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Hi everyone, this is Laura Jones. Welcome to the very first episode of link to yourself
coffee chat. Today we're going to talk about something that everyone struggles with, which
is what do you do when you don't get what you want?
We all have this happen to us, almost every day, sometimes multiple times a day. Sometimes
it's big things, sometimes it's little things, but it's always something. We always have
this expectation of, what do I want to happen, and if it doesn't happen, you're like *thumbs
down*. So how do you deal with that feeling, that frustration and disappointment, and *thumbs
down*... how do you deal with it? Well, I'm going to tell you!
So, the very first thing that you have to do, is think, what is the need that this desire
within myself would have fulfilled. If I had gotten what I had wanted, how would I have
felt? If you were to have gotten the promotion you wanted, the job you wanted, the guy you
wanted, you know, that particular response from a person, how would you have felt? So,
now, you know, you're probably feeling the opposite of that, you can work from there
if you want, but what is the underlying need that this would have fulfilled?
So that's part number 1... part number 2 is where is this need lacking in your life? Why
do you feel like you need this? So, let's say that, if you had gotten the promotion
that you wanted you would have felt, say, respected. If you had gotten the guy to respond
to you in the same way, you would have felt desired and wanted. If you had gotten that
particular response from your friend you would have felt respected.Where are you not feeling
respected in your life right now? So if you were to take that and to think, what part
of your life are you not feeling respected in? So take that word, that need that you
identified... I need respect, I need desire, I need to feel good enough, and think... what
is the part of your life where you're missing that the most? It's going to be a gut feeling,
it's probably going to be the first thing that comes into your mind. Don't over think
it!
The third thing that you need to do is take that need now and think, what can I do to
fulfill that need? Because the key to solving this is not relying on external events, as
you know, but... it all comes from inside.
So, there are two things here that may be at work, so there are two questions that you
have to ask yourself. First of all, is this something that always happens? Do you always
feel that way? Is this something that always kinda... no one respects me, no one loves
me, I'm never good enough... is this something that always happens? Is this a pattern in
your life? If it is, then is this something that you believe about yourself? Do you hold
true about yourself that you are not good enough? Do you hold true about yourself and
your life that you're not safe? Do you inherently believe that you're not respected, and respectable?
Do you believe that you're not wanted? And that you're not lovable?
If this is true... then, honey, that's just a thought. You have to realize that it's not
a part of who you are, and I know I know this is hard, but it's up to you to change it...
I know... it is up to you to change it though. Take it and change it. Just like you have
adopted this belief for your whole life... and I don't care where it came from. Could
have been your parents, could have been your friends, could have been you, could have been
God. I don't care. It came from somewhere... probably wasn't God. But it came from somewhere.
Maybe it even came from yourself. The thing is, you're the one who's still holding on
to it. So, if you want to let it go, you're the one who's going to have to do that. SO
realize that it's just a thought, your mind is not your self. You have a mind, you are
not your mind, like Eckhart TOlle always says. So, take this, accept it as a thought, something
that you've just been holding on to and carrying in your little life backpack for your whole
life... let it go. If you're having trouble letting it go, let me know, we can try to
cover that in another episode, but for now, just try to let it go. Is it something that's
not a pattern in your life? Is it something that's just been happening recently? Then
you might be stressed! Something may have happened that just made you feel this way.
Think back, what was the event that happened? WHat, you know, are you more busy in your
business, or are you just burned out? Did your boyfriend say something that upset you?
What is it? Do you have to have a conversation about it? Do you have to communicate what
you need more clearly? Do you have to just relax and unwind? What do you have to do?
So... what I want you to do is head on over to linktoyourself.com and in the comments
below tell me 1. What did you want. 2. What need did you fulfill, 3. Where was that need
lacking in your life, and if you're only going to tell me one thing, I want you to tell me
this... what are you going to do about it?
All I can say is, you are amazing. But you have to take charge and you have to own it
and you have to just take responsibility for it. And do what you want with it, let it shine!
So, if you liked this video, like it, share it, and please subscribe to my channel. Don't
forget to head on over to linktoyourself.com and sign up to my mailing list to download
your free Ultimate Guide to a Vibrant Life, and I will see you next time!