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What's up guys, it's Steve
with the Ultimate Pickup Artist Convention. I'm here with Matador.
How ya doin' Steve? Good Matador. How you doin'.
Good. Good to see you again. Listen, for guys who don't know you
tell them a little about who you are and a little bit about your background.
Sure. My name's James Matador. I've been involved in the
dating coaching industry since 2004.
uh...
One of the authors of our book
Revelations, one of the
community favorites.
and I've just been
involved the community since then
trained
at this point
I'd say thousands of men. How'd you get started?
i get started as a good question orderly come from no one really plans right i i
i i come from academic background
what school for computers with school for business
and
personally i filled with the satisfied my social life
so
i got involved
and this man is still in operation today
but uh... guy by the name of doctor love i don't know if you know who
carlisle
first piece of checked around nineteen ninety nine
and uh...
he had something called three cd's
uh... attraction when
when approaching
women confidence
control and challenge
*** which returned model but still
applies today abt demonstrate those qualities
to a woman
than omg
there now
c we have something to crow court corner his ideology
i think that there's truth in that but is
very hard apply but still
at that time period
uh... better than nothing
that's was sparked my interest into the soul
and then from there
um...
at that time
the internet
was
full swing
but i don't
ink that online communities
what they are today
at the time
difference subculture starter merger unit one of them
was
whatever you choose to call it
this subculture of guys looking
to improve their social life improved their
life with women
started to emerge in one
i remember once i don't want you was a site that catered to asian men
there is no sonya are living in the second there is no site
premium
butts and i was in exile add to it and there's a cycle of players guy i don't
know if that's still up
i've heard of it
and there's cycle the players guide
and then um...
approaches
marketing acting then in the business acting and uh... mister
david deangelo i stumbled upon him
and then stumbled upon dot the harsh the crew stumbled upon
the existence of ross jeffries
stumbled upon
the existence of uh...
of lot of direct input as to what not
acgih slowly got into it and then
there's a guy called mystery who is
doing this at a commercial level
uh... i got involved with his camp
and started teaching with him
they've seen you know
him and i and log drops dot their own company two thousand six
and then we start teaching from there
and then started doing this more more full-time
and it's two thousand thirteen right now
have other pursuits as well but
this is definitely made a hell of an impact in my life
meat sold is not
something where it's going to make
resilience and his allegiance of dollars
i think
empower you
to be successful in other fields
so
my other fields *** person the writing
uh... screenwriting in particular
directing
filmmaking
a grails a secret but not a secret but
and area subject area
that's great for learning pickup is the world the screenwriting
and it seems like an odd little place but
the understanding of psychology politics human nature characters
seen politics
needs to be understood
by the writer to tube
recreate a little piece of reality
and you can con in situ parallels between what's happening in a pickup of
what's happening in screenplays
and you can kind of
not kind of you can
the interaction if you know how to write it down
and so
ideas for a lot of the art form
it's allowed me baat might my particular province not that
was never experienced a women are never dated a beautiful woman it's just that
house cover-up the asl
sales outlets ice or some kind of guy
allowed me
i believe this
land today
is the best version of me that i that i wasn't that
that i was able to summon
and i think picked up enabled me to
to to to let that side of me loose so
i come to these conventions i do these things uh...
na pretty monetary gain
well i've also works in a turf
dot his prominence in body building which unload bodybuilding
it teaches me disappointed to disney
hard work
job
when the body
is in tip top shape
you feel like you have energy feel like your self-respect self-esteem
your fashion
comes together better
so he's one of my aside from any indiscretions that he has i still have a
lot of spectral
so after he transcended the sport of bodybuilding he can much bigger than
that a worldwide icon
he's still
whatever he's being aborted by interviewers or *** to speak at events
of anybody from also fitness or anybody from flex approaches them he make sure
they come up to the front line my point is he always goes back to the body
for as much as pick up
has given me social dynamics is giving me i like to come do these things
because
heavily so i have the opportunity
to speak
help people one person is word or give back the one person in a way that really
mean erratic or level
because uh...
