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This is Dating Skills Review, Introduction to Dating Advice. This is Part 9 we have
today, How to Improve Your Image.
Many women complain about
guys not taking care of their image,
and this is because image is actually a lot more important to women than it is to
men, just
biologically they pay more attention to it.
You can learn about that in the Psychological Principles episode
that I spoke about last week.
If you don't take care of your image,
you're really up for a bad start. Here are some of the signs.
If you're unfit or overweight, there are just no excuses.
You're not going to get great results with women if either of these apply. Some guys try to
fool themselves about this. Get to the gym.
Start eating healthy. Learn what works and doesn't.
You can't expect to get good results if you don't show that you respect your body yourself.
Never get complimented on their dress sense.
Girls actually give compliments a lot on dress and on image because it's something they're really
interested in. So if you're not getting compliments, it's a
bad sign.
You should be getting at least some compliments. If you're not getting them there is a problem.
Have a boring or outdated hairstyle.
Most guys, get a haircut when you're like 18 and for the rest of
your life that haircut will stick with you. It kind of defines
your generation.
You get it when you're 18, and then from then on it kind of defines you
were from that era. You were 18 on that year
and had that hairstyle.
Now, don't fall into that trap. You can change your hairstyle all the time,
and girls appreciate variety to it.
See buying clothes as a chore.
What we see as a chore doesn't get done properly.
What we see as a chore doesn't get done with enthusiasm and that shows through.
If you see
buying clothes as a chore, that's another signal that
for sure that's going to reflect a bad image
and it's going to affect your performance.
Unsure about how to get clothes that fit them properly.
This is a huge issue for guys. I see it all the time.
Mostly, guys are wearing stuff that's too baggy for them, it doesn't show off their bodies. The
whole point of clothes is to accentuate your body. Check out the male models.
What do they look like? Do they wear huge baggy clothes?
On the same note,
wearing stuff that's too tight doesn't help either.
Always choose safe colors, styles and designs.
Are you always wearing the same colors?
Are you always wearing the same kind of stuff?
You've got to experiment here.
And boring colors like grays, like blues,
like dull greens, beiges, if those are the kinds of colors you're always wearing, then you've got to think out
of the box a bit more.
Don't know the importance of grooming - a huge thing.
Personal hygiene.
Unfortunately, people don't often tell us when there's an issue with this.
But basically, if you're not spending a little bit of time every morning on personal grooming,
trimming,
personal hygiene, then
it's likely going to be an issue and you may be being turned away without you even knowing
because of this.
Some men do take care of their image.
Many of them are models. Actually, there's more
than that.
But yeah, seriously, it's important and
there are men out there who
get better results with women
thanks to working on it and just taking care of it naturally.
So for these guys, they'll get noticed before they even say a word. They'll walk in the room
and girls will be turning their heads.
That's a first impression.
That makes your life easier.
They often get compliments from men and women they know as well as strangers.
Like I said before, compliments - you should be getting them and you'll get them
from both men and women.
People notice stuff.
Enjoy buying and wearing new clothes. Do it with enthusiasm.
To get to that point where you enjoy it, you have to get a bit involved with it.
You have to get to understand it a bit.
That's the way the world works, right? If you understand something you start to
enjoy it more.
So the first step comes with learning, and then comes more enjoyment. Have a flair in matching colors
and patterns.
They play around a bit. They understand how things go together.
Dress appropriately for the situation.
Different situations require different tastes, and different dresses like formal,
informal, more edgy, you can play around with it.
So it's very helpful if you can socially fit in. It shows a bit of social intelligence if
you dress appropriately for situations,
and that's what the best men do.
Are trendsetters of image in their groups
others tend to follow.
Look around in your group and see if you can spot that. This takes place all the time. There's so
much leading and following going on
and this happens in image a lot too.You'll see
it even more with girls, but you obviously are guys.
Make sure you're not following,
if this is happening in your group, that you're not following someone
who doesn't get complimented, noticed, and so on, because it's not going to help you. It's going to take you
in the wrong direction.
Amongst the eight skills we've spoken about in this
nine-part course,
image in fashion is one of the easiest things to start off with to improve your
results with women.
So what are image stills? What can you actually learn to make a difference here? What can you
study? What kind of advice can you use?
Well, the first part is raising your status by modifying your style. So this is
on another level. Once you learn style,
you learn what status is. And we spoke about this in one of the earlier parts of this
course,
how attraction and status are linked together.
So if you can increase your status
using your image, then this is going to help you
become more attractive or you will be more attracted to women immediately.
So this is just an easy win that you shouldn't throw away.
Knowing the essentials of grooming and personal hygiene,
you just have to know those basics. It's amazing how many guys don't bother to learn this stuff.
We don't tend to get educated about it, but I can tell you you can learn these
things pretty quickly.
Appreciate how to dress for different situations.
Understanding what minimum diet and fitness regime keeps you in shape.
It's astoundingly easy to stay in shape.
When you see guys
who are out of shape, it kind of amazes me.
You can make all the excuses you want about jeans and so on but it's
scientifically proven these days that
none of those factors can hold you completely back.
So with just five, 10 minutes attention to a fitness regime everyday
and learning about your diet
and learning the appropriate exercises
you can be in shape and
that really makes a difference. You've got to learn a bit, that's all.
Most guys in a gym don't know what they're doing, and
that's why they spend too much time on it.
If time is one of your issues,
then take heart because it really doesn't take that much time.
Knowing how to buy clothes that fit properly.
The fit thing is, as I said, important and takes a bit
of understanding to get the right look for yourself. You have to just make
sure stuff fits. That can be done with experimentation. You could read about it a
little bit too. It helps. Being able to select clothes that work
together.
There are actually rules in the fashion industry. There's a point system that shows you
what level of complexity, things you can put together,
what kind of accessories you can put together,
and how to use accessories. That's a good point, actually. Accessories - most guys don't use
necklaces, bracelets and other items.
These are really important for fashionable statements
and they're really underused.
Image techniques that subtlely draw more female attention. That includes
accessories.
And the best thing about this is like
based on how you dress and the image you're reflecting,
you can make it easier
for women to come and talk to you. Because
often females, women,
don't really know what to say if they're interested.
But based on the way you dress you can make it really easy.
So if you're one of these guys who don't want to make so much effort approaching, then this is
something that you can do to make your life a lot of easier.
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