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Often you think your child has understood what you've said
but that's not always the case
so often it's a good idea
to ask them to repeat back or confirm
what you've asked them to do
We as his parents did not know how to communicate with him
so that caused part of the distress as well
It was us learning to break things down to take a step back
to make it simple to keep it simple so that he would understand the instruction
the change that you're trying to
to give him. Breaking it down means basically you step back, you say to
yourself look this is not going to happen now
how can I say this? It's not that he hasn't heard the instruction
it's just that he doesn't understand how you've said it or what you're saying
and it may take time
so you look at a different way of breaking down
as simply as you can into parts if needs be, into having to actually do it
yourself to show him what you mean
Some advice that I'd give to parents if you feel that your child hasn't understood
what you've said to them would be to simplify
the sentence, break it down
give the child a bit more time
and even draw pictures to show them what you're
trying to explain to them
Ben was having quite a few difficulties with
forming good friendships
with other children because of his difficulties
we felt that if we engaged with the parents
and the friends and actually got them to understand these difficulties
etc
then it was really good and it was up front and it really helped
I think it's very important as a parent that you make your child aware that even though they
have these difficulties
there's also lots of other things that they can do and that they are good at
I'd say the best thing would be to give
your child time
to communicate with you
so they can think about what they're going to say, how they're going to say it
we're often in such a rush, so just if we give them the time then it'll just make everything
a lot easier.