uh... this is space and dramatic the virtue there are a lot of
people out there locked inside of themselves
wanting to do you do want to
fun love
and people would say that's what this whole place is about
we do things too
move closer towards lols
and avoid pain you know there's there's there's there's a whole period
and uh... it
the opportunity to serve you up to help
that is
really gratifying
and sometimes you sit back and you say where is it out what might do it with my
life
because *** all what did my
existence you mean
quite big
i'm very good metric to measure try to comment
what would meeting of what your life that is how many people you had to bill
your
technopark that whatever
and pick up was the vehicle the let this little
marla itself
be able to do that
and so i'm really grateful for that
now you also
opti did introduce me to the production side of pain
it's not a one big party
i got this question as to me the other day
hahaha bright red lazy
shooting the pickup artist walk
it was a great experience
if you're thinking if it was one big daddy was not one bit better you know
if you're taking how many times did we get a chance to go talk to a tease
are very little
because literally it's op wake up at six o'clock in the morning
and you're in bed in if you don't
you don't look like *** from the camera millions of people the next day
and you're gonna get your *** shootout
so it's not one big party
by season too
we had gained a little notoriety to where it goes
becoming a very difficult to go to places where uh...
dulled their premises people
we're not supposed to know where they're in the first place
that met we can even leave the hotel
i'd like to
be able to tell you it was it was funny it was a great opportunity
intransigent distort flawed it was
i can't say that it was
nothing but hard work
works stetson inside here
since the pig apartment
well that pursuing my degree and boston does film school
and ob
bobby died shortly
and i
i have uh...
plan to be working on my first feature
a fourth quarter this year
i have to do a good premises in mind
and i want to start from
not only being
story by
myself without rewriting the screenplay of myself
evading schools tommy
is that it's not
yet for a one man it is not only a collaboration of many talented
departments billy talented people
steve and that you need to
acquired on crew
your own team
who knows what the production designer
the uh... art department
the cinematographer or the writer of the director and all that
alike to serve the capacity of the screen writer in the director
i have a lot of respect for summits are iffy but i can't do everything
so ob
i find it to be
a level of challenge that excites me
i feel that
at a core level i enjoy entertaining people
anti fillets right on my own ticket wait to get started on it
sold europe it it's bigger than
i haven't seen you speak and many of the
mental collapse
well you know
i think i've got it
i dont chance at maturity
duty are from our casanova crew
couple years ago
is always a nice guy
abby's or is one of the guys that you see this
normal to me
uh...
my business dealings with him whatever he calls me we've got to stop straight
with each other on the phone
noted that genders no ***
i see a waitress people
and
is get great leadership already runs a organization
screws team respect them
i think last year or two years ago we ask you to come down just to a
small-time
casanova crew function i got to go there and one thing you'll notice about the
casanova proof oceans
those guys got this attitude where
they just want to know what works
not the ***
and they're serious about the training
and it's a great environment itself
it's a pleasure to speak
so i i like it up i like his organization like the attitude about the
whole thing like the guy so
um...
he invited me to speak
uh... diet heights updated
doesn't for two
now are give us a little insight
what i'm going to teach is
this year or the comprehensive amid all the fundamentals
the stuff that we would talk about
two thousand four two thousand five
for that time periods all the idea all the ideology that developed out of time
period but also
d_n_a_ gotta remember like
route learning
everyday just like anybody else
different crafts different pieces of the puzzle come together
i think there's a lot to be said about
measures that here's a subject area that excites me
court character development
called naturals
and how to become a natural
and i go back to my reference about screenwriting when you're a screenwriter
you'll have to invent
characters
you have to give them a worldview you have to give 'em about that
you have to give them a psychology
a set of beliefs
fundamentally
when we're talking about the couple we're doing pickup
which i'm a
a type of man distracted to win
so we've identified one character
instead of juice mimicking of hurting
our game
tactics
and moves
that this man would say
i was always curious as to why he would say these
at that precise time
and in that context
and if you ask the question why which is a very
underestimated questions simple question a very powerful why did he said
why did he say this statement that seemed to go off so well
well deeply divided he said it because he believes this belief
make sense yet
at if u
engage in that thought process
you could kind of put a composite together above of a comprehensive set of
beliefs that this guy believes
when it comes to women when it comes to a nightclub environment when it comes to
his
place in this world
in relation to hers and vice versa dynamics between men and a woman
and for example like
uh... i give you a perfect example
there's a notion of sure you've heard this one that girls like ***
uh... i i i disagree
i think if you really were an ***
officially
the word
not define problem
i think it could mean maybe having
a healthy sense of self respect
a healthy sense of right and wrong
of
any allowance of a commitment time and energy to take care of yourself
to get your needs met as well as hers
the word itself it doesn't mean i'll submit it
and it's subjective because he did you say that word and the perceive rrsp
hears it
he arrested just go through every movie hero every guy that he thinks is a nasa
lanny any stress acting that way implements of all
so my point is
is i'd like to talk about poor character velvet what that means in hammering
together
a blueprint of this character so when you go out
your moves come out right on time
so much relying on justice trip
would like to say that i do not totally disregard routines or have no respect
routines
to be there like
starter matches to starting a campfire
you got to have real were literate fuel the fire to get a report in place
unanimity
backed up
uh... and for our new practitioner they're very essential
chart he can't develop a court character in or ingest you know a couple of hours
have support character development combined with uh...
