a perfect world in a theoretical situation you know they say John you know this is not
working out i'm done i've had it that's it
and what John should do is say you know what you're right i've seen this coming and a break
up is the best thing for both of us
in fact if you could you don't want to overplay it
but what would be really good is if he took that and
went a step further and kind of made that like his freedom
do you see what i'm saying so what he would do
is say you know what i'm glad you brought that up
cause i've been thinking the same thing for a long time
and it's probably the best thing to do. now you're probably thinking well you know
what T Dub i'm way passed that point i've already done
all the text message terrorism i've talked to their parents
i've talked to their brothers and sisters and you know
i've kind of put myself in a bad position so what do you do now
well there's a lot of different opening moves but one of the most
effective ones is just to write a short handwritten letter
and just say hey you know what i was kind of acting kind of
crazy but you're exactly right i agree that we should split up
should be broken up and it's probably the best thing
for both of us and that is your opening move
right there it's an opening move it's not it's the like the opening chess move
it's not the end of the game or anything but you have to get on their side you have
to agree with them you have to let them go before
their ever going to want to come back there's a lot of reasons why this works
one of them is that people want what they can't have
we all know this and it works in other fields to
in finances in banking when is the hardest time to get credit
when you have zero credit they don't want to give you credit if you
don't have any credit it's only if you have money
you know that they want to give you credit or if you have credit they'll give you some
credit so it's a tought situation the same with jobs
how do you get a job if you don't have any experience
you got to have that experience first and there's some point
in there when you just have to get some traction there
but that is your opening move and what the rest of my course
the magic of making up does is take that opening move
and tells you where you should go from there but just that opening move is extremely helpful
and i've seen it bring back alot of relationships just by getting that opening move out there
and saying hey you know what i agree with the break up
i'm calm i'm cool you don't say i'm calm i'm cool but
you want to give that tone that your calm and your cool
and your collected about it and you're right hey
you know what you're exactly right it's the best thing
both of us could have done let me give a little example really really
quick i had a guy just email me he was set to go
to the bahamas with his girlfriend he was quite frantic
he's a really nice guy but he was quite frantic his girlfriend has told him just recently
that i'm mean it's not funny but she told him just recently
that she wanted to still go to the bahamas with him but just
go as friends now this fellow now i'm not going to tell
you his name wrote me and said hey what do i do should
i take her along and take her along just as friends you know
we're not really broken up and the first thing is when a girl
tells you they just want to go the bahamas as friends you're
broken up ok so what he should do is not even cancel
the trip you see all of his friends are telling him
to cancel the trip and you don't even want to cancel the trip
what you should do is say hey you know what you're right
and i've been thinking about doing this break up
you know what i'm going to do is don't worry about the
bahamas i'm going to take a friend and he doesn't have to
say who it is i'm going to win your wife back in the bahamas
and we're going to go down and have the time of our lives
and that would be his opening move now i know you're sitting there thinking
oh my gosh what bout you know who's the friend if she asks who the friend is you just say
i'm not sure yet you just kind of leave that open
you're ok with the break up you're going to go on and
continue with your live and in fact you're going to go on
and make your life fabulous so if you're already beyond that point
try that letter handwritten don't text message it
don't call them and tell them just write them a really fast handwritten
letter and fire that off to them
and you want it to be that you're ok with the break up
you say hey you know you're right that's the best thing that both of us could
possibly do and that is your opening move and then you've
got to get with yourself and be ok with it yourself
once you do that you're on the right road and it works and it works very well
i hope this video helps you please read on down beneath you'll find some
other really helpful stuff there there's another win your wife back video below
this and i look forward to talking with you in the future
and drop me a letter if you want to i'd sure like to hear
from you i try to get to all of them but sometimes i'm just
over man they just come in to fast so i love to help folks
out though and i've got my contact email address let me here
from you talk to you later bye bye.