a lot of psychology and entertainers were one of focus on
delivers the fundamentals like i said
so people
ideally what i would like to do is give a higher level of awareness as to what's
going on in a pickle
but also walking out that door
if i can't help it
walking up that door there are better off
after listening to what i had to say
and have something in their back pocket that they can use that night
villard in that short of that it's all just us getting up on stage china look
handsome
talking fortune yet i mean that's gotta be something in it for the audience
wanting to come
in a minute
installing those
let me correct uh...
respectfully correctly
is not that
adopted we so they households i'd leave asl is a
misused words
i believe it actually mean something else yet so
i don't i can't agree that elegy what i'm saying is
if i'm here you quickly how do you drop those police dept
that's a very good question actually wanna write a form thesis on how to
commit to believe
i know can be done let's take extreme belief like giving your life or cause
like a lot of our
servicemen and women the right
a human being is for principle is willing to give his life
proves that human beings can't commit to a belief
sense in the air and so
commitment heavy
it can be done
so what can we not commit to
believes they have less dire consequences such as
i am good enough
i don't give up
damn about what's gonna happen without constituency as a i work in b dot
uh... at this moats at moment in time who i have an algorithm out how to do it
no but i believe it exists
accepting that's in my act journal actually in my action on the side
my research bucket is just
overflowing with stuff
but it's definitely literally an article how to commit to believe
is that uh... that if there is the key to that
that we could actually just updating the police is starting to do it
found suitable
we're all the possible
i believe it
core level
i'll speak for myself
i feel that a lot of things
anytime i just hit that switch wesak i'm going to achieve this no matter what
it's happened maybe hiking count on a handful of times of what was achieved
insists that where zone
rare zona focus intensity driving passion
great state to be and when you have a task at hand
lot of people can summon intact
and if he can get to that
you could do things that you normally thought you could not do
and i was thinking about meeting at the committed part of our wide-eyed
when i got to pick up lights literally practice six nights a week i thought was
the greatest thing of the world
and i said to myself i'm going to
is mighty good talking about so i'm gonna be the best in the world at this
that's not for me to say that's for somebody else to say
my inner drive is a menacing who's out there who's operating ominously how will
their
and i'm going to compete with
you know i'm not gonna sit here and
right myself
that easy to do it and also
abis source
as for somebody else to say
i'm not gonna tell you that
the drive to want to be above average
the drive to want to live up to your potential
does coincide with the help the ego
you don't tell me let me go and you want to be number one itself
not the committee meeting to be doing some special
right so
this year's dementia reverie picking
one candidate out the crowds
to go through
more advanced
thorough more training
uh...
to get his skills up to speed
it's up to fits a view to drop or they want to take the training
but to go out and get training and to really get good and speak at next year's
dimension
as to what their journey was like
something um...
will be a gift to the crowd
something that would be exciting assad test the waters
that such a because truth be told you that you can make great results in a
boot camp you can be i'll putting
to really excel rate you want to go out with a guy day after day after day at
the state month after month after month
and we'll take you now shave off years
uh... what normally take for paying for services over and over
who's going to become
for the part of
that over time day
time but basically the glow is to get them
to a point where they have
irrefutably solve this problem
well appreciated columbine
yeah uh...
with a seven eight of you
so you liked it involved with the kabar scan base and go to you
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give more information
hi guys that were to meeting you there